I am currently not so upto date with us politicians 😊 but here are few things which i come across here in india.
But just wanted to share my pov on feminism. People say lot things about men and women being equal but as soon as a girl gets 25 people start taunting why she is not yet married. She will not find a guy or she will not be able to give birth etc. I agree may be for giving birth there would be some complications but its her choice decide what she wants. There are plenty of orphans who can adopted if needed.
I still see these things in rural areas irrespective of how forward we try to potray ourselves. For boys nobody even asks anything as they even if guy is 40+ he can marry anyone between 18 to 40. But girls marrying some one younger than a guy is considered as taboo.
Men can flirt with anyone marry anyone from other caste but if girls does that she has to change her religion in the name ladke ka khandhaan mahaan. Why cant they follow both the religion what is that obsession of converting girls in the name of love. When they loved them they did not see girls religion why after marriage they became intolerant towards her religion. Due to this reason girls are still treated as bhoj by many families who just want to marry her off so that they can avoid her getting converted or facing society if something like that happens. Which is inadvertly preventing many young girls from choosing their career as post marriage we agree or not girl's responsibilities and work are higher than men. For men its still the same home but girl has to take lot of responsibilities which will literally drain her and she might not even work post marriage. I will not deny there are some exceptions where men and women share workload equally but its minority.
Girls are expected to sacrifice her career to give birth to take care of child and to raise him. Surrogacy is considered as a sin and if women wants to keep a maid to teach her kid the taunts she will recieve from this so called society is so cringe. The definition of women in this society is solely born to marry, serve and raise and be a sacrificing lamb. I highly respect women who does that but men should understand they women also have desires to become something. Gone those days when ppl used to say if men will succeed that means its the women who worked behind him. Now its time to say if men and women both are succeeding that shows their love for each other.
-I have come across many couples where men don't learn cooking because they think if they learn the responsibilities would come on them.What harm it will make for men to learn cooking will it not help them to save money when wife is ill or she took a break. As these behaviours will force her to stay in the house forever as she thinks about money and his health than taking break and than thinking about her health.
I have come across some couples who share workload too. But its very rare. May be it depends on upbringing.
Its high time men start learning basic skills and supporting their wifes if she wishes to be career oriented and to understand marriage is not about just to give birth to a child it also includes sharing responsibilities and make it less stressfull for wife. If no, Sooner or later all girls will choose to stay single than loosing their freedom, desires and to avoid stress of office work, house work, children's education etc.
Edited by firewings_diya - 1 years ago
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