Software Symphonies 6--Only 51 & Hair and Nails on 14 - Page 69

Originally posted by: Nisha0604

Rosh,
I am back to usual argument as you can see ;)

When we can do EVERYTHING to please our boss or Professor for that promotion or good grade. Why cant we do the same in a marriage? JUST like everything else NOBODY is ENTITLED to LOVE. You HAVE TO EARN IT

Can someone go into a workplace and say "Oh I am extremely temperamental rude obnoxious, intolerant, selfish and anti social BUT have I a Ph. D so I deserve to get promoted every year and end up a CEO?"

OR

"Go into class and tell the Professor, I have the WORST study habits, I love to cheat, I hate studying, I will not do my home work, wont show up for class, even if I do I will be disruptive BUT I DESERVE an A+ and DESERVE a PhD?"

this so called "love" thing you talk about wont last a day if people are selfish. The first rule of love is generosity, and NO its not generosity with money, its generosity with spirit, with feeling, with emotion...

This thread is moving fast, I just stepped out to run some errands I can see an increment of 5 pages. You go girls👏! From Ranjan to LOVE. Enjoyed reading the comments.

The common denomination I can derive from this we all want basic things from our life partner. That is honesty, compassion,tolerance and a good human being.

The thing to do, it seems to me, is to prepare yourself so you can be a rainbow in somebody else's cloud. Somebody who may not look like you. May not call God the same name you call God - if they call God at all. I may not dance your dances or speak your language. But be a blessing to somebody. That's what I think.

Maya Angelou

I have enjoyed very few books from this author honestly but some of her some of prose has stayed me, It's not easy to say to give control to someone, everyone has reservation but one should be open to an idea to that idea. Fresh air only comes in the house if open the window, the very same way one has to open their heart to find love.

As long you are able to distinguish between ego & self-respect a relationship can work. Marriage or for that matter every relationship is a work in progression. People often forget that, hence its leads to misery. We don't take our 401K lightly as it's our future...on the same token never take a relationship for granted. Above mentioned lines from Maya Angelou sums it very well.

Originally posted by: Nisha0604

OK I married YEARS ago and it was arranged

I DO NOT SERIOUSLY know what 20 somethings define as LOVE

WHAT is LOVE?

Originally posted by: Nisha0604

Rosh,

Most parents in the last 20 years raise their kids like yours have. The rules of TV watching etc don't apply in many homes, sex? its still taboo Yes... at least in Iyer families but the other things don't... much, so I can understand...

To be able to sacrifice is a beautiful thing, if you think of it as CHORE or a PUNISHMENT, then marriage is not for you.

A person CANNOT carry his/her "professional/educational/financial/wealth achievements" all their life. Life is MUCH bigger than that. Being all that does not mean you CANNOT be any others. They are not mutually exclusive. Case in point Indra Nooyi or Chanda Kochhar CEO of ICICI Bank, Vijayalakshmi Iyer CMD Bank of India, to name three of millions of successful over qualified wealthy smart MARIED Indian women. They manage massive corporations, are married AND RAISE KIDS. Women that have never held a job that have navigated the ropes of joint families in India gotten dozens of boys and girls married in the husband's side of the family are greater achievers than the women I mention above.
Even Mark Zuckerberg married and Steve Jobs did too... having a great mind does NOT mean its incapable of sharing and caring. A genius brain is not the be all and end all in the world.
In fact inability to share and care limits a person.

I BET the CMD of Bank of India married into a Iyer joint family, raised her kids AND climbed the ladder to be a CMD.



You cannot wear your professional achievements like a medal UNLESS you want to hide behind it and say "Since I am an over achiever in XYZ corporation" "I am an over achiever in academia" "I am too smart for love or too smart for marriage". I DON'T understand your statement that since you are too intelligent and an over achiever in your profession you will be unable to "give" in other relationships

As a parent I will be deeply disappointed if my boys come to me and say "Oh! I am an over achiever in every facet of life I am too caught up in my own sense of achievement I have nothing left to give to marriage or any other relationship. No Professor or No CEO LIVE at their office. For being able to create a HOME all you need is courage and compassion. You could be straight Fs a high school drop out and make minimum wage... it does not matter

Originally posted by: TanjoreGirl

@Nish sorry diverting from the topic what do you think of our petition :-)
also taramiras requests which i totally love

1)Since II has very clearly categorized that she will only marry R&B, it would be great to see her being a strong anchor for the family. can we please have II put Sam's fears to rest that she is with them, despite what Appa feels about this relationship?

2. Oh how I want to see II go to pick up R&B from the ariport. please please please...

the die hard romantic in me keeps creeping up.

3. and of course to see Ranjan come out of this clean, with proof that it was chachu and his scheming family's doing.

Originally posted by: Divashni

I'm a 20 something living with five other 20 somethings, 3 of whom are in steady relationships and 1 in a new fledgling one 😳, all six of us are obsessed with this story...so I'll try to sum up some of what was shared in our apartment.

1) "Love is a flurry of emotions" - Emma

2) "Love is being able to sit next to each other in silence and just feel completely at ease." - Vasu

3) "Love is throwing a tantrum, feeling like a complete idiot afterwards, and laughing about it in the end. Love is having eyes for the last cookie in the box and not sacrificing it or compromising to share it, but rather fighting it out until there are crumbs everywhere and you are both rolling all over the floor laughing." - Liz

4) "Love is not going out for dinner on V-day but spending the evening at home watching a marathon of Harry Potter movies until you both fall asleep with your hands in the popcorn bowl and the TV casting its soft glow on your sleeping forms." - Kavya

5) "Love is having a terrible day but feeling the weight lift off of your shoulders with a simple smiley emoticon text from your significant other at bedtime." - me. 😛

Now tht was 5 inputs, but below is what my more articulate friend and roommate managed to compose in a matter of less than 10 minutes when I forced her to take a break from the textbooks. This is why Nivi is the only one from our group who gives you reviews Nisha...because she can actually write and express her thoughts while the rest of us just gush and have a blabber fest. 🤣

She refuses to log in or even look at IF until her midterms are over so I am posting this on her behalf, but every poetic word is hers. She was clearly still in study mode while writing but I still think it's pretty damn good. Any science geek (like me) will appreciate the cell bio reference. 😃

From Nivi:

There are approximately 37 trillion cells in the human body; love has the ability to leave some sort of impact on every single one of them, right down to the adenines and thymines in your DNA. Love is in essence an amplification of every single emotion that you have the capacity to feel and experience.

Love is not a single entity to be defined by specific boundaries. It is not the same for any two individuals on this planet or any two beings in this universe. It's not black and white; it's not a rainbow either. It's not syrupy melodies and sugary lyrics. It's certainly not dupattas flying in the wind on a snow-capped peak of the Alps. It is not a whirlwind summer fling at the beach. It's not letters strung together into pages upon pages of flowery romance.

Love is a powerful amalgamation of contrasts. It is everything and it is nothing. It is possessively selfless. It is subtly overt. It is delicately rough. It is quietly loud. It is happily sorrowful. It is mindlessly intelligent. It is threateningly safe. It is honestly deceiving. It is ravenously satiated. It is here and there. It is simply complex. Love is a content sigh, a hidden smile, a faint touch, a soft whisper. It's all that and more. But in the end, love is just four letters of the alphabet threaded into a word that we attribute too much meaning to.

Originally posted by: Hsp.canada

I know you girls really burned the pages today :) I saw your additions to the petition 😆.

I tell you i have never made one before I was giggling the entire time while tying 🤣

Poor Ranjan, felt so bad for him...