Few things about typical South Indian (tamil) weddings!

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deepa

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Posted: 11 years ago

Hi Guys! So our IshRa's wedding is to happen in south indian (tamil) style!!! I read few comments where some were really interested to see a typical tamil wedding...

And being a tamilian I have attended many wedding in real life...so I thought I will give you all a brief about Tamil weddings..

imp: I am not saying this is culture is best or that is best...I love both cultures and respect them very much to do that...

Here I am just going to bring out main differences between North and south Indian weddings...

When you consider Tamilian's wedding...custom and rituals vary according one's caste...

specifically caste like Iyer's and Iyangar's will have different set of customs...

I will explain the main differences in North and South indian weddings ...Apparently I started watching hindi soaps when I got glimpse of typical north indian wedding in a channel...I got too curious and ended up watching that show😆

1. Engagement:

It happens in the evening...sometimes in morning...but there is no fixed timings...

important event is parents of bride and groom signs the invitation agreeing to give their daughter in marriage to this family and vice versa...then wedding invitation will be read for the first time...

2. No Mehendi, No Sangeet, only Haldi:

There is no mehendi and Sangeet. There are more than one haldi(Nalangu, as we call it)...ie at least three or maximum five...first parents of bride and groom conduct haldi, then maternal uncle, then aunt's and then if bride's and groom's bro or sis wants, then they also can conduct...

Haldi custom's are same but instead of Haldi (turmeric), we use sandalwood paste...

3.Baraat:

Same as north Indian style...we call it as Mapillai azaipu(Groom's welcome)! It happens the day before the wedding.

4.Wedding:

Wedding happens in morning...it can happen between 4.30-6 or 6-7.30 or 7.30-9 or 9-10.30 or 10.30-12...This timing is fixed according to the day and star of that particular day...

5. First Mangalsurt, then Pherey:

Unlike NorthIndian weddings where Pherey is given utmost important...here Mangalsurt is given importance...if mangalsurt is tied then wedding is completed even without pherey..

6.Mangalsurt (thaali):

Mangalsurt (thaali) is a dollar which Mrs.Iyer is wearing...The thaali is attached to thread soaked in haldi water then it becomes Manja Kairu (yellow thread)...

After few days of marriage (usually 3 months), they will replace yellow thread with gold chain..that's what Mrs.Iyer is wearing...

7. 3 knots of thaali:

Thaali looped in yellow theard is tied around bride's neck by groom with three Knots...This is the most important part of the wedding...three knots stands for rights, relation and vows.

8. Only three rounds of Pherey not seven:

I don't know why but usually tamil wedding has three rounds of pherey.

9. Wedding night is at Bride's place:

I am not sure about other caste's custom (as I was invited only to attend weddings😆) but in our custom and some other caste custom which I know...SR takes place at Bride's place

After wedding, Bride goes to Saasural, light the diya and comes back to her home. New wed stays at bride's place for three days and two nights...this is to ensure bride's comfort zone and not to scare her...three days she will be around her own people and she will grow close to her husband without any fear...fourth day when she enters her sasural it won't be complete new place as she already knew her husband

See how varied is our Indian's culture...I am proud of it...

I am repeating it once again, every culture has its own uniqueness and no culture is less to other...

hope u liked the post...

do comment and increase the activity of the forum...😃

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Sudha

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Posted: 11 years ago

Great to know about Tamil weddings and their traditions!! Its always a pleasure to know new things about our Indian communities!! I'm from Hyderabad and here in our weddings we even have 3 pheras, 3 knots and SR will be at bride's home!! Rest differ!!

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deepa

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Posted: 11 years ago

Originally posted by: cssudha
Great to know about Tamil weddings and their traditions!! Its always a pleasure to know new things about our Indian communities!! I'm from Hyderabad and here in our weddings we even have 3 pheras, 3 knots and SR will be at bride's home!! Rest differ!!

I know...my best friend is from Andhra...and she has told me lot of things about telugu weddings...though I have never been lucky to attend one...

the wedding happens in the night, right?

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Sudha

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Posted: 11 years ago

@deeps: Actually it depends on the stars of both bride and groom but mostly in the early hours...when in such instances we arrange receptions at night...

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petrichorr

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Posted: 11 years ago

Nice. I'll add a few things...

The girl wears a nine yards saree that's typically tied in a very different style than the regular six yards saree.

She also sits on her father's lap just before the "thali" tying ceremony.

In the afternoon of the wedding, post lunch, the two families get together along with some relatives and have the bride and groom play some fun games . The whole point of it is to serve as a ice breaker between the two families that have entered a relationship and also provide for some light hearted fun moments amongst all the rituals and ceremonies.

Regarding "first nite" over the years the parent prefer to send the couple to a good resort/hotel to give the couple some privacy.

Also over the years Mehandi ceremony has been adopted by some iyer families as well although it was not part of the culture.

I doubt we can expect a whole lot of authenticity in the serial.

One thing that had me in splits was Ishita calling Mihika's mom "Periamma".😆😆😆😆

If Ishita's mom is Mihika's "Periamma" then wouldn't Mihika's mom be Ishita's "Chitti" ????😆😆

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Sudha

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Posted: 11 years ago

Originally posted by: prejudiced
I'll add a few things...

The girl wears a nine yards saree that's typically tied in a very different style than the regular six yards saree.

She also sits on her father's lap just before the "thali" tying ceremony.

Regarding "first nite" over the years the parent prefer to send the couple to a good resort/hotel to give the couple some privacy.

Also over the years Mehandi ceremony has been adopted by some iyer families as well although it was not part of the culture.

I doubt we can expect a whole lot of authenticity in the serial.
One thing that had me in spits was Ishita calling Mihika's mom "Periamma".😆
If Ishita's mom is Mihika's "Periamma" then wouldn't Mihika's mom be Ishita's "Chitti" ????😆😆

@bold : Is it? I haven't heard of it at all...

And periamma in tamil is big mother i.e; mother's elder sister isn't it?

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Serena.V

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Posted: 11 years ago

Awesome to learn new cultures

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ZaaraBB

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Posted: 11 years ago

interesting ...im.Gujarati and.nothing.happens like that..i like the last.one

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deepa

@deeps_92

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Posted: 11 years ago

Originally posted by: prejudiced
Nice. I'll add a few things...

The girl wears a nine yards saree that's typically tied in a very different style than the regular six yards saree.

She also sits on her father's lap just before the "thali" tying ceremony.

In the afternoon of the wedding, post lunch, the two families get together along with some relatives and have the bride and groom play some fun games . The whole point of it is to serve as a ice breaker between the two families that have entered a relationship and also provide for some light hearted fun moments amongst all the rituals and ceremonies.

Regarding "first nite" over the years the parent prefer to send the couple to a good resort/hotel to give the couple some privacy.

Also over the years Mehandi ceremony has been adopted by some iyer families as well although it was not part of the culture.

I doubt we can expect a whole lot of authenticity in the serial.

One thing that had me in splits was Ishita calling Mihika's mom "Periamma".😆😆😆😆

If Ishita's mom is Mihika's "Periamma" then wouldn't Mihika's mom be Ishita's "Chitti" ????😆😆

you have explained typical iyer wedding dear...I told things abt tamil wedding in general...

@bold...it rarely happens dear... In my twenty-one years of life, I have never come across the wedding where these two happens...might happen in rare cases like people belonging to high class..

and yes this periamma and chithi...CV's messed it up...if they don't know correct relationship they should have not used it...