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Don't get me wrong by the title, but ever since I've read the spoiler doing the rounds about Shagun being the surrogate for Ishita & Raman, I cannot stop wondering as to why are IshRa even exploring the option of their baby, or rather why are the CVs exploring the option of IshRa's kid?
There could be 2 different reasons:
- They want IshRa to have their own biological child, someone they can claim born out of their love.
- They want Ishita to experience motherhood in all its physical and emotional sense, and Raman to give her this gift of motherhood.
If it is option 1, surrogacy as an option is fine. However, if it is option 2, which I remember WAS Raman's viewpoint when he gifted her that medical report on their anniversary, then surrogacy itself is not an option, let alone Shagun being there to help. Because Ishita will neither be able to explore those 9 months, nor give birth to the new-born through her own body.
Lets assume its reason 1 - They want Ishita & Raman to have their own biological child. Fair enough, every couple wants that at some point in their life. But if that indeed is the case, why Shagun?
Leave aside Shagun being a shallow woman who left her husband and a 6 months old daughter for the riches, poisoned her son against his father every chance she got, and even tried to use her son's mental condition to her gain. Let us assume she was good at heart, was as saintly as she's shown to be today.
My question is, even if Shagun is the ideal woman out there, how can a wife tolerate her husband's ex-wife bearing her own child? The ex-wife is someone who her husband was close with - physically, mentally and emotionally. This is a huge blow not only to the husband-wife relationship, but also to an insecure woman who thought she's found her destination, and to the broken man whose nighmares of his previous wife were replaced by sunshine. Just the thought of her bearing the child is sickening enough, irrespective of her good / bad traits.
In one of the interviews, DT & Anju Mahendru said that the reason why women connected with this show was because of Ishita's condition. Isn't this plot mocking Ishita & all her struggles, along with Raman's reason & desire of having a kid with her. I understand the TRP audience loves such intense dramatic, improbable tracks. RSA said in one of his interview that this is own of the most progressive shows that's ever produced. But, is it? Progressive is not just tackling infertility & surrogacy at the face of it. What about the emotional consequences of all these issues?
The key binding element of this show, which attracted viewers, is the baseline story - of a scorned, divorced man with a li'l child unable to take of his kid, a woman who cannot bear a child, and a child who has never known parental love playing the cupid for the other two.
While everyone is looking forward to Ishita's pregnancy and IshRa's kid, this is one of the worst ways this is being considered. I'd rather Ishita remain infertile throughout her life, and remain a mother to Adi & Ruhi. This could have been the most beautiful track to this story, considering it sits at the crux of one of the protagonists, or it can go completely wrong.
So the question is, Should IshRa have a baby for Ishita to experience the joy of giving birth for the first time in her life? Or for Shagun to experience the joy of giving birth for the third time in her life?
Sorry about the long rant and harsh words, but needed to get it out of my system. Would love to hear everyone's views on this đ
Disclaimer: I'm not against surrogacy as an option at all. In fact, I'm a huge fan of advancements in this area, medical as well as societal. However, just the idea of someone's ex-wife carrying his current wife (& soulmate)'s child is abhorrent.
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