Originally posted by: Chocru
How long should a person be punished for his mistakes? Specially a Moral crime is so subjective, there is a reason it has no legal punishment. Not at all condoning Fateh here but he realised, owned and trying his best to redeem himself. Should he be punished lifelong for it? I wouldn't take a cheater back but someone else would, should I sit and shame them for the choice? Where is the liberty to CHOOSE? Just because *I* don't nobody else should and they should comply to MY moral standards alone or I'll go shame them... how is it different from Society being judgemental about marriages or kids or other mundane things?
And here Fateh's case isn't a happily married man going horny and cheating his wife. He went to the woman he wanted to marry after he was forced into a marriage. Again, not at all ignoring or condoning his mistake or him leading on Tejo and breaking her trust so brutally and then being so selfish by shoving Jasmine on their faces. His wasn't a normal case of cheating is what I feel. Despite that he deserves the shame and pain and punishment he got and Tejo is the only one who has a right to decide how much he deserves to be punished and for how long. And he has grace enough to accept it.
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@bold. Period. Nothing more, nothing less. If tejo accepted him even just after ema, that's her choice. Why do they feel so comfortable Dictating an adult woman what to do? Feminism, which so many of these dunderheads sing about day and night, focuses on women's right to choose. If she's making a wrong decision then she'll have to suffer.
My personal opinion, I wrote this somewhere else too. Just copying.
Cheating is a choice. You're absolutely right there. But so is everything else in our lives.
People have very hard and fast judgment on cheating, because it's an emotional issue. Anyone who has been cheated, knows what kind of damage it does, and just how much it hurts. It wrecks you. So, immediately there's this harsh judgment passed down.
However, like everything, every issue can be awfully complicated and complex. One answer can never ever be suitable for everything.
If you believe in redemption, second choices, then the answer is yes. I believe redemption is entirely possible because I believe people can change. There are way more heinous offenses than cheating, and people change after that.
I'd like to talk about two things, redemption and forgiveness.
First, is an individual's effort. You realise your mistakes, you accept them, and you work on them. As simple as it sounds, most people can't do it. This is why mostly people never accept they are wrong. IT's the hardest part, and if someone does this, then they have redeemed themselves.
Second, forgiveness. A person redeems themselves, and then apologizes. What then? Their redemption's true test. If you think you deserve forgiveness, you are still a piece of shit. You have to acknowledge that people got hurt because of you, and they have the right to hate you forever. You do not deserve their forgiveness. If they forgive you, wonderful. But it's their choice at the end of the day.
Also, it's nothing to do about morality, the way these fans are behaving. It's just their inability to deal with rejection. Their ship didn't sail now they're angry. That's it. No mystery whatsoever