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First of all, apologies in the super duper delay in my answer. However, it was time to give prioruty to the personal life instead of cyber one 😳.
Abandonment, Acceptance ... Woah ... you nailed it girl ... Amazing write up.
As I have said multiple times in numerous posts, Life is not black and white, it is grey. So, while it is extremely easy to judge based on preconceived notions, the reality may be strikingly different as we try and delve deeper.
Raman and Simmi ... Raman is someone who comes with a baggage of broken marriage. A man who has first hand experience of divorce and its repercussions. So, from his point of view, even the thought of his sister facing the same turmoil is enough for him to die a million painful deaths, yet he is not left with any other option but to put her on the same path he had to follow. The basic factor in any relationship is trust and acceptance and while Simmy out rightly refuses to accept any of this, the bare truth remains that Param has betrayed all of it repeatedly. And any sensible man will not be a mute spectator while his sister's life is ruined in front of his own eyes.
I loved your depiction of Simmi. I know the forum is going mad over Simmi's behavior and while it makes me mad as well, a part of me silently goes out for the woman in her. You have written her plight beautifully. She is the classic portrayal of an average woman in the Indian society. Reminds me of my mother in law's words, "Aadmi hi sab kuch hai aur ek aurat ki pehchaan uske aadmi se hai.". While it has been a matter of eternal debate between both of us ... I have long ago resigned to the fact that it is impossible to change her outlook at her age ... sadly, it is the true face of the society.
So, for someone like Simmi, who was supposed to believe that a woman is supposed to marry and raise a family as a good homemaker from the time she opened up her eyes is bound to react in this manner. For her, being associated with a man's name is her license of security, her shield, her dignity. Taking this from her will mean is equivalent to stripping her in public, shame for her and of course, her daughter. Therefore, the woman in her is desperately trying to hold on the last straw so that she can save herself from this drowning relationship.
She conveniently blames Ishita because she is the exact anti-thesis of Simmi. A working, educated, no-nonsense woman, who is balancing her personal and professional life amazingly and even Simmi has begrudgingly accepted (Refer to the sections where she continuously taunts Raman that he listens to her Beewi or his life is becoming better day by day)that she has provided the much needed equilibrium in her brother's mundane life. And this same woman did not hesitate to bring the real face of Param in front of the family. There may be hundreds of Sarika who may have been molested by Param, but Ishita will always hit home ... because, yet again, we are hurt by people whom we love ... (Simmi though initially skeptical of this marriage, had been supportive of the relationship between Raman and Ishita in her sort of way)
Coming now to the other bond, Mihir and Shagun .. I think I have already written my piece of Ramayan about them in my post ... adding my two pence to it ..
Mihir and Shagun though siblings, are separated by a huge age gap.Mihir was into his teens when all this drama unfolded, so as much as he could figure out the difference between right and wrong, his evident age gap will never let him express his opinion freely. He would have surely tried it, but someone like Shagun who was already blinded by the glitz and glitter the life with Ashok is bound to provide, will pay no heed to the advices, reservations or opposition her KID brother. Stressing on the word kid, because their apparent age gap has always made her treat him like a kid, someone who is under her protective shield from the time he took his first breath. So, it will be absolutely unacceptable in her own mind that her kid brother can go against her at all .
Therefore, I think, Mihir had no other option but to denounce his relationship with her altogether to prove his point. Your next set of lines about Mihir are bang on ... he is a man who has faced abandonment at a very early age. His father abandoned him by fate when he left this world untimely , his mother abandoned him for a reason which is yet to be explored in the series and then the closest relationship after parents ... siblings ... his sister abandoned him ... so a man, who is living at the mercy of a borrowed family ... will have severe reservations of opening up his wounds in front of the only ray of his life for the obvious fear of ... yet again .. Abandonment ... She brings the normalcy to his mechanical life (I love the characterizations of YHM .. his OCD at home displays how robotic he has become to make sure everything is normal and nothing is out of place ...).
Yet, I think, sometimes, we need to open up the wounds to treat them and to prevent any further infection .. so am sure Mihir will eventually open up to Mihika who is/will be the perfect antiseptic for him. Amen ..
Lastly, the scene between Ishita and Mihir and your post provided another food for thought for me, I will leave it for all of us to ponder on ... Ishita tied the same Rakhi which was sent by Shagun to Mihir's wrist ... so Mihir unknowingly, yet again indirectly promised his sister to protect her from all the troubles come what may ... and remember the Mihir we see today, is not a teenager, but a grown up independent man capable of taking his decisions on his own and though rarely, he does know how to take a stand.
Although, since the Rakhi was tied by Ishita herself, he automatically made this promise to her also.
As I said, we live in a GREY world ...
Brilliant post as always 😳.
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