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@Viji79

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Posted: 15 years ago

#51

I haven't read all the reponses in this post. So, sorry if this view has already been written. AR Rahman said in his Oscar award acceptance speech that he had to choose between love and hatred all his life, he chose love and thats why he was there. How true!!!

All of us are exposed to varied kinds of people right from childhood - some are good, some are very sweet and some are extremely intolerable. But we learn to accept life as it is and adjust ourselves with all the ups and downs. I have seen a few boys who lost their mother in childhood and ended up growing as irresponsible guys. But my father lost his mother when he was just 1 year old, but I am proud to say that today he is looked up to with respect by all my family members and relatives and friends for being a wonderful husband, father and grandfather. So all that I am trying to say is that there can be no justification to become bad. If we absorb positive things, we would be a positive person and also radiate positive energy. All the same if we tend to see only negative side of things. This is within us. But there is a strong role of external stimulus that tend to drive us towards plus or minus.

Taps had everything in life but still she could find only jealousy in her environment which Nani acted as a catalyst and enhanced it. No justifications for Taps' anger.

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morel

@morel

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Posted: 15 years ago

#52

Originally posted by: lamboooji

arey, disha today will be the event of her life for Tappu baba.....her own father Jogi babu usko dhaka mar kar bahar phenkega.............come back at 10.30 celebration thread to party.

Sure :)

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Posted: 15 years ago

#53

Originally posted by: Viji79
I haven't read all the reponses in this post. So, sorry if this view has already been written. AR Rahman said in his Oscar award acceptance speech that he had to choose between love and hatred all his life, he chose love and thats why he was there. How true!!!

All of us are exposed to varied kinds of people right from childhood - some are good, some are very sweet and some are extremely intolerable. But we learn to accept life as it is and adjust ourselves with all the ups and downs. I have seen a few boys who lost their mother in childhood and ended up growing as irresponsible guys. But my father lost his mother when he was just 1 year old, but I am proud to say that today he is looked up to with respect by all my family members and relatives and friends for being a wonderful husband, father and grandfather. So all that I am trying to say is that there can be no justification to become bad. If we absorb positive things, we would be a positive person and also radiate positive energy. All the same if we tend to see only negative side of things. This is within us. But there is a strong role of external stimulus that tend to drive us towards plus or minus.

Taps had everything in life but still she could find only jealousy in her environment which Nani acted as a catalyst and enhanced it. No justifications for Taps' anger.

Thank you so much dear for the wonderful message😊this is what we wre trying to spread in the society that wrong is wrong no matter what😊and if someone has done something wrong it should be admitted and properly punished😊Blame Game is the card of weak and a looser😕this show is only fiction and it doesnt matter whether one likes icha or veer or tapsya but wrong message should never be encouraged in society😊all the people should know they can never escape by doing bad😊Hats off to u for these wonderful words👏👏👏👏👏👏

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anwesha rath

@Anurulz

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Posted: 15 years ago

#54

as usual these days am late in responding..i think one of the easiest things in the world is to dump the blame on sumbody and think urself to be widout flaws..and its takes sumthng called a conscience to control tht urge and accept ones own faults..jogi thakur according to me is a good parent..and i dnt say such things lightly..its argued tht he dint give taps a reason for caring for ichha..consequently it is also argued tht she was a tender aged girl who dint understand what she was doing..so this tender aged girl dint understand anything wud have understud jogi's reasons..👏

secondly,the oft repeated hostel saga..which according to me was incredibly LENIENT..esp after he had a long talk abt WHY he was sending her there..and as far as it being a punishment,i fail to understand what the princess was expecting?a pat on the back?had sum1 like taps taken birth to my parents,probably the same people wud have been filing child abuse cases against my parents..coz they are not lenient..

thirdly the nonsense abt ichha getting the same clothes and same toys..as far as i remember ichha was still wearing her normal clothes..yes she got a room of her own..so jogi is guilty of tht..sue him for it!!!whatever ichha had,taps had sumthng better..

next,when taps came back frm the hostel,till after the leap,all taps has done is treat ichha like a servant..so where is the question of equality?ichha was travelling in autos and buses,taps had a car..ichha wud wear very normal clothes,taps had choicest materials for hers..

still people think jogi thakur is at fault..thn its their choice..and incredibly sad tht one good character is being maligned..there are very few respectworthy characters in this show and according to me jogi thakur is one of them..those who dnt agree cn form their own opinion..

