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Originally posted by: Nisha0604

I know of a couple at work that "used to date". They are not even high level execs or wealthy, she is the receptionist he works in product packaging & shipping.
They have lunch together EVERYDAY, he sends her flowers for Valentine's they are often seen sharing a snack. I see them sitting in her car and chatting on cold dark evenings when I get out of work, many times I don't notice them I pass by walking over to my car, she rolls her window down and greets me... Which tells me she is not ashamed to be seen with him after she has broken up!!!!!!!!!!!!
The dynamics are extremely different in this country, people stay friends many times long after they stop "hooking up". I know of guys that go over to their "Ex's" place to fix the washer or mow the lawn or repair the roof. The feminists can beat me up, but it clearly shows women ARE NEEDY. They don't mind seeking help from an "Ex".
Or if they are part of a "group" like R&B is... then many times the guy will go sleep at an "Ex's" if he has had too much to drink and doesn't want to drive after a night out.

I am still learning NOT to be judgmental. But yes, I WILL be judgmental about mean Desis.

There are many couples I know of that have parted ways amicably, we never know WHY R&B even dated her, I bet he found something attractive and exciting, to "us" she seems wealthy, bored and aimless. She is not aggressive and ambitious and talented like II, but she must have something that kept him going back to her for 4 years
He was based in Hong Kong at first, when his Mom jumped to her death, he left the country and moved to Paris

ditto to my thoughts i have seen very many amicable splits in US , for me having M in the wedding was kind of not cool because i wanted it to be about R&B and II and II to enjoy as much and if R&B had called her for the wedding knowing how nervous she was that would be a big NO
I honestly feel its not a big deal "now" .
Could be a lot of things that kept him going but i feel M will not be a mean cunning subbu , she will be more casual would have let him be and is normal enough person to come and see his wife and be actually happy for him .
also i dont know if my assumption is right but they were split in Delhi when she visited right?

kya hueee...why so much defence on M Nish ??

Originally posted by: TanjoreGirl

oye u missed me and shev (hsp) we are the ones from day one saying Matt Bomer is our R&B

Originally posted by: Nisha0604

I know of a couple at work that "used to date". They are not even high level execs or wealthy, she is the receptionist he works in product packaging & shipping.
They have lunch together EVERYDAY, he sends her flowers for Valentine's they are often seen sharing a snack. I see them sitting in her car and chatting on cold dark evenings when I get out of work, many times I don't notice them I pass by walking over to my car, she rolls her window down and greets me... Which tells me she is not ashamed to be seen with him after she has broken up!!!!!!!!!!!!
The dynamics are extremely different in this country, people stay friends many times long after they stop "hooking up". I know of guys that go over to their "Ex's" place to fix the washer or mow the lawn or repair the roof. The feminists can beat me up, but it clearly shows women ARE NEEDY. They don't mind seeking help from an "Ex".
Or if they are part of a "group" like R&B is... then many times the guy will go sleep at an "Ex's" if he has had too much to drink and doesn't want to drive after a night out.

I am still learning NOT to be judgmental. But yes, I WILL be judgmental about mean Desis.

There are many couples I know of that have parted ways amicably, we never know WHY R&B even dated her, I bet he found something attractive and exciting, to "us" she seems wealthy, bored and aimless. She is not aggressive and ambitious and talented like II, but she must have something that kept him going back to her for 4 years
He was based in Hong Kong at first, when his Mom jumped to her death, he left the country and moved to Paris

Am not judging, but you talked of 2 Ex-s, do you know if they have partners right now? Being friends is OK. But if R&B knows that II is worrying about M(didnt he say she is in your head?), if I were him I'd make sure to protect her from getting hurt. Which means make sure to explicitly specify to not bring Ex to this party! It doesnt need rocket science to see how out of place n nervous she feels in his world! Its totally R&B's fault if he hasnt tried n been careful about protecting II.

