Bhallaji parents need to be fair too *Combined reply pg 9*

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Posted: 10 years ago

#91

Originally posted by: beckysharp
Where Sarika is concerned, yes her back ground and her past experience has come into play and she distrusts all at Bhalla house. Unfortunately, she has no choice but to trust Romi to become the man she wants him to, though I wonder whether she really trusts him or not !

@Bold : Rinki and Romi will need some serious groveling to get back onto the right path. What I have really hated was Rinki referring to Ishita and IS AURAT and Raman as THAT MAN. How could she have even thought of spewing such venom on Raman who has been the one to sponsor her studies in Australia, encouraging her to be her own person. I hated it when she referred to Mihir as spineless...

Romi hearing Rinky's venom and Sarika's half heard conversation, was equally venomous to Ishita. They need to really really repent for their hateful words that they have spoken against the two people who have given their all for the family.

As for Mr. Bhalla, he too needs to realize that he has been unfair with his oldest progeny and his spouse !

Lets see how this track unfolds. IshRa definitely deserve an apology from all in Bhalla house.

Rinki crossed her line, big time...there is no way to apologize for what she said...as for Romi, his words were equally bad, but he still had an MU...ofcourse that doesnt mean he can say whatever he wants...esp to a Bhai n a Bhabhi who have loved him like their own child...but still, in the end, its an MU...but for Rinki, its not even that excuse...she is just not listening to any reasonings...and not only insulting Raman n Ishita, but even trying to break Mihir away from Raman...she knows that Mihir is probably the only trust worthy guy Raman has...and with people like Ashok n Suraj around...she doesnt care two hoots bt Raman n Ishita...i really wish they never forgive her...cause she doesnt deserve it...

as for Mr.Bhalla...i honestly think, it was high time, he spoke up...i mean there were times Raman was so rude to Ishita...Mr.Bhalla shudve intervened long back...Raman does have anger issues, n he needs to curb it...which was Bhallaji's point...which i agree...but his mistake was that the rule was only for Raman...that day, had he stopped and scolded Rinki, as well...that wudve been a fair intervention...even with Romi, his harsh words were only for Raman, which were unfair...and his behaivor with Ishita, was totally out of line...esp when all this while he has only supported and loved her as his own daughter...so that behavior without any reason was totally out of character...

and while he needs to apologize to Ishita for that behavior...but i feel he doesnt need to apologize to Raman, cause after all said n done, he is Raman's father...who not only raised him, but also gave him a good education etc, to make it big in life...so i personally wudnt like it if he has to say sorry to Raman...but yes there are other ways he should show Raman that all his kids are equals for him, n he isnt unfair towards Raman...

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Aani

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Posted: 10 years ago

#92

Originally posted by: sunitas123
Thanks Aaani for your kind words. I understand exactly what Raman and Ishita are going through since it is very close to my life as well.

Kahani ghar ghar ki - makes me feel that nuclear families are better...atleast each person is forced to be responsible...

Sunita like you said its KGGK, though I have never lived in a joint family but well lets just say the story is close to home 😳

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Aani

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Posted: 10 years ago

#93

Originally posted by: avni_19

Aani, Absolute Brilliant take on Parenting.👏👏👏 There is a saying, You should learn to be a good listener. I would say even in crisis. It would reduce the MU level.

Regarding Romi and Sarika... I agree with you more than a % , because that's bound to happen... I predict that Romi would be telling to his wife Sarika.."Agar Raman bhai hota yahan, yeh sab nahi dekhna padta...He has not let us down or made obvious of any financial tension". I am waiting for this day.

Thanks Avni 😊

Oh sweets your prediction seems to be coming true at the speed of lightning by what was shown in SBB today Romi already is making up with Raman no doubt because he is worried how will he manage the bills - his mother just handed him the maintainence bill and this is just the beginning of things - what with electricity, phone, gas up next not to mention groceries and other things always needed in a household. So he tucked his tail between his legs and turned a lamb 😳

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beckysharp

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Posted: 10 years ago

#94

Originally posted by: anjs

Rinki crossed her line, big time...there is no way to apologize for what she said...as for Romi, his words were equally bad, but he still had an MU...ofcourse that doesnt mean he can say whatever he wants...esp to a Bhai n a Bhabhi who have loved him like their own child...but still, in the end, its an MU...but for Rinki, its not even that excuse...she is just not listening to any reasonings...and not only insulting Raman n Ishita, but even trying to break Mihir away from Raman...she knows that Mihir is probably the only trust worthy guy Raman has...and with people like Ashok n Suraj around...she doesnt care two hoots bt Raman n Ishita...i really wish they never forgive her...cause she doesnt deserve it...

