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Hey Aani 😃 So just went through the discussions here.
For the first time today I only partly agree with you, which is fine I guess 😆I agree with everything you said in regards to why Ishita needs to be a Bad cop. It's perfectly all right and totally apt that she is the balancing force between both the parents. And I get why she is protective and worried. Her intentions are noble definitely and there is no doubt on her love for the child. But the way she has taken and the reasons for which she is taking extreme steps are not entirely justified. Keeping a strict watch on the child for his betterment and to restrict him is alright but putting a CCTV in his room will lead him to feel that he is not trusted.A child at his age in my opinion should be spoken to as a friend. Sitting down with him and telling him that what children at his age end up doing and what it results into and asking him if he wants the same. More importantly the child should be made to feel that he is trusted, so that his conscious is alert and he thinks twice about what his parents would feel if he made a mistake.Coming to Raman, his words are hurtful and in NO WAY justified, whether we say its unintentional or said in an impulse. BUT is his anger really that wrong? Adi is a growing teen. Yes he is bound to stray and thus a watch is necessary, but by being so possessive won't they end up distancing the child whose just started to bond with them. I find Raman's way a little more relatable if not entirely correct. Like you said Adi has just taken a huge decision by cutting Shagun out of his life and accepting a new family. So like Ishita thinks that could still affect his mind, Raman thinks that being so protective would stifle him. He is being approachable and friendly to make him more comfortable in his surroundings. And at this point though the parents need to be careful because of his history (suicidal tendency, psychological issues, criminal offence etc) he also needs to be assured that his parents trust him. Showing trust will be more beneficial for Adi than to imply that he's being watched.If you've observed I always end up coming to Ishita's defense but this time I can't because what has been shown reminds me of my own personal experiences. I've been through rough phases mentally ( low on confidence, easily stressed) and at such times the more faith my parents showed the stronger I became. But whenever I thought or heard of them being doubtful my confidence in myself dipped to new lows. So although Ishita is in every way justified in her worries and her intentions are absolutely noble, the way she has chosen is very very very wrong and for me nothing justifies it. And hence if the family or Raman is angry at her, THIS only time I do not blame them.Having said that I am in no way justifying Raman's words because nothing absolves him of that mistake, although he did look guilty and I REALLY wish that this time, this fight between them has a logical conclusion.
Great write ups Aani & Anku. I feel so caught on the fence bc they both are so wrong & right, and guess what...I'm loving it! This is YHM - it is grey & real. ❤️
Anku - according to the new OLV, Ishita finally has a voice & questions Raman about why he turns her into a stranger in anger. So maybe we will finally get a proper follow up to these scenes. It seems like they are slowly undoing the mess they showed with the Rinki-related tracks.
I just want both of them to realize their errors in parenting. This shouldn't show that one approach was way better than the other. But them handing their parenting issues should be separated from their handling of this precap fight.
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