Anshuman's Problem - Page 2

Originally posted by: monaco

@Ayab and @LadyZaib...

Agreed, I see Anshuman as more real. People like Paakhi really don't exist in real world... Atleast I haven't seen many. They are exceptions. I myself, have not "trusted" so easily... Anshuman has a lot going on, a lot, and his reaction (though not justified) is not unexpected.

Anshuman does need to learn how to trust in a relationship, but that trust can not come from being in love (and beating yourself for not being up to par) with a demi-goddess. That trust comes from years of being with someone, and communicating. Living a "normal" life with someone who slowly brings you out of your shell. Seeing the ups and downs of life together as a team - not just playing badminton, you see?

Who is Paakhi? From Anshuman's eyes, she is someone who waited for him for 18 years, yes, which in itself is something no one in today's time and age do. Is his first reaction going to be, Wow, I am so lucky that she waited for me, or is his first reaction going to be, "What does she want? Is she for real?". Everything Paakhi did including her not leaving when his so called affair with Tanya was exposed... is so unreal to Anshuman. In his world, people are matlabi, swarthi, and what not. With agendas. With intentions.

Then, three months later, he begins to trust Paakhi. Sees her as a really genuine person who is good hearted, and begins to feel comfortable around her. A few months later, he realizes how well she bonds with his family. A week of coochy-cooing later, he feels attracted to her and is about to consummate his marriage with her. But... he hasn't yet opened his heart to her, the one with the wounds his mother gave. The one with the complexes his father inflicted. The one with the relationship he had with his first wife. Paakhi has an inkling, but not because Anshuman said this to him... But jijusa did.

And, he sees a man constantly bumping into Paakhi.. and only Paakhi... everytime he is momentarily away from her... (ting, Super Cop Paakhi, you didn't suspect him?)... a sonography report from your family doctor that confirms that your wife is pregnant... And, all your worst fears come true. Every accusation he makes is believable - Paakhi waited for 18 years yes, but the sparsh ki bhasha was not how she recognized him... she saw him before during the dance, didn't she. And, he is almost a celebrity who has been on magazine covers so a net savvy Paakhi must have known instantly that he is Anshuman. All that sparsh ki bhasha must have been bullshit... Right? Paakhi has always been this "righteous" self, so why was she always meeting this man? (Yes, she is not meeting him, I am just being Anshuman for a second)... why did Paakhi not leave even when Tanya and his relationship was exposed... To do what? To eventually turn the tables - make him fall in love and then dump him... All this is a very believable story one can build... and justify to himself... Just like Anshuman's father. Anshuman's mother left them (whether by choice or not) and let his father create another himself .Today Paakhi has left Anshuman, and will let him create another Anshuman. Ayaan, will grow up with a different set of issues.

I may sound very traditional, when I say this, but Wives and Mothers react differently to situations. I am never a fan of mothers staying in loveless marriages and am totally against being abused for the sake of children, but at the same time, I feel that having children come with a set of responsibility - and Mothers dont deal with misunderstandings like that. Sorry.

Originally posted by: ayab

Well Pakhi did catch Tanya and Anshuman in a hotel room together, that was close enough to believing that Anshuman had cheated on Pakhi. Remember the scene where Anshuman lied that he was going to a meeting in Delhi, but the plane crashed and he was still in Shimla. She still forgave him and left the house without insulting, creating a drama, or calling Anshuman characterless. Whereas Anshuman did the complete opposite and accused her, called her characterless, and hurt her past the breaking point.

Originally posted by: LadyZaib

BUT BUT BUT we all accused and came down like hell on anshuman when don't forget they had seperate rooms did't they? why did she forgive him? her reason was she wanted to prove to anshuman that tanya was not the right girl for him..so what about now hasn't tanya cause all this heartache...?

Originally posted by: LadyZaib

BUT BUT BUT we all accused and came down like hell on anshuman when don't forget they had seperate rooms did't they? why did she forgive him? her reason was she wanted to prove to anshuman that tanya was not the right girl for him..so what about now hasn't tanya cause all this heartache...?

Originally posted by: monaco

I am actually a bit appalled at Lavanya and Girish too. Girish was all about lecturing Anshuman about what he should do. But then, why is he not making an effort to go put some sense to Paakhi now? In real world, if this was happening, and they knew that Anshuman's the one who accused Paakhi incorrectly - they would still go and tell Paakhi that she should give him a chance, instead of letting the chips fall as they may. After all if Girish deserves forgiveness after cheating on Lavanya (drunk is not an excuse in my book) and bringing home a Naina... if Lavanya deserves forgiveness after cheating on Girish on purpose to make him jealous and almost ready to sleep with another man... Why doesn't Anshuman. Why are Girish and Lavanya atleast not trying to tell Paakhi, that hey for a change, you are being too ... (I better not say it!)