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Originally posted by: Eyes-Wide-Shut
G thanks for putting this collage up, we needed this today. And your write up did full justice tot the intricacies of today's episode, only a parent can write about this delicate situation and bring out the nuances of childhood. Thanks 🤗"Through the blur, I wondered if I was alone or if other parents felt the same way I did - that everything involving our children was painful in some way. The emotions, whether they were joy, sorrow, love or pride, were so deep and sharp that in the end they left you raw, exposed and yes, in pain. The human heart was not designed to beat outside the human body and yet, each child represented just that - a parent's heart bared, beating forever outside its chest." - Debra Ginsberg
You know I am not a parent so I cannot fathom or even begin to understand the pain that a father would endure seeing his beloved Son fill with hatred towards life. Today was such a soul stirring episode to see a child lose his innocence in the process of becoming a pawn in the hands of the deceitful world. A 12 year old boy has been wronged by this parents, his upbringing and largely by himself. Children do not follow advice they imitate actions! Adi does what he sees around him, he sees his mom, and the unfortunate father figures around him plotting, planning and being deceitful. The only thing Adi knows is hatred, revenge, plotting and planning because that is what he has grown up with.As they say, monkey see monkey do! 😆This might be my immense love for puttar but I do not find him at fault in this situation, Raman has to be the most helpless character of this show, he did not abandon his son, he did not stop loving his son, he did not asked to be cheated on. Fate dealt him with blows after blows, his wife cheating on him, his son being snatched away, his son being poisoned by his disgruntled wife. His immense love for his son made puttar commit a lot of crimes, just to win his son's love, he tried to be a father to his broken child but circumstances always hindered his outreach. How do you reach a son whose heart is full of malice and hatred towards his father, it's easier said than done. Reconciliation takes time and this father son duo will take time to make amends, it will surely be a sight to see Adi seeing his father for who he really is without the Shagun's misguided lens.Today puttar realized the extent of hate in his little boy's heart and the helplessness that he cannot do anything to replace the hate with love. Heartbreaking to see a man so powerful rendered so helpless by his own progeny. Like the quote above says, parenting is not easy. It is literally seeing your heart beating outside your body, unfortunately for Raman his bleeding heart didn't reach his son in time.My heart is crying for puttar, my man boy is hurting to see his beloved wife in despair and his beloved son quarreling with the dark world of hatred and deceit. How unfortunate for Raman that a part of him(Adi) has became the the source of despair in his life(Ishita).Is it wrong that I felt for Raman today more so than Adi? I don't know why but Raman's plight touched my heart today, I am blaming my immense love for puttar 😆
First of all G, Doc- as usual amazing posts..I think I am at a point that I look forward to both of your posts and comments on each other's threads more then the show.
But I agree with you Doc, I felt more for Raman today then I felt for Adi. That quote is so true, Having children is like having your heart beat outside your body for the rest of your life. And I am too selfish to even understand what parents go through, however to hear words of hatred and disgust from your own child is heartbreaking. This is his first born son, the first person to call him a father, this boy will forever hold his heart and there is question about that. Regardless of how involved Raman was in the Adi's upbringing, a father cannot help but blame himself for his son't attitude.
Adi was the one who suffered the most when his parent's divorced but the thing is despite all of that, he does not know any better. His hatred, his attitude comes from what is taught to him and he really does not know any better. And he has experienced Love from his mother so I would'nt exactly call him deprived of love.
I think I feel more sympathetic towards characters who knows better and are helpless against circumstances then characters who don't any better. Adi did what he saw, what he learned, what he absorbed from his environment and as much as we feel bad for him. He is not going through a guilty complex, he might be scared from the result of his actions but I don' exactly see guilt.
Raman on the other hand is completely helpless- he sees his son going down the wrong path, he wants to change him, he wants to do right by everyone in his life. The irony here is that the more right he tries to do, the more wrong things become. Knowing that you are at blame somewhat for the circumstances around you and then feeling helpless to change it. That's the worst feeling!
On a side note, KP portrayal was bang on, his eyes when he was talking to his son- sigh👏
He really gets into the skin of his character!! Sigh..don't worry, this post is only about today's show and not about KP. I am suppressing my fangirl side for now..
Ye Hai Mohabbatein
