1/09 Episode Discussion!!

Hey there all the lovely people!!
Me is back. Please do watch the episode, it's a wonderful treat to watch for the mind, change indeed begins with self. So here is my nonsense post.


"Mitti se,
Mitti par,
Aur phir mitti main,
Toh phir ghuroor kis baat ka"

Man is made of clay, the basic genetic makeup of all human being is the same.. it's how one grows up, the society, family and community all mould up a person.
It was a brilliant episode in terms of analogies, how without their identities even the Gods are unrecognized, importance of identity is aptly described.
Bhabho gives life lesson goals today. Things might not always go ones way, one can definitely strive for change and actually make do/better with whatever they get. Kanak has chosen to go back to the dark ages, but it's not necessary to accept darkness as her fate and destiny, Kanak can be the source of light, that little flame which casts huge shadows and eliminates the constant presence of darkness. - light and darkness are two entities cannot survive without the other, what if there was no darkness, wouldn't an all bright light hurt the eyes. Had it been always dark, would it be possible to even imagine how things are...
Bhabho gives powerful and sensible advice to Kanak that she doesn't have to accept blindly whatever her husband says or does.. Uma is a good man, who loves her very much, he is a stone in which there is a lot of emotion, his only flaw is that he is blinded by dharm, extremity of dharm. He doesn't have the idea/concept of a woman existing without a man. Kanak never lets go an opportunity to express her concerns regarding Uma and his dharm, Bhabho cuts her short that it's not his fault, it's just that his world has been different, in which a woman has no individual identity. Santosh herself was more or less on the same lines, but Sandy brought change and filled all the colors that are flying high today in the Rathi family. Kanak looks astounded, she is getting what Bhabho is trying to explain her. Goddess sarawati, Durga, Lakshmi were all in front of Kanak, and Bhabho says she has to be all of them - avatars to herd her sheep (Uma) from the meadows back home. Kanak has to be the eyes for her husband, it isn't necessary to be gandhari- a woman who gave up her vision for her blind husband. Kanak makes up her mind that she would bring change in Uma, his thought process but is clueless on how to do it, to which Bhabho reminds her the line 'Tu beti hai kiski'. Hence Kanak is determined to make/maintain her individual indentity despite being Uma's wife.
Uma on the other hand gives a piece of his mind to meena, meena insists on giving Kanak some things, material facilities of which she is used to. Uma kinda reprimands her to believe in giving dowry be it in the name of needed facilities... Kanak is his wife and as a husband it's his duty to fulfill all his wife's needs. And as for taking something from Rathis, he already is taking their crown jewel, Kanak from them. And to build relationships materials are not necessary but love care and concern build relations. Meena is pretty impressed by Uma 😉 but still she asks him as a mother always does, to keep Kanak happy.

- Kanak v. Uma -> Those who look only for the lead couple's interactions would have found this episode boring. It is, however, a turning point in the story. Now that Kanak accepted the rishta - will she lose her identity in it? Hopefully, not with today's guidance from Bhabho. Identity retention is a perennial question for women. Its not just about enlightening Uma, but maintaining the very essence of Kanak. Something many women struggle with.

- Uma n Pavan - are cute, but not even Uma-Kanak comes close to Kanak-Shiv scenes.

- Meena v. Uma - Uma Scores big with Chachi

- Maasi v. Kanak - seems like they are setting up Bhabho v. Sandhya 2.0

- Uma v. Vansh - bring it ON! Want to see how Uma wins over Vansh. Also would love to see Vansh running off with Saras and how Uma reacts then.

Nice post blu. But i just like some things Uma do and follows. doing yoga is good for us. Drinking good stuff is good for us. Doing meditation is good. Eating healthy is good. Some rules are strict which he follows but some are wrong and not all. Yes he can be extreme at times and toning that down would be great without changing some things completely.

Ohhh boy...

Originally posted by: zaisha1

Nice post blu. But i just like some things Uma do and follows. doing yoga is good for us. Drinking good stuff is good for us. Doing meditation is good. Eating healthy is good. Some rules are strict which he follows but some are wrong and not all. Yes he can be extreme at times and toning that down would be great without changing some things completely.

