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I love the Appreciation I have been getting! So decided to write the third one.
A lot of you wanted Adityas Perspective on this part and this is what it is.
The first two are here,
http://www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=4101579
http://www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=4102126
Part three through the eyes of Aditya Raman Kumar Bhalla
Being an 18 Year old Isn't as easy as the television or the books present it to be especially when you have three parents after you! Ask me I know!
My life could be very aptly described as a roller coaster ride! The ups and downs that I have seen as a child, the emotions and turmoil that I have been through growing up still make me shudder and have nightmares about!
I was what a lot of Psychologists and Books will call a "Problem child" They call Kids like me
"Children of a divorce" and that is what I was. I have been through my parents seperation with them,I have seen both there happy and miserable times,As a child I grew up under the influence of my mother and I know a lot of people blame her for the divorce but I can't help but think that both my parents were just two very misfitted people together who Couldnt manage to lead there lives together.Everybody views my mother as being this bad person but she really isnt that bad,This world Isnt filled with perfect people everyone has there grey shades and so does she! Her love for me though has its share of greed in it,Is still among the most genuine feelings she has ever had for anybody! And that is why I still choose to live with her,Everyone judges her skills of being a mother by how she treated Ruhi but no one thinks about how she never considered Ruhi to be her child in the first place but i was always Her's first and she has her faults as a mother but she still is MY mother and will always be,But the one thing I might never be able to forgive her for is how she poisoned me against my own father i have never blamed her for leaving him for Ashok Papa nor have i blamed her for leaving Ruhi behind but the one resentment in my heart that will always be there against her is that when I needed my father the most growing up she Dint let him be there for me, I often try to erase the memories of those times and try not to let my present be affected by my past.
My life right now no matter how much I grumble about it is in the most ideal state,I have never been happier Growing up I blamed life i blamed my parents divorce and everything around me but now as an individual almost at the pedestal of adulthood I realize that everything happens for a reason both my Mum and Dad have now found there love and Happiness in different people Ashok Papa no matter how selfish or greedy still gave my mom all she ever needed and loved her in his own way i think!
Im most glad about how my fathers life has turned out to be,My father is a man whose lived though great sorrow and it took me a lot of time to recognize the goodness in him but I did and I really am happy that he now has all that he has deserved to have in his life!
He has all three of his children with him Yes me included!
And he also has with him a women I consider to be amongst the best people in my life MY Ishima,The respect i have for her is unparelleled maybe even more than my own parents she is like a second mother to me but more than that she is my guiding light,An angel who has helped me in my most difficult times,That accident done all those years ago really was the turning point of my life which Ishima guided me through She's quite literally made me the Man that I am today!
Our relationship might not be as loving or close as the one that Ishima shares with Ruhi but it gets Its due importance because I know that the place that Me and Ishima have in our hearts for eachother Cant ever be replaced or filled by anyone else.
As a spectator of my Fathers life anyone could see how happy Ishima and his kids make him.Growing up I never really tried to bridge a relationship between me and my little sister Ruhi because maybe somewhere in the depth of my hearts I blamed her for the seperation of our parents and that mistake made in our childhood still shows its cracks sometimes but both me And Ruhi are working towards it!
The one thing that gives me Immense joy in my life and represents all things done right by god for my Ishima and Papa is Ansh he actually is my half brother but that doesnt affect the love i have for that little pampered brat! In a lot of ways Ansh is everybody's redemption especially mine and Papa's! He really is a special child in my life I try as much as I can to be the big brother to him that I couldnt be to Ruhi when she was a child,And he reciprocates accordingly and treats me like his hero which is always a nice emotion to recieve.
Another person im Really close to is Madhvi Aunty! Yes the same Madhvi aunty i ran over with my car at age 12 But the ease with which she forgave me for the horrendous crime done won me over! Since then she has been my rockstar and my confidante,Makes my own Dadi very jelouse but what can i do! :P
Papa and Shagun Mamma have a semblance of a cordial relationship now and that too is the doing of My ishima! Dint i tell you how prefect she really is?
Entering the Bhalla house for my Weekend stay here I notice my grandparents and Romi chachu having an animated discussion over something,I spot Papa wrestling with Ansh and loosing to him delibrately to make him laugh in that adorable way that only Ansh can and I also notice how happy my Papa gets listening to Ansh laugh his heart out!
I spot Ruhi reading a novel quitely in a corner and then My eyes level with Ishimas as she notices me and comes over pulls my cheeks and takes me into a tight hug! I Wouldve protested had it been any other time but right now as i hug her back I cant help but thank who ever Gave our family the blessing Of Ishima because she truly is that a "Bleesing" that has managed to make everything right in our topsy turvy lives.
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