as for Mr.Bhalla...i honestly think, it was high time, he spoke up...i mean there were times Raman was so rude to Ishita...Mr.Bhalla shudve intervened long back...Raman does have anger issues, n he needs to curb it...which was Bhallaji's point...which i agree...but his mistake was that the rule was only for Raman...that day, had he stopped and scolded Rinki, as well...that wudve been a fair intervention...even with Romi, his harsh words were only for Raman, which were unfair...and his behaivor with Ishita, was totally out of line...esp when all this while he has only supported and loved her as his own daughter...so that behavior without any reason was totally out of character...

and while he needs to apologize to Ishita for that behavior...but i feel he doesnt need to apologize to Raman, cause after all said n done, he is Raman's father...who not only raised him, but also gave him a good education etc, to make it big in life...so i personally wudnt like it if he has to say sorry to Raman...but yes there are other ways he should show Raman that all his kids are equals for him, n he isnt unfair towards Raman...

I am sorry I don't know your name so I am addressing you as anjs

I don't want Mr. Bhalla to apologise to Raman at all. What I want him to realize is that why was he so quite when Raman was screaming at Ishita ? Remember Raman's dafa ho jao ? He should have tightening his reins at that time. He felt bad when Raman was aggressive with the daughter, why did he not shout at him at the time when he told Ishita to get out ?

As for Rinki, yes I agree. She does not deserve forgiveness. She has not just crossed the line, she is so far away from the line that there is no turning back. She insulted Ishita, Raman and Mihir. She is so sucked up currently in her avarice she has not realized her folly. This is the same brother who worked hard and spent his hard earned money to send her abroad to study.

Mr. Bhalla, has played an important role in two most important tracks of YHM. One when he got IshRa married and second here, where the role of family patriarch, older son and his wife and the responsibility of family being questions !

Though it is heart renching to see Raman in this stage, may be now if Mr. Bhalla sits down and talks to him about controlling not only his temper but also what he says, would be an fantastic outcome !

Hopefully, this track comes to an end in a manner that leaves us happy and not dissatisfied as usual !

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-Anku-

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Posted: 10 years ago

#95

Amazing posts here guys. Lovely reading some wonderful discussions and write ups on parenting. YHM definitely has a wide variety of parenting and parents both 😆

Here the parenting plays a huge role. Like Aani points out. Because of all the mess Shagun caused in the family while she was there. Romi and Rinki were neglected. Romi grew up to be a brat and Rinki grew up without being taught the real value of things. Sarika here, if a positive character is also someone who does not have a consistent life, a family or anyone whose given her the sense of security woman or girls have in a normal house. And she has every reason not to trust the Bhalla's because of all that happened when they found out about Romi and Sarika. She's fearful of losing her stand, place and security in Bhalla house and her misunderstandings and reactions are all a result of that.

Coming to Mr Bhalla. He's wrong, he hasn't heard Raman out, decided whatever he had to on basis of a few words he heard and judged every situation with the same notion thereafter. But as someone who has lot of elderly people in her house. I know, how old age is very similar to childhood. Our elders get insecure as they age. They think they're about to lose the importance in the house because their family is settled and earns for themselves, decide for themselves too. Their jobs are done, and no one needs them for anything. Plus as time passes children get busy in their lives and have less time for their parents or grandparents which makes them lonely, angry, sulky 😆 And Mr Bhalla is on the threshold of the same.

Nothing of this justifies his actions and reactions. But just because he's a mature man of above 60, it doesn't mean he isn't allowed to flaw.

I am just not going to in anyway justify Rinki though- That woman deserves a very good lesson, in the harshest way possible.

This is at the end of the day a daily soap. So I am not exactly expecting a brilliant conclusion in terms of script. Because the treatment given to conclusions are always shorter and quicker in comparison to laying the tracks. But I only hope that the family does realize how hard Raman works for each one of them and that he doesn't over power them, but loves them. And of course, they all need to learn to value Ishita and Raman for all that they do for the family ignoring themselves and their own life.

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-Gan-

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Posted: 10 years ago

#96

I'm loving the discussions guys!!! Just throwing in my feelings about Sarika

About Sarika she has always displayed inconsistent behavior when it comes to financial security because I believe of being on her and fending for herself for a long time ... She did that during Param kaand, she did it during Mani track.. She's doing it now.. She comes around though as she's shown to have a conscience... Even the other day she's pleading with Romi and was ready to apologize to Raman when she saw them leaving ...I think more than being insecure about Ishita's position in the house, her insecurity is relating to having her and her son's needs taken care of .. Remember she gave Romi a condition of earning Rs 30000 a month in order for him to have Rohit with him...and going by her actions,rinki's words created a dent in her mind.. Together with her own insecurity about financial stability ... She tends to doubt whether Ishita and/ or Raman really cares for her and Rohit ...and thinks of the worst possibility when it comes to them and tries to ensure that Romi is cognizant of taking care of them, her and her son... Her intentions are stemming from her need for having a financially secured life ..and she somehow feels after Rinki's words and her own MU seeing Ishita paying for Vandu's daughter's clothes but giving Rohit old used clothes, that Raman and Ishita do not care for them... And she has been shown to be one who gets influenced easily.. Be it because of money( Param initial months) , pressure ( putting Ishita in jail) or manipulation( Ashok) ... But she usually comes around eventually... So let's see.

