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First let me start by saying I am woman myself , but since they are bringing up the track, I just thought to get others opinion on my views.
I agree that rape is wrong, and the culprits should be hanged within a month of the crime being proved but when it comes to marital rape, I cant somehow justify the victim's innocence. The woman in me says its wrong, but the practical side of me wonders what leads to it.
In this case Ashok is shown to be a villian, so Mihika married him undress duress but since she is married him of her own free will or reasons I dont get it why she needs to keep coming up with excuses to avoid sex. Ashok is scared that if he divorces her she will take half of his hard earned wealth (they havent shown him doing illegal things, so I would say hard earned). So basically he is left in a loop, either he stays married to her gets no sex or divorces her and loses on wealth and ofcourse any chance of intimacy with her.
I read an article where it mentioned that women have somehow learned to use marital sex as a weapon or a gift in their marriage. They get upset with their husband, so they withhold intimacy, if they get happy they will shower him with love. If the husband starts withholding money when they get upset, then they will accuse him of abuse.
To me, if you went into a marriage willingly or unwillingly due to no fault of the partner, maybe under family pressure (like Ishra) you really should be doing whatever it takes to make the marriage a success. I have seen two cases in which the girls married nice guys under family pressure where their family hadnt approved of their previous boyfriends and then after marriage they would be really rude and not let the husbands touch them to the point where the marriages ended in divorce and to avoid telling the main reason why the marriages ended the girl's families made up stuff about the boys and their families. In both cases the girls ended up getting remarried to their boyfriends (one eloped, in the other the girls family caved in since they knew she would repeat the same behavior if they married her off to another guy). Poor husbands were labeled divorcees though they hadnt enjoyed a day of marital bliss. I really felt bad for the guys in those cases. Real life doesnt work like the movies where the girl realizes that her husband is so nice and forgets her Bf and accepts him.
In Mihika's case I think Ashok was nice to her until now, but there is no end to her stupidities. God knows what good was she thinking will come out of this. In Ashok's case this marriage was a dud from the beginning, he shouldnt have even bothered getting married to her. Now he will just have to go through the process of divorce without enjoying a day of marital bliss. Forcing himself on her was not the right decision either, but when you are thinking shit I am losing so much - my money, my name anyway what else is left to lose. In AsMi's case, I think Ashok lost more in this marriage. It was a bad deal for him. He should have realized divorce is inenvitable and should have just let her go.
Sorry for the rant, but the article got me thinking- about marital sex. If the man withholds its his fault, if the woman withholds somehow she is not blamed.
I agree that rape is wrong, and the culprits should be hanged within a month of the crime being proved but when it comes to marital rape, I cant somehow justify the victim's innocence. The woman in me says its wrong, but the practical side of me wonders what leads to it.
In this case Ashok is shown to be a villian, so Mihika married him undress duress but since she is married him of her own free will or reasons I dont get it why she needs to keep coming up with excuses to avoid sex. Ashok is scared that if he divorces her she will take half of his hard earned wealth (they havent shown him doing illegal things, so I would say hard earned). So basically he is left in a loop, either he stays married to her gets no sex or divorces her and loses on wealth and ofcourse any chance of intimacy with her.
I read an article where it mentioned that women have somehow learned to use marital sex as a weapon or a gift in their marriage. They get upset with their husband, so they withhold intimacy, if they get happy they will shower him with love. If the husband starts withholding money when they get upset, then they will accuse him of abuse.
To me, if you went into a marriage willingly or unwillingly due to no fault of the partner, maybe under family pressure (like Ishra) you really should be doing whatever it takes to make the marriage a success. I have seen two cases in which the girls married nice guys under family pressure where their family hadnt approved of their previous boyfriends and then after marriage they would be really rude and not let the husbands touch them to the point where the marriages ended in divorce and to avoid telling the main reason why the marriages ended the girl's families made up stuff about the boys and their families. In both cases the girls ended up getting remarried to their boyfriends (one eloped, in the other the girls family caved in since they knew she would repeat the same behavior if they married her off to another guy). Poor husbands were labeled divorcees though they hadnt enjoyed a day of marital bliss. I really felt bad for the guys in those cases. Real life doesnt work like the movies where the girl realizes that her husband is so nice and forgets her Bf and accepts him.
In Mihika's case I think Ashok was nice to her until now, but there is no end to her stupidities. God knows what good was she thinking will come out of this. In Ashok's case this marriage was a dud from the beginning, he shouldnt have even bothered getting married to her. Now he will just have to go through the process of divorce without enjoying a day of marital bliss. Forcing himself on her was not the right decision either, but when you are thinking shit I am losing so much - my money, my name anyway what else is left to lose. In AsMi's case, I think Ashok lost more in this marriage. It was a bad deal for him. He should have realized divorce is inenvitable and should have just let her go.
Sorry for the rant, but the article got me thinking- about marital sex. If the man withholds its his fault, if the woman withholds somehow she is not blamed.
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