I do want Uma to use modern technology and change for the better but i also don't want uma to loose his personality which defines him. Suraj never changed neither did sandhya and yet they bought amazing and good changes in Rathi house. I want KanUm to do the same.

Kanak is going to keep her identity and fight for it, i just don't want Uma to loose his identity in the process.

Hey there Zaisha
Thank you for the lovely comment.

You have brought up a very valid point to the discussion, Uma is not outright wrong. It's his strong character and personality which makes him Uma Shankar.. as nothing can be perfect, Uma has his flaw, his thought process which cannot see a woman as an equal, an individual person without the support of male guardian, be it father, brother or husband.
When Kanak says she would change his thinking, I hope she brings change to this attitude towards women, rather than trying to overhaul his whole character. She needs to bring in that break which is required for him to be a bit more worldly and accept world as it is now, not viewing everything from the book.

Nice post. I liked yests and today's epi

Uma pawan scene would have been cuter if they showed them interacting... Pawan is a smart kid just like shiv so pawan questioning uma would have been fun to watch
Meena uma scene was good from meena pov her worries as a mother and also after knowing how kanak has to cope up in ladnu she was worried for her but uma assured her

Bhabho kanak scene i liked so much... That was one good advice then suraj's
Bhabho understood uma and the problem and guided kanak towards the right path... If she has decided to go back then she needs to stand on her own and not lose herself in the darkness

Also vansh was rightfully hurt as he don't know what struggles sandhya has to go through to live her dreams coz he also missed out on first season like most of us 😆 just kidding

Wonder why ved was silent throughout as he was so hurt last time that he asked kanak to never show her face again
Seriously ved needs some character dev just being ips won't work

Lol masi reaction for shiv was so thanda
The kid left house and went to pushkar and they were not even concern3d or its like he is ladka so it's ok age doesn't matter

Oh someone mentioned uma changing
I definitely do not want uma to change
Don't want him to wear modern western clothes nor change his good habits
I want him to change his thoughts views about woman and the extremes of dharam
But otherwise I find him very diff from other mls of tv so I don't want him to change

Awesome post as usual, Blue. Looking forward to the next phase of their story.

Originally posted by: -Namita-

Awesome post as usual, Blue. Looking forward to the next phase of their story.

Hey there
Thank you for reading and commenting. Much appreciated 😊

Originally posted by: AnjanaYYZ

- Kanak v. Uma -> Those who look only for the lead couple's interactionswould have found this episode boring. It is, however, a turning point in the story. Now that Kanak accepted the rishta - will she lose her identity in it? Hopefully,notwith today'sguidance from Bhabho.Identity retention isa perennialquestion for women. Its not just aboutenlightening Uma, but maintaining the veryessence of Kanak. Something many womenstruggle with.

- Uma n Pavan - arecute, butnot even Uma-Kanak comes close to Kanak-Shiv scenes.

- Meena v. Uma - Uma Scores big with Chachi

- Maasi v. Kanak - seems like they are setting up Bhabho v. Sandhya 2.0

- Uma v. Vansh - bring it ON! Want to see how Uma wins over Vansh. Also would love to see Vansh running off with Saras and how Uma reacts then.

Hey there Anjana.
I was absolutely lost in the episode. It was amazing and I go for quality rather than silly content al the time.
Kanak had indeed accepted the relationship, but had severe doubts on Uma and his views regarding women, which she expressed to Bhabho.
Bhabho for a wonderful interesting change is showing Kanak the road ahead, holding her hand and guiding her through, she can only advise and support. Rest is upto Kanak how she executes the whole idea/concept step by step.
Yes indeed this is the issue almost every woman goes through, changing and adapting to new surroundings and losing her essence in the process, I really hope they pull this off in a convincing way.

Pawan is a cute little kid, but he too is reserved with Uma and vice versa. Shiv and Kanak are class apart.

Atleast Uma is considering winning over Vansh. Vansh is too much tashan.