Rinki's is a different case altogether.

Edited by -Gan- - 10 years ago

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sunitas123

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Posted: 10 years ago

#97

Originally posted by: MERARAI
Where is ACP Abhishek SIngh these days? He was hanging around the Iyer household and dropping by the Bhallas on some pretext of the other? Now that Sarika is at the Bhallas he's MIA. Why is Sarika nervous about meeting her family members? Skeletons in Sarika's closet?

Since they r form Haryana. to me its appears like a honour killing twist. Daughters aint allowed to marry person of her choice. ACP wnated to find the guy who cheated sarika and take him to task. Howver it is likely Sarika feels that once he finds her he wont let her stay with Romi and her kid...or even get her killed for miti milawing the family's izzat😆

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Aani

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Posted: 10 years ago

#98

Originally posted by: -Gan-
I'm loving the discussions guys!!! Just throwing in my feelings about Sarika
About Sarika she has always displayed inconsistent behavior when it comes to financial security because I believe of being on her and fending for herself for a long time ... She did that during Param kaand, she did it during Mani track.. She's doing it now.. She comes around though as she's shown to have a conscience... Even the other day she's pleading with Romi and was ready to apologize to Raman when she saw them leaving ...I think more than being insecure about Ishita's position in the house, her insecurity is relating to having her and her son's needs taken care of .. Remember she gave Romi a condition of earning Rs 30000 a month in order for him to have Rohit with him...and going by her actions,rinki's words created a dent in her mind.. Together with her own insecurity about financial stability ... She tends to doubt whether Ishita and/ or Raman really cares for her and Rohit ...and thinks of the worst possibility when it comes to them and tries to ensure that Romi is cognizant of taking care of them, her and her son... Her intentions are stemming from her need for having a financially secured life ..and she somehow feels after Rinki's words and her own MU seeing Ishita paying for Vandu's daughter's clothes but giving Rohit old used clothes, that Raman and Ishita do not care for them... And she has been shown to be one who gets influenced easily.. Be it because of money( Param initial months) , pressure ( putting Ishita in jail) or manipulation( Ashok) ... But she usually comes around eventually... So let's see.

Rinki's is a different case altogether.

I agree Gan, Sarika has had a life where it seems she has constantly had to undergo a lot of struggle just to make the ends meet and her past experiences with Bhalla family have certainly not helped her form a good opinion of them either. So when Rinky came accusing Raman (unfairly), a new member in this family saw a sister blame her brother of being selfish and unfair, when the fight got heated Raman asked her to get out...he could have just meant those words that get out of my face now...not get out of this home and never return kinda thing, but how is Sarika to know of that?

When your own blood maligns you how can an outsider trust you?

With a son now, she is concerned about history repeating itself again as she told Romi, that she has had to live a life where even the basic necessities of the life were not easily achieved and the most basic of all is a roof above your head and so she asked if Raman is the owner of this home or your father to Romi.

And since Rinky made it seem like Ishita has brainwashed Raman enough to cheat Mihir out of his due though he is the SIL of the house, how could Sarika not be concerned about herself and her child?

And I think somewhere when she wanted Romi to stop Raman, Ishita and the kids she felt guilty of breaking the family she just entered but also scared that with Raman gone however would the expenses be met, if he leaves so could his money.

The MU she had over a half heard conversation was also due to Rinky and no one else.

As far as the baby clothes are concerned, Romi tried to assauge her that there' nothing wrong in making a baby wear old, worn clothes but she was still chose to hang onto the conversation of the sisters assuming that what they ordered for Vandu' baby girl are clothes...when in the scene either when the sisters were ordering or in the Bhalla house as Ishita spoke about the delivery of the products, it was never specifically mentioned that the items they ordered were clothes, for all we know Vandu ordered some basic baby products and did it online because she is too tired to make a trip to a mall and not convinced of Bala' abilities to chose the proper products

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Posted: 10 years ago

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This episode was one of the most emotional episodes in yhm. Starting off with rinki I do not really understand how she could be turned against her own brother knowing well who he is. Raman sent her to Australia for her studies and spent loads and loads of money for her education. She's not just a small child to be unable to understand how much it costs to gain higher education in a country like Australia. Then again she saw how his brother despite loosing his job tried to fulfill her dream wedding and made it a reality. Then again he asked his own wife to leave the house due to her. I wonder whether she doesn't feel guilty about these.

