YHM -Daily Episode Discussions and Live Updates Thread #42 - Page 103

Originally posted by: -Anku-

Aani - you have magical way with words, I seriously get pulled into them 😆 I totally agree with you on all perspectives this time.

☺️ thanks Anku

Although in a haste while viewing Mani comes off as interfering, but if I go deep into his thoughts I still do have faith in his good intentions for his friend.

yep his intentions arent wrong but yeah his advice is or perhaps it is because his vision is myopic he isnt considering the whole picture he thinks of Ishita and only of her but like Ishita said she cant exist without a family, when Simi asked her to hate her Ishu said how can I hate my family? You are my family and if I hate you who do I love? Such a simple way to convey such a lovely thought - a family sticks together no matter what and its not always by blood you become family but by heart

In all the discussions so far I've finally found my answer in regards to Raman's recent thoughts and his decision highlighted by the promo. When Ishita and Raman married, it was a compromise, Raman had no intention of marrying, and no idea how to deal with it. He had fallen apart once his first marriage and broke and ever since, had lost everything in him that loved, that knew how to love. His temper was his weakness and he flawed in the marriage more than once. Now its his turn to redeem all those mistakes by making one last mistake by thinking that Ishita can be happier if she isn't with him. This is for him to understand that he can make her happier and be fair and just even while they stay together. He just needs to make that one last effort to come half way to her. And it isn't so hard because he already is changing, has already come a long way as a husband, father and person. He's healed, begun to love, begun to trust.. And it is this love which is making him weak because he is failing on seeing his wife in pain because of him.

exactly he himself said so today she cant bear the brunt of his past he has to solve this but he cant figure out a way to do so in a flash thats humanly impossible. Hence the promo playout - how do I make her happy - this relationship that was a compromise initially has now become one of love - he keeps the bracelet besides her in the promo, doesnt throw it away as its a symbol of her love for him..he wants to be worthy of that love NOT throw it away he wants to be able to give her what she deserves as he has gained a lot already from this relationship and unless now he has them on an even footing he cant rest easy. The way you feel secure in a relationship is when you and your partner are on equal grounds - Shagun always put him down and he let her walk all over himself; he erred there...here Ishita hasnt put him down but now judging the actions of his past he feels lower compared to her...he feels unworthy of her, to be able to claim her love (the bracelet) he needs to be able to set the wrongs right face himself without any self-loathing or misery 😳

But then again, Ishita is his strength, and he himself said - I need you to be my strength.

yep she would again show him the way to do so and unknown to her she did just today when she said she knows her family would be complete - Adi would come to them...he knows Ishita needs to get justice and Adi needs a mother, justice can be served in more than one ways. It doesnt always involve punishment but reformation too...and a mother can reform her child and a child that loves and respects his mother can admit to his mistakes but for that the child needs to be reformed and understand what he did was wrong 😳

Originally posted by: Ohgod!

Ok I am running away now.. catch u all tomorrow..🤗

Aani tera plan kaam kar gaya.. me is running haar maan ke 😆

Originally posted by: EkPaheli

😒 main aayi aur tu gayi 😭

Originally posted by: EkPaheli

Originally posted by: -HAA-

Hello ladies. Hope all well today. I see the discussions are raging.

There were some good moments which stood out in the epi yday:

Raman for the first time spoke about his khaami. And for that kudos. to the writer. For inadequacy is usually found in the woman, physical, emotional, intelligence-wise. Yesterday when Raman spoke of a man's shortcoming that too of the non-physcial nature it was a beautiful foil to the earlier scenes where Ishu was taunted for being barren.

In the Amma Raman conversation, the message conveyed was so lovely. And it was nice to see Amma remind Raman that he cared for Ishita. So though there was a parallel between Simmi-Vandu and Raman-Amma they also brought out the contrast between the husbands in question. Param who did not care for anyone bar himself and Raman who cared for his family and Ishita. I see the emphasis on the dialogue on ending a painful relationship but Amma also mentioned that there is a limit to how much a woman has to bear and shed tears for in a marriage. And that is what I think Raman will latch onto. No more tears and pain for Ishita because she has borne enough hatred and anger. They have exploited her goodness and large heartedness enough. For the extent that she has "sawaaroed" Raman's life, it is his turn to shita ke life ko sawaarna"

While Simmi in her blindness has shielded Param, it is Ishita's love that has made her shield Raman's mistakes / shortcomings - his anger, his weakness for his children, his over-protectiveness of Adi, etc. (Yes there was a hint of the future ominous with Vandu but lets leave that aside for now).

Raman omitted mentioning Adi as the executor of the crime. Perhaps it was so that the family and Ishu would not stop him from punishing him. But somewhere it felt he was still protecting Adi by letting Adi be his weakness. Yes he promised Ishita that he would punish all including Adi so that gives me hope that Raman will going forward learn that by protecting Adi or showing his anger on him all he is doing is making him more vulnerable. Adi is a pre-teen no longer a child so though Raman longs to protect the child that was wrenched away from him he has to learn to calmly teach the pre-teen the consequences of his actions on others other than his mother, teach him right from wrong.

Interestingly Simmi was the one who mentioned Adi's name. It was Simmi who once told Romi that it was her constant protection and "shay" that has made him so irresponsible, made him so flippant about the consequences of his actions. Similar to Raman's for Adi.

The promo is playing out for Raman said for Ishita's happiness, today Amma mentioned for a woman's happiness in marriage and the fbs of Simmi / Param and Adi with Ishita. Today Simmi apologized. Custody or no custody, Adi too needs to apologize to Ishita. He needs to realize that she deserves respect because she is his father's wife, his sister's mother.

There is a hint of the Ruhi calling Raman her most favourite person track. Ishita will be the guiding light here too like there. Today she already told Raman that anger is not the solution. She already said they needed to tackle Adi's anger management issues.

However there Ishita became Ruhi's Ishima - the mother whom the child missed. And now it is Raman's turn to become Adi's father.

Today Raman will choose Adi because that is the insecure child, insecure of his father's affections, insecure of whether he will be wrenched away from his mother in the future. Ruhi is secure for she has found stability, assurance of parents'love and of love between her parents. A short vacation to paati's house will not deter her. Adi needs assurance of his parents love for him but he also needs to see that there is no love or concern between his parents. That his father never abandoned him rather it was an illusion created by a woman who gave birth to him but forgot to nurture him.

P.S:

Aani

babe yeh le 👏. You are seriously on a roll.

And what is this I see, plans to make Mani a permanent Shani in Raman's life by pairing him with Simmi 😆

Originally posted by: Angel13

Sorry to butt in
The last part in blue...about raman saying needs to do something about it and throwing the flowers..what does it mean? Like u said it's good sign does it mean raman rather than deciding to part away he would try to men's the ways and like today he was thinking about his turn to do things for ishu...will he do it now or he will let Mani words affect him and prove him right?

Originally posted by: Liashna

Should I prepare myself for deep analysis for 11pm? Cause am so sleepy right now. No thought process at all 😆