CVs need to stop shoving the narrative of Sai-Virat being soulmates. - Page 6

Originally posted by: maneetarhi

I am sharing my own personal crisis like this emotional abuse. I was a only child and a great start to my career. Suddenly my mom passed away in an accident saving me and leaving me in my father's arms. I was married immediately to a big family and they were very Orthodox. They didn't not allow me for a job and wanted to start family. My husband was always asking me to fulfill family's expectations of poojas and superstitions and if I deferred I was not allowed to talk to my dad and relatives. My husband will not allow me to talk and question my upbringing and insult in front of his family. Over a year and not speaking to any of my family and continuous taunts and tortures, I slipped into depression and had an accident just outside our house. Finally when I woke up in hospital, I asked for my dad and my husband. It was because I was emotional and weak and I wanted two people whom I called family. In reality people never change their mind set and my husband was nice to me for a few days and again I was subjected to same abuse cycle. Now I left that toxic relationship and started to be independent. I am through separation process and sometimes I feel empty but I am at peace. Relationships between spouses doesn't need love for survival but it needs trust and respect. Those words were last said to my husband by myself. When I saw sai saying that in some scene, I started watching it for sai Joshi. I saw myself in that timeline......

More power to you ❤️

It takes all the courage and energy in mind & body to do what you did.

There is a intresting theory that I debated with my bff and bro ..after one of my group counseling sessions .

Why do we assume that soulmate has to be a physical or romantic angle only ?

Soulmate is more like a soul connection ..no matter what it gives u comfort, safety and feeling of being nutured no matter what happens..some imp things are

They know u r moods and are able to read and mostly guess it right

They have your back and don't need proof to believe u . There is space and respect in the relationship

They are your air behind the wings somewhere der in background to help u when u can't pick u rself up ..yet push u to do it

Unspoken non verbal communication

I agree with most points being said, that it is odd that Virat could sense Sai waking up, but could not sense all her pain from the past. However, the soulmate feature is not new and has always been there from the beginning. When Sai was praying at the Shiv mandir for Abba's birthday the dandelion fell on her shoulder and when Virat was going to yoga camp to fall into 'friendship' with PK, it also fell on his shoulder. It did so again at their wedding and UM pointed out that it mean rab ne bana di jodi, so the soulmate narrative has always been integral to Sai and Virat's story.

I think Sai acknowledged the role of destiny/divine hand as the reason for her to stay with virat on her aabas barsi. She said in that monologue n also in her birthday scene that fate has played a part in virat becoming her humsafar n in her not being able to leave despite attempts.

Honestly i felt that it was beautiful that Sairat relationship was based on both fate/destiny and their individual choice to be with each other. There was definitely extraordinary circumstances n a divine hand that made them come together but both of them in the past year had made conscious decisions to stay together despite their weird equation or taal-mel as Sai called it.

I think the reason so many of us are disillusioned is because with time we expect some progress....

The couple can have misunderstandings but there needs to be somethings that change radically which cements their relationship. And unfortunately the makers have erred there.....in order to make PP a recurring theme between Sairat they have messed up the screenplay/direction and key dialogues in the recent episodes to such an extent that we are unable to believe that the Sairat we were all rooting for n raving about even exist. N thats mainly from Virats end. I still see Sais love but Virat has been messed up.

I think in previous tracks where he messed up , they always did 1-2 things to show us Virat cared, and was in love with Sai. Thats why it was possible for all of us to melt just like Sai did when he apologized. But these past few episodes has had such a cruel Virat- one that has forgotten certain important boundaries while he was having his cold war with Sai. For example if Virat had asked pp to leave or shut up while he still "taunted" Sai, I'd have probably not minded as much. But what bothers me is that despite supposedly being upset at Sai for raising pp between them and not understanding his "love" for her, he still allows that vile woman within even a 6 feet radius of him.....n we got no indication that he cared for Sai at all until now when she is almost dying. And even then his reaction is not centered around -" i hope my Sai is ok because i cant imagine my life without her, I'm never going to hurt/ignore her to this extent that it drives her away from me and once shes ok I'll make sure we talk about everything n do whats best for her" Rather it is only about- "dont blame me, Sai doesn't understand my feelings but I still care for her and I want Sai to be ok, so dont doubt my intentions. I wont even go near her because she doesn't want to see my face- she doesn't understand me".

It becomes difficult to celebrate their kosmic connection and this soulmates waala pyaar when he has said/done things recently that make us doubt if there is any pyaar from Virats side in the first place! they are really gonna have to pull up the socks to make many of us once again believe in Virats sincerity in terms of genuinely loving Sai again....but Sairat are so magical that if they try , makers can still salvage the situation.