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dolly

@tiny15

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Posted: 15 years ago

#55

Originally posted by: abhay119
somepeople blaming Nani and all around Tapu Baba. as they r understanding Tapu, why they r not understanding Nani. may be her parent also made her like tht. 😆 😆. so we sd blame her parents becos they spoiled her. and this cycle will continue and the ultimate guilty will be ADAM and EVE. 🤣 🤣. so dont blame and punish anybody but punish their parents. if anybody do murder find his parents and his surrounding people and hang thm. thn society will be crime free. wht do u think Rahul and Shivani. r u agree with me??

i appreciate sum ppl's reply abt psychology but i've also read sum books on this subject including Dr. Brian Weiss & osho. and from these & my experience of my life i came 2 only 1 conclusion that theres no justification 4 bad deeds & we r solely responsible 4 our gud deeds or bad deeds & their consequencies.

by the logic of jealousy abt child then osama, kasab & all terrorists r result of their parents ignorance. they r also brainwashed by sum ppl in the madarassas. so they also deserve sympathy & not the gallows.👏👏😲

and yes child shud b taken 2 pyshatrist wen they show jealousy but wat 2 do wen he/she hides it & pretend 2 b gud 2 all!!

@viji79 though i m not a fan of AR but the thing he told is v.correct!!👏👏 as Lord Krishna has himself told that u r solely responsible 4 ur actions & influence of certain ppl whether gud or bad only remain 4 sumtime & i don't think no1 is the great psychologist(its 1 of his qualities 2 understand human pyschology) than him!!!👏👏⭐️⭐️

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Posted: 15 years ago

#56

Originally posted by: tiny15
i appreciate sum ppl's reply abt psychology but i've also read sum books on this subject including Dr. Brian Weiss & osho. and from these & my experience of my life i came 2 only 1 conclusion that theres no justification 4 bad deeds & we r solely responsible 4 our gud deeds or bad deeds & their consequencies.

by the logic of jealousy abt child then osama, kasab & all terrorists r result of their parents ignorance. they r also brainwashed by sum ppl in the madarassas. so they also deserve sympathy & not the gallows.👏👏😲

and yes child shud b taken 2 pyshatrist wen they show jealousy but wat 2 do wen he/she hides it & pretend 2 b gud 2 all!!

@viji79 though i m not a fan of AR but the thing he told is v.correct!!👏👏 as Lord Krishna has himself told that u r solely responsible 4 ur actions & influence of certain ppl whether gud or bad only remain 4 sumtime & i don't think no1 is the great psychologist(its 1 of his qualities 2 understand human pyschology) than him!!!👏👏⭐️⭐️

👏thanx tiny for the wonderful message😊

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Krishna Navaneeth

@nanda_gopa

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Posted: 15 years ago

#57

I agree that blaming parents does not make sense at all. Tapasya seems to have a psychological fear that she will lose her parents love. This was fostered further by her Nani and the perception that she is a Thakur's daughter--a false sense of prestige in her social class status. She had pride in her wealth and never learned to see Ichha or Damini as human beings, they existed simply to serve Tapasya. In Tapasya's mind Ichha and Damini were servants.

Ichha and Damini were forever grateful to the Thakur family for the shelter and support they received that it never crossed their minds to speak ill of her or to complain about her to Jogi Thakur. Damini has not forgotten her social standing--and couldnt even imagine speaking against the master's daughter.

This is a classic case of social class differences. The rich thinking that they are owed the world!

Tapasya is now an adult and she has not taken any responsibility for her own behavior and therein lies the flaw in her own character. She has a false sense of pride about her own self and she has no regrets about her behavior. Wishing her ill does not make sense, she needs help!

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Posted: 15 years ago

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It is a shame to support such parents......

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ruchira maitra

@ruchira23

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Posted: 15 years ago

#59

rahul i completely agree with u. jogi n divya never neglected tappu but tappu's psycology is very different abt love she needs a psychiatrist.

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Posted: 15 years ago

#60

Originally posted by: bipasha23
rahul i completely agree with u. jogi n divya never neglected tappu but tappu's psycology is very different abt love she needs a psychiatrist.

i second u on that she needs a psychiatrist rather than husband...she is more ill than vansh was😲