Originally posted by: TanjoreGirl

ditto to my thoughts i have seen very many amicable splits in US , for me having M in the wedding was kind of not cool because i wanted it to be about R&B and II and II to enjoy as much and if R&B had called her for the wedding knowing how nervous she was that would be a big NO
I honestly feel its not a big deal "now" .
Could be a lot of things that kept him going but i feel M will not be a mean cunning subbu , she will be more casual would have let him be and is normal enough person to come and see his wife and be actually happy for him .
also i dont know if my assumption is right but they were split in Delhi when she visited right?

Originally posted by: TanjoreGirl

ditto to my thoughts i have seen very many amicable splits in US , for me having M in the wedding was kind of not cool because i wanted it to be about R&B and II and II to enjoy as much and if R&B had called her for the wedding knowing how nervous she was that would be a big NO
I honestly feel its not a big deal "now" .
Could be a lot of things that kept him going but i feel M will not be a mean cunning subbu , she will be more casual would have let him be and is normal enough person to come and see his wife and be actually happy for him .
also i dont know if my assumption is right but they were split in Delhi when she visited right?

Yes they were broken up

II DID NOT KNOW THAT :) She chose to drive herself suicidal over it :( The week long illness was all about betrayal

That's why she became so sick, II is a strange creature she fell in love, obsessed, pined, craved, married him, lived in his house ALL IN HER MIND. She started "spending her life with the Dude" IN HER MIND long before she actually married him.
If he hadn't proposed she would have done that the rest of her life. He put her out of his own and HER misery by proposing. For some one that's courageous and bold she is chicken when it comes to love.
I don't think its possible to love anyone as much as II loves him right now.

She would KILL him if he in as much as even pretended to care for Marliese

Originally posted by: taara113

kya hueee...why so much defence on M Nish ??

All well ? (still to catch all previous comments so maybe missed the plot)

Il just like II is not very comfortable with the thot of M, same goes for the readers...

I dont know alot of ppl that are gr8 frnds wid their ex, a few i knw are but they are the kinds that are still reaping benefits so staying frnds is kinda ohk...but generally its not that common atleast not for a few yrs, ppl generally break up on a sour note specially aftr 4-5 yrs relationship also considering that she came back to delhi to kind of patch up means she had "feelings" so her turning is a bit questionable; however i don't find his calling weird genrally ppl who hv move ahead find it easier i hv observed...

har koi kya mean vampy hotha hai real life me ?
why should M be this bimbette all mean out with a knife to kill II why cant she be a normal girl who had an affair then left and has moved on and is actually fine with R&B with his wife ..
i have seen soccer games with 2 sets of parents enjoying a game bringing their respective couples and talking .
doesnt mean they stay in each others house but i dont know for me this meeting seems more reasonable than a girl he dated to be a crazy , lunatic 😆
totally my thoughts dont kill me ..
got to go to real life will be back

Originally posted by: harshita27

Ka"M"eeni!! I swear I'll go physically hurt her if she shows up at their door! Bloody! She got no shame kya?!?! The guy broke up with u, if I was in her place main mudd ke na dekhoon aise ladke ko :(
Seriously Nisha!! I dreamt last night that II feels totally lost n is not enjoying the party! I dreamt... Like really?!?! Bloody if M shows up, I wont read this story until
R&B has once n forall discussed n assuaged II's all insecurities with regards to this Ex business. This Clarity II deserves n should get!even if she doesnt ask ab! No matter how much of a non-talker you are, u better not have your parter suffer coz of ur past. N I dont care who invited this trouble. R&B owes this explanation n clarity to II - specially if she has turned up to ruffle a few feathers!
Am angry!! Having a nasty day at work n this knock on door has added to my frustration! 😡

Originally posted by: harshita27

Am not judging, but you talked of 2 Ex-s, do you know if they have partners right now? Being friends is OK. But if R&B knows that II is worrying about M(didnt he say she is in your head?), if I were him I'd make sure to protect her from getting hurt. Which means make sure to explicitly specify to not bring Ex to this party! It doesnt need rocket science to see how out of place n nervous she feels in his world! Its totally R&B's fault if he hasnt tried n been careful about protecting II.

har koi kya mean vampy hotha hai real life me ?
why should M be this bimbette all mean out with a knife to kill II why can she be a normal girl who had an affair then left and has moved on and is actually fine with R&B with his wife .. - THESE LINES aNU...👏👏