Pakhi is batameez, lazy, selfish, delusional, arrogant etc etc. Anupama has lamented that she doesn't have sanskars. But what is the root of the problem? Why is she like that? Because she is crazy spoiled. She throws tantrums, has no sense of responsibility for herself and always blame others especially her mother. She needs therapy! Actually the entire family does. But what does Anupama do? She gives her 100 pages bhashan but does nothing, absolutely nothing to improve her. Now what will she do when she realizes her darling daughter wants nothing more but to become a high class housewife? Seriously! I will be honest, I used to be a little like Pakhi in my college days. I was unambitious and also had some depression and anxiety and was not focused on my career. You know who pushed me and made sure I behave like an adult? My parents! They told me in no uncertain terms that if I want to live my life on my own terms then I need to make my own money and be independent. But if I came back and did nothing, they would not tolerate it. Did that make me hate my parents? Yes, for a little bit. Now, who do I talk to daily and am closest to? My parents! FYI, I am 26. That's the one thing I hate about ITV about how parents are so lachaar in their kids' love. Parents can and should discipline their kids! If the kid is absolutely irredeemable, then let go of the kid. But at least make some efforts. Anupama only reacts when something happens, but never takes action to correct her. It's not Pakhi's behavior or attitude that needs correcting, it's her own personality. I guess they will show her getting burned and getting reality check now. But she will only grow up, if her parents stop cushioning her. Anuj should get them a 1 bedroom apartment. So they can live on their own and figure out their marriage. He's already giving job to Adhik. Let them work out their marriage on their own. If Pakhi still wants to be a housewife, let her be. She will sorely regret it when she has to ask her husband for money for everything. PS- nothing against housewives. But Pakhi's parents always invested in her education and would have even sent her abroad for masters' if she was serious. She was free to make her career and live her life. She doesn't want to be a housewife, she just wants to be a socialite at 21. Do no work and live in riches because she thinks Barkha's life is so happening. Ask Barkha who is craving to have her own boutique and who is living under Anuj's roof for money. Anupama and Vanraj are willing to do everything for their daughter, kudos for them for dreaming about her higher education and not restricting her education and career choices. But they don't want their kids to struggle. Don't they feel they need to massively improve their personalities? Everyone struggles in career and life, but the ones who succeed only do when they go with the right mindset. Learn from the struggle and embrace it. Don't whine about and expect your parents to pick you up.
I agree Anupama has struggled a lot. She also suffers from her kids. But if she wants to be a good mother, she needs to act like it. Yes, after kids become adults, their actions are not parents' responsibilities. But here, we know she cannot let go of her children. If she loves them so much, she needs to do right by them. By lecturing them and expecting them to behave and respect, yeah that's not going to happen. Her kids are naturally disrespectful and entitled. If she and Vanraj are sick of being the worst parents, then they need to parent their kids period. This is the nateeja of their overpampering. And it takes time to improve kids. Not going to happen overnight.
They show choti Anu be the perfect kid. Independent and mature, she is able to do kitchen work and take care of herself. I really wished to see Anupama introspect that with how she raised her kids. She would literally feed them, while they can't even go to the kitchen and cook food for themselves, let alone her. Anuj and little Anu are the perfect family- giving and selfless who are independent while the Shahs are toxic and selfish and dependent. The former pamper Anupama while the latter gets pampered by Anupama. But if Anuj and choti Anu are near perfect, it's because Anupama lets them be. She doesn't cater to them like she does to the Shahs. Even Barkha is way better than the Shahs. She can at least cook for herself and has taken care of Choti Anu when Anupama is at the Shah house. If Anupama stops catering to the Shahs-maybe they will improve? At least her kids will. Of course they will curse her to death and be absolutely vile about it.
Last note- is Anupama the worst mother on the show? I hate Leela but Anupama worships her like a mother, and her kids are generally respectful to her. She holds major sway on family. Nobody can ignore her. Barkha- Sara is a sweetheart and Adhik while being morally grey may disobey her but at least is not disrespectful like Anupama's kids are. Also I liked that Barkha talked about Adhik to the Shahs and said she cannot take his guarantee. I love that because it shows how well she knows her brother! She knows nobody can change drastically so immediately and if he did, it won't last. Contrast that with Anupama, who has no idea about her kids' personalities and is always shocked when they do or say something awful when it's completely in their behavior to do so. Rakhi- Kinjal is good woman. I am glad she took Kinjal and Arya to her place. Kinjal is strong and I credit that strength to Rakhi NOT Anupama. Kinjal is financially independent with a career and a rich mother and family business. Rakhi will always support Kinjal. Kinjal will also never be batameez like Pakhi and will realize the value of her mother. Dolly- Dolly's daughter is sweet and obedient. So yeah she is the worst mother.
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