So lets look at this matter from another angle (hopefully).
Is it okay to commit attrocities in the name of Dharam/Religion? is it okay to attack someone's body autonomy in the name of Dharam? Should we overlook Kanaks wants and wishes and her happiness because of Umas beliefs?
Most importantly why are we treating Uma and Uma's beliefs as two seperate entities? Currently there's no Uma without Dharam.
So God gave him signals and he followed it? So why do people put the whole blame on Uma's Dharams rather than Uma himself, why excuse him from what he has done and till this date he seems to feel no remorse for it.
A lot of us believe in God in general but God's signals are so not so clear nor straightforward nor conditional.
God gave signals Uma-Kanak were meant to be, but that doesn't mean they're meant to be together right this instance in a non-consesual way. God gave no time constraint so when Uma read these signals and chose to force her instead of woo her like most people
Is it fair to blame God on his actions?
Man is fallible.
To be religious is a choice...but when you use your religion as a weapon against unsuspecting people and over-ride their body autonomy and their consent/choices, thats a whole different thing.
Why are some people saying Uma is not at fault, it's just Gods signals and his Dharam? Uma is a product of his Dharams and it's Uma that committed the act not God.
People kill/terrorise in the name of God, doesn't make it anymore right or excusable. It's the mans actions not Gods will, Gods will itself is not a clear cut thing that can be read or understood easily.