In order to rise from its own ashes, a phoenix first must burn. Let us hope that in destroying Sairat with this track, they will rise again stronger and differently, both fated together and by choice.

Originally posted by: maneetarhi

I am sharing my own personal crisis like this emotional abuse. I was a only child and a great start to my career. Suddenly my mom passed away in an accident saving me and leaving me in my father's arms. I was married immediately to a big family and they were very Orthodox. They didn't not allow me for a job and wanted to start family. My husband was always asking me to fulfill family's expectations of poojas and superstitions and if I deferred I was not allowed to talk to my dad and relatives. My husband will not allow me to talk and question my upbringing and insult in front of his family. Over a year and not speaking to any of my family and continuous taunts and tortures, I slipped into depression and had an accident just outside our house. Finally when I woke up in hospital, I asked for my dad and my husband. It was because I was emotional and weak and I wanted two people whom I called family. In reality people never change their mind set and my husband was nice to me for a few days and again I was subjected to same abuse cycle. Now I left that toxic relationship and started to be independent. I am through separation process and sometimes I feel empty but I am at peace. Relationships between spouses doesn't need love for survival but it needs trust and respect. Those words were last said to my husband by myself. When I saw sai saying that in some scene, I started watching it for sai Joshi. I saw myself in that timeline......

You are a strong woman and inspiration to many!!

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

Exactly..probably when the whole family bitc***g about Sai along with Virat was shot, the backlash was not that huge...Everyone from channel to PH changed their course after Virat was bashed for hosting Navratri.. That was huge. Not a single comment in his appreciation. Infact Neil's dance was not even appreciated for the first time during the Ganpati celebration. So may be they got it all this nonsense to establish Virat as the true soul mate.. The way he spoke about her after she left looked despiteful and was extremely despicable. NOw all this hogwash not working for me to say the least.

see if before that scene, if thye made Virat think of all the things that lead to Sai leaving, it would have been a scene with some "dignity".

Originally posted by: Tiptione

I agree with most points being said, that it is odd that Virat could sense Sai waking up, but could not sense all her pain from the past. However, the soulmate feature is not new and has always been there from the beginning. When Sai was praying at the Shiv mandir for Abba's birthday the dandelion fell on her shoulder and when Virat was going to yoga camp to fall into 'friendship' with PK, it also fell on his shoulder. It did so again at their wedding and UM pointed out that it mean rab ne bana di jodi, so the soulmate narrative has always been integral to Sai and Virat's story.

All those scenes were justified and made sense with the story, like I discussed with Neerja.. But here after all he has done to her in the recent episodes in the name of heartbreak and indifference does not justify the scene.. This is being done just to get some brownie points for Virat after all the backlash the character has got. If he would not have talked so much about her, when she left, did not keep hammering her till the end, this scene would have atleast some "dignity". Did not work for me..

Originally posted by: AnjuRish

There is a intresting theory that I debated with my bff and bro ..after one of my group counseling sessions .

Why do we assume that soulmate has to be a physical or romantic angle only ?

Soulmate is more like a soul connection ..no matter what it gives u comfort, safety and feeling of being nutured no matter what happens..some imp things are

They know u r moods and are able to read and mostly guess it right

They have your back and don't need proof to believe u . There is space and respect in the relationship

They are your air behind the wings somewhere der in background to help u when u can't pick u rself up ..yet push u to do it

Unspoken non verbal communication

Definitely, there is this generic perception that soulmates are in a physical/romantic angle only because somehow society has this framework that only your partner is there with you always, all others are there in the background but not every single day post a certain age.

Totally agree with what you say, a lot many people may have soulmates or that one person whom they connect with the most in a non-romantic angle.

Originally posted by: AnjuRish

There is a intresting theory that I debated with my bff and bro ..after one of my group counseling sessions .

Why do we assume that soulmate has to be a physical or romantic angle only ?

Soulmate is more like a soul connection ..no matter what it gives u comfort, safety and feeling of being nutured no matter what happens..some imp things are

They know u r moods and are able to read and mostly guess it right

They have your back and don't need proof to believe u . There is space and respect in the relationship

They are your air behind the wings somewhere der in background to help u when u can't pick u rself up ..yet push u to do it

Unspoken non verbal communication

I honestly dont believe in the concept of soulmates. Not in this world. Partners can understand each other, know each other., love each other, be for each other. But the concept of soulmates are way beyond my belief. I have not seen any in this life.