Raman kumar bhalla is a hypocrite - Page 6

ya unnecessary drama which happens in soaps.ishu can inform just she will be late r can just say she saw simmi n y face tat unnecessary headache.can understand ishu she chose quiet n said smoothly needed for some personal space r privacy forwatever reasons she has.she is upset n said sorry for making ppl worry n don't want to talk now.as all r adults can understand n drop it there n later slowly can ask her wat is upsetting.most of d women don't want to discuss their sasural issues before maayka after mrg as iyers r there.so she might chose to be quiet.she wad not a kid n didn't do anything tat she owe an explanation n treating her like kid in tat cross examination n all tat nautanki is unnecessary n too much.
raman worry n concern is understandable.ruhi is just bahana.becos of bitter past he was so insecured.he as feared hubby was so insecured about his wife reg.ishita coming late n started cross examination n when ishu didn't respond male hubby ego got hurt too n raman done unnecessary public drama with his uncontrollable anger n tongue . it's soap so heroine reacted smoothly lol.

he was just hurt & worried as in past few things happened which made him shout at Ishita

Originally posted by: serendipity.

Oh my God. Why are we being so irrational? OFCOURSE she knows he cant do anything, does that mean Raman stays quite with eyes facing down in shame? he WILL say all that, he was angry, ab Ishita believe kare na kare, WHO CARES? Like how can you justify anyone whos angry? You cant do anything about it! :|

yes, words once spoken cant be taken back, but can be apologized for, and newer better memories can overcome them. this is a love-hate relationship. Raman hates ishita. he HATES her, and he will say all that to her, and likewise Ishita will too, when Ishita is at fault. When Raman was trying to apologize and 'mend' things between him and ishita by aplogizing, she didnt even bother listening, because she was ANGRY at him... she SLAPPED him... because she was ANGRY at him. Anger does that to you, you know. We have to understand that such misunderstandings, taunts, arguments, rudeness, fights shall go on till Raman Ishita become cordial.

Abhi tak toh we're not even sure WHAT kept Ishita from coming home till the wee hours of the morning. Lets see how it unfolds.

Well I don't think Raman was being hypocritical because he has never touted himself as a "responsible, loving" father. He doesen't go around telling people about his "good fatherly skills." He has accepted that he is probably a terrible father, and that is precisely the reason he married Ishita- to bring someone else into Ruhi's life who will provide her with love/care etc that he may not provide for her. So if anyone is being hypocritical, its Ishita. She does go around lecturing Raman on his irresponsible behavior and touts herself to be a "good" mother- now she is the one being irresponsible and uncaring towards Ruhi So isin't that hypocrtiical?

Originally posted by: titlee90

I agree with each and every words of you.

In many times Ishita misbehaved with Raman but it cannot be denied what Ishita did for Rama and his family. Raman never said thanks for her contributions. He does not know the minimum courtesy. He did not know how to live with another person. He did not share his closet with ishita. She has to keep her belongings to suitcase still now. Everybody is there to give lectures to Ishita. But how cum toshiji did not notice that Ishita keeps her belongings to a suitcase. I know this is a silly point but i found it very disgusting.

Raman was saying about Ruhi's tears. Ruhi craved for her father's love. But Raman was not even ready to talk to her over phone. In the initial episodes it was showed that Raman did not want to talk to Ruhi. He used to live in another city. He did not even look at Ruhi because of the mole which reminds him about Shagun. Is it Ruhi's fault that she has a mole?

When Mr Bhalla said that Ishita might have busy with her patients Raman said that she is not a heart surgeon she is a dentist. Did he forget that when Ruhi had toothache at night Ishita was the only dentist whom he found at late night?

Raman's lectures were simply intolerable for me

Great topic and discussions with very valid points. I agree he is hypocritical and rude and I think it all is a result of an immense love he had for Shagun which she butchered It to almost an irreparable state. She turned Adi against against him by filling him with poisonous lies. She took him and abandoned 6 month old Ruhi. Although it's not an excuse I can understand the reason for his behavior.

