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Well as many said here in this forum rommi is pervmeet in making. Right now rommi cares for his family and that's the only redeeming quality he has. And that should be used to correct his flaws now. Rommi is shown to be a very real character. This is how boys in india are brought up. They are from a small age taught to feel greater than women. Bhalla family especially toshiji thinks like that. Remember the entire aditya ghar ka waris hai thing.
What rommi does is wrong but the fault totally lies with his upbringing. Now this is a chance for him to learn. I especially was waiting for rommi's reaction to this whole pervmeet revelation thing. When ishita was accusing pervmeet rommi was very disgusted and it was clear he believed ishita till the messages came into play. Even when simmi was getting physical rommi restrained her from hurting ishita.
See that clearly shows he respects his bhabhi and cares for her. Now when he sees the suffering she will go through after this entire thing he will realise the pain of his possible victims. And so he can change.
Dont get me wrong. I don't support rommi's action till now. What he did with mihika was absolutely wrong but he can be saved. He still has that much humanity in him. He is not beyond repair. But that can only happen if he after realizing his mistakes accepts them atleast in front of mihika and asks her to forgive him. If he just realizes and keeps quite then for me atleast he is not redeemed.
This track also made me think On a larger scale. we women need to realize that we are part of the problem right now. We women worship men in our families like god. that's where the whole problem starts. Women should 1st and fore most respect themselves.
A child learns to respect women from home.
A son respects his mother if she makes sure her husband gives her equal respect. For example If she takes any shit from her husband and only slogs at home without being appreciated for her hardwork then the son too takes it for granted. The mother should also make her husband and son do the work once in a while to make them understand exactly how hard it is to do house work.
A mother should not only ask her daughter to learn housework but also the son.
When a criminal against a woman is born the fault first lies with the parents.
True both father and mother bring up a child. But the responsibility lies more with mother because she is a woman. Hence she should be more active to make sure her son doesn't turn out to be rapist or harasser. Father can be more responsible for other aspects of the child's character.
Also women should actively learn self defense. Instead of cooking and tailoring women should be thought karate and stuff to protect themselves first.
Once i was watching a serial and there was a nice dialogue in it. "Why make women of your house stay at home after dark to protect them. Instead lock up your sons at home so that the women out are safe."
I don't exactly know how the discrimination at home takes place. Because i come from a family where my brother and me are equal in every way. Not just for namesake but literally. For example we both have equal curfew timings. And even if we are late we both have to inform at least by a phone call where we are. And even between my parents the housework is divided by days. 3 to my dad and 3 to my mom. And Sunday to me and my brother. 😆
So i wouldn't know how hard it is to stand up for yourself in a discriminatory environment. But still not standing up is still wrong and cannot be forgiven.
I know i have ranted for a long time. Thanks to all who read this post. Its mostly that i am a die hard feminist. Please think about this. And please comment and give your views to.😊This is a topic which needs discussion.
Iss Pyaar Ko Kya Naam Doon
Vanshaj
