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So I am late in making a post for the famous dress scene... but I believe sometimes that's a good thing because it allowed me to make this post after viewing last night' epi which had the first sweet phone convo scene between IshRa, which we know will make Raman pick up that something is bothering Ishita as per the spoilers.
Honestly each and every day I am getting more and more surprised by YHM, in a good way credit completely to Sonali mam, the fab writer of the show I hope she sticks with this one till its last epi... new writers mess up the flow of the story and the dimensions of characters in my opinion.
So getting on with my topic - I am so amazed by Raman as a character. He is my muse whenever I write something in terms of an FF for this show - his head is a mess and therein lies his appeal to me 😆 Okay so I like convoluted characters a lot. Guilty as charged 😳
Like I said in the beginning this post is my POV on the dress scene... now in the hilarity that we witnessed I missed this myself the first time around... even the second and the third - but finally on my fourth or fifth round at this scene I suddenly started to have a different approach for it.
We have seen how Raman was obviously so affected by Ishita' makeover not only did he shut up the moment he turned around to answer her... his knees kinda went weak too 😆 he had to sit down, thank goodness for that TV unit else the guy would have landed on the floor for sure...but moving on
The thing that triggered my need to make this post were mostly two moments - Raman biting that file - which of course has a lot of interpretations 😆 but mostly... to my twisted mind was - him still not being able to absorb this fact that Ishita could prove him wrong, and Raman if anything is someone who now loathes to take back his words... bite his tongue so to speak.
So of course, fate intervenes or should I say writers here and he soon has a way to get back at Ishita.
He simply cannot accept that what he knows is wrong... especially when he has been secretly giving so much attention to her, observing her... yes he may not know her completely as of yet but he has begun doing so - as a person, as a woman. Thanks to our little cupid Ruhi who intervenes time and again - he has even begun to know the little things about her - favorite color, favorite ice cream flavor and the list would def grow with time ...
The control freak that he has become post Shagun just cannot accept things to go any other way but as per him - for him its my way or the highway and for him to be proven wrong in a matter which in hindsight is trivial but deep down is his firm belief that he has begun knowing Ishita was a blow to him.
And once he was satisfied with his findings, had the result he needed by making Ishita bite back her words... tease and annoy her 😆 he finally had that peace... that wow, so I was right feeling which finally, finally makes him let his guard down, as his expression changes when Ishita is sewing on that button on his shirt - he was finally able to let go off that mask he always has on... which is the second moment that served as the inspiration of this post.
He finally let himself look at her now that he had that I was right confirmation... really look at her and accept he has a beautiful wife... a woman who is just as beautiful on the outside as is she on the inside.
As we have already seen in the second epi of the show, post Shagun Raman' transformation was not just in his monetary status or his looks but his thinking as well.
He had women throwing themselves at him because they found him attractive - but mostly for his money... which even made him insult Ishita and her family a lot previously by labeling them as gold-diggers. A fact that Ishita threw in his face before their marriage was fixed during Ruhi' custody trial when she landed up in his office as he got Subu' mom to go to that lady judge to try and brainwash her about Ishita. She let him know all the women dying to marry him just want his money and nothing else.
To hear a fact which he always knew but couldn't accept made him want to insult her then... but post his marriage to Ishita he has been humbled into accepting that not all women are like that.
Ishita has never asked a single thing of him and not because she is independent but because she has no interest in his money... in his fortunes, rather what matters to her the most is Ruhi... and now his family, which is slowly and steadily even extending to him. Her saving him in that land deal has made him realize that this woman, someone he loathed has always and forever been someone who helped him out - even when he didn't ask it off her.
The speech in Tamil- his thank you for the world to hear was his acknowledgement and humble acceptance of his prior wrongdoings. His way of apologizing to a woman who he knows he has publicly shamed a lot prior to their marriage.
His way to admit - that yes, I misjudged her when I did those things in the past - now I know what an amazing woman she is - a perfect mother, wife, daughter, daughter-in-law and a successful professional. Someone I am lucky enough to have in my life.
It was his acceptance of Ishita as a beautiful human being, someone he has begun respecting.
Now slowly with that acceptance - with him getting to know her for the person she is and realizing his mistakes... he allows himself to look at her as a woman too... a beautiful woman who he is getting attracted to.
I really am loving the approach of the writers here with IshRa' story, especially Raman' angle.
For a man who once was fooled by a woman he fell madly in love with because of her looks, only to be later cheated on by her, he became wary of all and any beautiful women, and with him encountering more women like Shagun, that belief just got firmer and his faith stronger.
But Ishita turned the tables so completely on him - his attraction for her began as a person first- the mother of his child, the perfect bahu of his family and finally he is allowing himself to be attracted to the woman who also is his wife.
Her beauty is the last thing that he is allowing himself to acknowledge.
He was visibly affected by Ishita' proximity which wouldn't allow him to look at her for long ... but also forced him to look away, especially the moment he turns his head around when Ishita had to lean in... especially the second time around when he could stand it no more - which made him take refuge in their comfort zone - taunts and bickering. this thing - a button scene is such a old Hindi film cliche but the layers somehow just added to its charm to me. They amaze me.
Prior to this scene, where he admitted casually to having checked his wife out numerous times... Raman would have eaten dirt than admit he does so, but here he not only did it, he gloated about it..
In a successful marriage, sex, physical attraction do play an integral role... but that is not all what a marriage is all about, its about being with a person with whom you would love to be with outside the confines of your room too.
Ishita already has become the person to Raman, who he can proudly call his wife for the world to know. He doesn't waste a moment now, any chance he gets to bring her up in his conversations. Now he is merely allowing himself to be with the woman he is gonna spend the rest of his life with and admit, yes she affects him - on all the levels that matter in a marriage - all the platforms that make you want to be with a person - their qualities as a human being and the physical attraction you obviously feel for them.
IF this post makes no sense, I am deeply sorry but I just had to say this. 😳
Kabhi Neem Neem Kabhi Shahad Shahad