And the next point is raman giving the company to his wife cannot be any issue to her. When she asked raman that he secured ishitha ' s future but not theirs I found it so ironical coz raman is her brother not father to secure her future. And loved mihir for defending raman and apologising for rinki's words.

Then when it comes to the scene of the scratch mark in rohit's hand obviously adi didn't do it intentionally. Sarika getting angry about it is ok but if she's well mannered she shouldn't have scolded adi on it coz adi is not her son. It is always weird when you scold someone else's child. Maybe the slap was unintentional but she could have said sorry because it was a very harsh act by her towards anyone.

I think raman defending adi is absolutely right. He agreed that it was adi did a mistake but it was unintentional. What raman said was right, if a child did a mistake raising a hand towards them won't do anything. It is always with love a child understands things.

And I find it very odd that romi says that sarika is his wife and Mr. Bhalla saying that she's the bahu. I think it's to be coz they have not married yet. True sarika has her own insecurities about her life due to the past actions of the bhalla family. But for a fact what she should realise is that ishitha and raman was always there for her. They helped her in all means. They played a major role in bringing her to the bhalla house. So I think it's manner less to talk the way she does. And she pointing out that raman gave her money to go away from the bhalla family was when her beloved romi rejected her. And also the other members of the family. The only ones who met her during that time was ishitha and raman. And she could have acted logically by confronting ishitha as to why she asked vandu not to give the business to romi. She heard the beginning of the convo where ishitha said that it was a good thing. And she knew well that she didn't hear the mid part of the convo. She only heard the last part. So instead of filling romi ' s ears she could have asked from ishu.

And Mr. Bhalla acts to be the right person defending sarika when he himself rejected sarika before. He didn't try to make romi or thoshi understand the fault in them. But now acts as a good father-in-law.

It's also ironical as he defends sarika and tells raman that he can't insult the bahu. He was silent when romi misbehaved and insulted both ishitha and mihir who is the DIL & SIL of the house. What I see in Mr. Bhalla is that he is having his parental ego where always parents think that whatever happens what they think is right. I think he acts very immaturely coz for once he didn't have the brains to question as to why raman scolded rinki. Just getting one single point of raman he goes on scolding him. He for once didn't think that the brother who always protected his siblings would have a valid reason to shout out at them.

The decision of raman to leave the house was absolutely right. And even though ishu protested at first and later gave in and supported him was so heart touching. The last scene was really beautiful to see. The support ishu gives to raman is just wonderful.

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Sakshi

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Posted: 10 years ago

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Title says a lot Gan..

Being a senior member of the house it's the moral responsibility of a person to think over the issues and find an appropriate solution to the problem instead of acting impulsively himself. It has hurt Mr. Bhalla a lot when he had seen his family breaking in front of his eyes but has he done something to sort out the differences taking place between his children. He is the father and knows all of them.

Doesn't he know Raman and his aggressive nature but a heart with immense love and care for his family.

Isn't he aware of the immature nature of his daughter Rinki who hasn't clearly yet stepped into a real world?

Doesn't he know Ishita and her devotion for the family and her pure heart?

Isnt he aware of the fact that Sarika is new to the house and wont understand the bond, the people of the house share with each other.

Doesn't he know Romi and his irresponsible nature?

Yet he chose to ignore all the facts and what took over his thoughts was his EGO which clearly says "I can live independently and i dont need my son to feed me".

The responsibility of a father is to make his children gather at one place and talk their problems out. talking would at the end solve more than half of the problems and his children respect him enough that they wont misbehave if he asks them sternly to listen and to express their point of view in a mature way.

Instead of asking Raman to act maturely and talking could solve the issues he chose the point that he hasnt asked him to leave so why would he stop him.

He could have asked him to wait and talk atleast and figure out what actually is the problem that withing few days the beads of the thread of their family have started to diffuse.

He could have tried to find out the actual reason of his children fighting and could trey to explain them their respective mistakes and faults, instead of being judgmental.

It was not expected from Mr. Bhalla we knew for so long..

It's really heart breaking to see your family parting in front of your eyes. Kudos to CVs to bring such a realistic track in action.

Coming to Raman and Ishita..

Raman was hurt and his only support was his wife at the point of time. When he asked her to leave the house and come with her she knew he was taking a wrong step, a major one that could break their family but being a wife she cannot leave her husband alone and it's a wife's duty to be with her husband in all ups and downs of life.. She did same. She knew somewhere down the line her husband is also broken and he needs her and she wanted to be there for him. A perfect bond of husband and wife is shown where both are standing for each other. One defending her from the accusations of the mistakes she never committed and other leaving her house to be there with him, being his support...

Edited by sakshi.ekansh - 10 years ago