Ishita can't take herself for granted, expect others to not follow!!

The last few days in the show have been heartbreaking! I feel disgust at the Bhalla clan, at the way they have been constantly taking Ishita for granted and hurting her feelings but I have some questions for Ishita too.

From the day she brought Adi home, Ishita has been doing abnormal, unnatural things to make Adi happy - things where she takes herself, her self respect and her position in the house and in Raman's life for granted. In all those situations, she demeaned her position with her own actions. People have argued - how could she leave Adi or his mom on the roadside.. Agreed, but what was the burning need to celebrate the ex-wife's wedding anniversary?? Giving her gift to Adi was ok but how could she have Raman give her earrings to Shagun??

Remember when Toshiji asked Ishita to apologize to Adi, it hurt her. She was shown thinking to herself that when she herself wanted to go to Adi, it was ok but when Toshiji asked her to do the same, she felt bad. But Ishita baby, you can't take yourself for granted and then expect others to not follow suit! You can't demean yourself and then expect others to not do the same to you!!

Even today, she came to the Lodhi site, saw Raman about to start the puja with Shagun and decided to quietly leave with tears in her eyes. Later when the family asked her crying, they asked her the reason. Why did Ishita not speak up? Why did she not say that she witnessed Raman give her rights to Shagun and hence she was crying?!

As for Raman and Toshiji, I'm so disgusted with them that I will skip venting about them. To me, Mohabbatein is not a romantic story. It's not a story about the love that developed between Ishita and Raman. To me, this show is about the story of Ishita and Ruhi... their love and their beautiful relationship...

I think it is Ishita's nature to be like that - not fight for her rights or wrongs done to her.

Originally posted by: mnr123

I think it is Ishita's nature to be like that - not fight for her rights or wrongs done to her.

I think it goes way back to Subbu fiasco she took his dumping but never took out frustration on him.

Sanjana issue - she threw a fit n turned her cupboard upside down but never questioned Raman about his past affairs.

Raman took Shagun's name at ABGuild party but she didnt question him for not mentioning her name.

So somewhere she wants People to understand that she is hurt by their indifference or betrayal (expectations). She will not openly vent out or verbally put forth that she is hurt on so n so issue.

She fights when it is about Ruhi or Raman or people she loves.

It didnt hit her that entertaining Shagun in her house will hamper her n Raman's relationship now slowly it is sinking in n thats y she is fighting as per promo.

Originally posted by: Lekz

Word to what you said.

Since her intent is always for the good and happiness of the people around it never occurs to her that people might misunderstand her...or not understand her at all....

Sad to be one of such kind in the selfish world where people sometimes cannot see beyondthemselves...

Originally posted by: mnr123

But i think selflessness n compassion shud done to people who deserve goodness not to conniving n horrible people like Shagun. This is where Ishita goes wrong.

I was about to post when I saw this thread. Excellent post! 👏 Particularly like the highlighted/bold points.

Originally posted by: Lekz

Agree...but for a person like Ishita...she does not think so...she gave Shagun the benefit of doubt when she did not know Raman's past after which she was cautious...and alert ...

The first time when she helped Shagun it was after finding her drunk on the road...true to her nature she brought her home...she could have taken Shagun to amma's true but not helping her was not right...

Now she is doing everything for Adi and Raman not for Shagun...

I like the recent promo and what we saw on OLV once Shagun's intentions are becoming clear...she is fighting back...

My views only

Originally posted by: MERARAI

I was about to post when I saw this thread. Excellent post! 👏 Particularly like the highlighted/bold points.

Today seems Ishita's decided to have a pity party. Once she heard Ruhi fight back on her behalf what was the need to create more drama and make everyone there feel bad and ruin the celebration? When it comes to her why does she play by a different set of rules than the way she advises others to handle a difficult/unpleasant situation?

The first rule in a happy and peaceful marriage is communication. Men and women's brains are wired differently and our perception of life come from different angles. Not having a talk about the mess that's brewing in the household and hiding behind their fears and concerns doesn't solve the situation. Raman needs to grow a spine and not expect Ishita to pick up the ball and run with it when it comes to his children. He has a role to play as the father to Adi. He needs to model his behavior and with patience and over time with plenty of professional support he can turn Adi's life around. It may not be easy given he's dealing with a tween who's too anxious and desperate to cling to his mother, his only lifeline all his life. Shagun on the other hand has used him for selfish ends. She will see the seeds she's sown bear fruit in a few years.

Ishita is good in lecturing others on how things should be handled. When it comes to her own life she clams up when the situation demands communication to resolve the situation. She has sent him mixed signals with her actions too. She went all out on New Year's Eve (much to the displeasure of many viewers) to return the earrings Raman gifted her earlier that day back to Raman and arrange for cake cutting for a marriage that had been dead for six years. Adi was still the ziddi spoiled beta who wanted Raman to do Lohri with Shagun. His demands are consistent with his plans to reunite his parents.

Today waiting for Ishita to start the pooja, Raman concluded this was another occasion when Ishita decided to play magnanimous mahila and let Shagun step into her role for adi ke liye like she did on New Year's Eve which matched what Adi wanted...after all Ishita had bought into the counselor's advice that Adi's parents be a family unit for his wellbeing and had gone all out to indulge him like the rest of the Bhallas..

Could it be that Raman was going along on Ishita's recent decisions to reunite Adi with his baap since Adi and Shagun moved in with the Bhallas? After the stepmom story, medicine swap incident and Adi referring to her as a neighbor Ishita has finally caught on to the ma-beta's conniving plot lines.

Problem is Ishita has been giving Raman the cold shoulder in recent days. Is she expecting Raman to figure out her thoughts and realize she sees the situation very differently now? Has her concerns in exposing Adi's plans to do with her fear that it may cause a rift between Raman and Adi and she doesn't want to feel responsible for breaking a relationship Raman has yearned for since Shagun walked out on him with Adi?

If Ishita is on to Adi and Shagun's games to make inroads and alienate her from Raman's life shouldn't she consider a sit-down lengthy chat with her husband so they are both on the same page and can figure out how to handle the situation once and for all so they can get their lives back on track? Right now Raman and Ishita are running on parallel tracks and neither is clueing the other on where they stand.

Lack of communication is often the reason for breakdown between couples. It's easy to blame one's spouse for being insensitive about one's plight within the family but some responsibility lies with the person who fails to share their thoughts and feelings about the situation with the other in the first place. Who will be the first to put their pride/ego aside and address the situation before the Bhalla household turns into a warzone. Ishita would be better off addressing her own life's problems and give herself a good self-talk and abstain from lecturing other people about dealing with their problems...at least until she gets her own family life back on track. If she needs an impetus to act on it...this situation is causing Ruhi a lot of stress, and could create a lot of anxiety about her future for a child her age. How's that for a start.!

Excellent writeup! 👏 👏