Ishita has handled what has happened in her life well...whereas Raman has been totally broken and built a stone wall around his heart which even his beloved daughter couldn't break. Shagun's shadow always stood in front of him keeping him from expressing love! I think Ishita should become aware of his all that happened in his past because she has and will continue to break that wall and make him love again. It's already started with him being affectionate with Ruhi. .smiling more...and even worrying about Ishita and such caring towards her parents.

I hope COS start showing a softening of his character towards Ishu as she continues to unravel his past and weave her way into his heart. Then I hope they show a track where he finds about her past.

Originally posted by: Heema22

I <font size="3">agree with every point you are trying to make . I just want to put in my two cents .</font>

<font size="3">Lots of posts are written about Ramen and his behavior .He was harsh but he reminded me of phrase " barking dog seldom bites or even better " Jo garajarte hei Vo barasate nahi hei .he was concerned he looked worried before she walked in the door . . Ishita was very rude and as you said" in the heat of the movement " he lost control on his mouth ( not out of character for him) .. If you looks at the both character " dhooth ka dhula " ek Bhi nahi hei .</font>

<font size="3">Every good relationship, especially marriage, is based on respect. If it's not based on respect then you should not expect civilize conversation from either of them. This marriage is not " made in heaven " if he is hypocrite then Inshita's acceptable hypocrisy is often seen or perceived as her politeness. They both are rude and control freaks .so let's wait and see why was Ishita late ? and how Ramen will react to her story?</font>

well my post is not about who is right or wrong and ishita is ofcourse wrong for waltzing in at 3 am and offering no explaination but this post was about Raman preaching things he himself does not practice and that makes him a hypocrite

Originally posted by: Savz_uniqueblis

ya unnecessary drama which happens in soaps.ishu can inform just she will be late r can just say she saw simmi n y face tat unnecessary headache.can understand ishu she chose quiet n said smoothly needed for some personal space r privacy forwatever reasons she has.she is upset n said sorry for making ppl worry n don't want to talk now.as all r adults can understand n drop it there n later slowly can ask her wat is upsetting.most of d women don't want to discuss their sasural issues before maayka after mrg as iyers r there.so she might chose to be quiet.she wad not a kid n didn't do anything tat she owe an explanation n treating her like kid in tat cross examination n all tat nautanki is unnecessary n too much.
raman worry n concern is understandable.ruhi is just bahana.becos of bitter past he was so insecured.he as feared hubby was so insecured about his wife reg.ishita coming late n started cross examination n when ishu didn't respond male hubby ego got hurt too n raman done unnecessary public drama with his uncontrollable anger n tongue . it's soap so heroine reacted smoothly lol.

well different perspective and excellent point

He is & so is his family 🤢 Even Iyers are i feel as we live in a hypocritical society 🤔

Sorry I disagree...Raman seems to be realistic most of the times! His reaction was pretty normal to me and was justified from his character point of view...Any man would behave in the same way as Raman did when ur wife been late to home at night and doesn't give a damn about her whereabouts...Few dialogues were a bit overboard but again that is how Raman and Ishita fight always...They go extreme sometimes! Even Ishita had said once that she would break his hand if he misbehave with Ruhi...so these kind of dialogues can be toned down a bit

Coming to Ruhi's case...He did accept hez being bad to her! Also if u look into Raman's words deeply, it clearly says he has taken granted Ishita as Ruhi's mom from every aspect...He knew how much Ishita loves Ruhi and vice versa and that is why when he saw Ruhi crying for Ishita, he couldn't control...Moreover he was freaking out as how come Ishita forgot Ruhi...? He couldn't figure it out...That is what I perceived in that whole argument!

And Ishita, since we know whats the reason behind her weird behavior we can relate to her but Bhallas and Iyers? Ishita is wrong and she could have informed anyone of them but NO...I agree her questions were valid but when a family and a kid is more dependent on U...U need to be more responsible! That actually shows the gravity of her relation with Ruhi...So I would say neither of them were right here but hypocrite, jerk were not the right choice of words for Raman in my opinion...