Originally posted by: EkPaheli
Ms. Ray thanks once again for being back.
I believe the Shagun-Ashok marraige that never happened track has been the messiest one by far on the show, I dont hope this one tops it, really, really do because that would be an EPIC disaster of sorts, and I wish this were my talking in hyperbole here, really I do.
Anyways, its always good to be prepared in advance and so your warning has been a kind gesture on your part, which we fans really appreciate.
As I went over this thread, I read the responses of the others and would say that if you could please convey to the writing team how the whole 'get out of my home' drama should be addressed, it would be great. This was not just a war of words here, a husband humiliated his wife in front of both their families, which cannot be brushed under the carpet.
The confession scene lovely as it was, seemed disconnected because it was on the heels of this drama which as of now seems to make no sense absolutely - it would have if Ishita had been angry and at her parents' still, had he apologized and then confessed to her, had Ishita not returned to the Bhalla home as if all he did was call her a Paagal Madrasan, as he has done a million times over to tease her or annoy her. This is HUGE Ms. Ray and deserves a scene between the two leads at least if not the families involved.
Women are made to be the center of shows on TV, they play heroines and vamps around whose constant battles the show revolves. Ashok dumped Shagun, the vamp of the show or the parallel lead, whatever you might want to label her as and she waltzes in to make a plan with him and licks his heels to get her daughter to model for one of his products which could help her financially. That this woman has been living in with him for years despite being married gave away the fact she doesnt care about society and their whispers but it also highlights her lack of self-respect as nothing matters to her more than money does. She can have nothing to do with the term, however if the lead of the show insults his wife and she returns without so much as a sorry from him - I dont know what to make of it, arent leads supposed to be the characters people identify with and cheer for, how can one cheer for a man who insults his wife for no fault of hers and later cannot even mouth a sorry to her, how can one even identify with a woman who returns to her husband' home after what he has done and crib about his antics in a stupid competition but NOT address the elephant in the room, that hello, you kicked me out?
Thats just so unpalatable.
If your further points about character growth in Raman are about him becoming more expressive - then its a good thing, if he can come to understand what Ishita must have experienced a year back at the first ever party she attended with him post attending the reunion bash kept by her friends, surely its not much to hope he can even find it within himself that asking his wife to leave home because his sister is being stupid is NOT what he should be doing.
Also I agree with Anku who mentioned the need to make Raman be back to who he was in the earlier days of the show, its what set YHM apart from the league, a hero HAD a voice, he HAD a role, he HAD sense and logic that made him more than a piece of furniture, a prop, an extra standing around. Oh Raman still has his voice, only its used to yell at Ishita now for everything under the sun, he has a role but it involves either crying or yelling some more at Ishita and the others which wasnt him in the beginning of the show, at least not without a reason and his good sense is now used to screw things up royally either by being so thick that he, a CEO, would sign documents without reading leading to a useless drama that ultimately the viewers disliked.
So yes, if character growth can come with the return of his fine qualities it would be very much appreciated. And not just his but that of Ishita as well, even she isnt the same person anymore that she was in the beginning of the show - when Param had tried to molest her and hell broke loose, she was back at her Amma' too but she didnt return until and unless Raman came to fetch her back with a humble apology, this when almost half the family requested her return and this time, just because she is in love with her husband she is allowing him to walk all over her? Really, its not, just not wonderful to watch.
Also I understand that Ishita' side of the confession is being held back for a reason, I just hope its not a melodramatic one with audience around to watch her, rather its private and subtle like Raman' was. Though I expect it would happen only on the heels of some huge drama.
Lastly, I cannot be sure of this but the Simi- Subbu angle seems like a filler to me as KP is away and so Raman cannot be in the picture. To me having Subbu back can only be justified if Ishita' past is explored more, her infertility which led to their breakup and affected Ishita on every level as a woman, which killed her confidence in her feminity, in her womanhood is explored and not because we need an ex who becomes a relative. You have often spoken about Ishita' lack of experience - well doesnt it stem from her infertility? She became unwanted and undesirable to countless men facing their rejection owing to this one aspect beyond her control.
It would be lovely if that is explored on the show - the lack of experience as you term it, is a woman' lack of confidence in her feminity, her sexuality, her appeal as a woman to a man after all...she keeps pushing him away because of this very reason too, that she thinks she will let him down and if that happens she wont be able to handle that blow, not from him...so it would be amazing to see her heal too from this pain someday.
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