For Rakhi Dave living in a joint family itself is a crime!!!! She doesn't want her daughter to live like that she didn't raise her to be that way. It's not that she doesn't care about her husband, it just that she is quite dominating as a wife and that's very evident from how she seems to have a final say in their own matters, as far as the Shah family is concerned, yes she doesn't give a damn about them because according to her they are the villain of her life and she hates them to the core. They have not tortured of disrespected Kinjal but lifestyle has definitely downgraded to a great extent and that is what hurts Rakhi the most, she wants her daughter to continue living in luxury like she used to before marriage because that is what she deserves as her child, every parent wants the best for their child especially when they can afford it and what the Shah’s are giving Kinjal is sub standard as per Rakhi and she cannot fathom or accept that no matter what kinjal says or thinks. Moreover Kinjal is her only daughter and child so its understandable why she is unable to come to terms with her relationship with the Shah family. Kinjal gets what she needs no doubt and Anupama is there to see that but that is just not good enough for Rakhi Dave, for her Kinjal should be attending her weekly spa sessions, going for shopping, having lunch, brunch or dinner at the best restaurants available, have atleast 5 to 6 maids attending to her needs and serving her 24x7 not being a maid herself, in short what Rakhi wants is that her daughter continues living in luxury and not a middle class life given she is her only daughter and she has certain dreams and aspirations for her future. And let's be frank, Kinjal is overworked, she is not even looking after herself anymore, as a mother Rakhi obviously hates and blames the Shah family for it. So I understand where Rakhi is coming from and why she is doing it, for a mother her child's wellbeing is more important than being classy and if it requires one to be disgusting, horrible or anything that is possible to ensure that then she would do it, because that is how a mother is.
Shah's did break Rakhi’s family, I mean her family was just her, her husband and kinjal, with Kinjal gone it's just two aging parents living in a house. Rakhi was against the marriage and she was only willing to yield if Paritosh agreed to come and live in the Dave mansion like her own husband after marriage, did that happen? No right? So she is also not wrong in her place, the marriage took place against her will, so technically she is the one who is a loser in this arrangement while the Shah family has just got one person more to their family. Anupama couldn't even tolerate or live without Paritosh for more that 2 days when he moved into the Dave mansion so imagine Rakhi’s state of mind here without Kinjal her only child, moreover Anupama has two sons, would it have killed her to let one go who anyways wanted to leave voluntarily? When she was worried about how toshu was adjusting to the food, environment in the Dave mansion she immediately dragged him back home against Rakhi’s wish didn't she so why can't Rakhi do the same? Anupama has two sons, one daughter, one daughter in law and one soon to be daughter in law, who does Rakhi have? Parents who only have one child and especially if it's a daughter tend to be very particular, specific and even subtly possessive and protective of their child, some of them literally screen out people they think shouldn't be around their child and this Shah family is one such that Rakhi does not approve of or trust at all and I don't blame her for it either because she is not wrong about it.
Well coming to kinjal being smart, the fact that she actually married a guy like paritosh, makes me doubt her intelligence many times and no matter how old and grown children get, there are somethings that parents understand much better than their young ones.
You seem to understand Rakhi Dave quite well. Good. But don’t say all the mothers would do what Rakhi Dave does. I beg to differ being a mother myself.
I can never side with women like Rakhi. She is a CONTROL FREAK of lowest order who manipulates, badmouths and disrespects everyone. She could not have a happy family of her own and now she wants to destroy not only Shah’s but her own daughter’s happiness. Yes, parents love their children and they will do all they can for their happiness BUT if that happiness lies in a middle class family for a rich girl then so be it as long as that middle class family treats her good. AND here that is the case only.
There is an expression, “ JAB DIL AAYA GADHI PER TO PARI KYA CHEESE HAI”!! This seems to be true for Kinjal. If she wants a man like Toshu in her life then no one can convince her otherwise. She is an EDUCATED ADULT. Let’s not forget that. She has to be given a chance for the happiness she chose for herself. If it does not workout then she is also responsible for making those choices. But until that happens she can’t be judged or manipulated by ANYONE for making those choices. Don’t forget they are married now with their families’ blessings (after they eloped) and if I am not mistaken Rakhi Dave was very much present. If she failed to stop her own daughter then it is her failure and she can’t extract revenge from her in- laws for treating her right. That is just pure evil.
As far as I know Kinjal is pretty happy with all the people around her. She does not want to move out purely because she wanted to be a part of a big family that she never had. Truthfully, I have never seen her complain about it even once. If you are happy with what you have then luxuries or all the money in the world don’t matter. Rakhi Dave can also lose all her money in a flash then what will she do?? Money can come and go but not family. Either you have it or you don’t. If tomorrow Kinjal is unhappy and miserable because she is not able to live in that penthouse with Toshu surrounded by all the servants then whose fault it is going to be. It might be pretty difficult to come back to Shah’s by then because Rakhi Dave is going to make sure that they have no relations with the family when living on their own.
And about guy living at in-laws or a girl living at her in-laws, that is a social norm in India that a girl goes to live at her husband’s house. In rare cases, it is acceptable for a guy to live with his in-laws. A Ghar Jamai usually does not have respect at his in- laws in India because it is believed that he is living off of his wife’s parents.
Here Toshu went to live with Dave’s purely for his own selfish reasons not to help anyone with anything. When he was not treated there well he was desperately missing and remembering his own mom at the drop of each hat. Yes they showed it as extreme when Anupama went to fetch him she acted like Toshu was a small child and was treated badly in a dorm or something and that she could not live without him. She made a mistake. She should have let him rot there. He might have learned a lesson or two from his dearest saasu maa.🤮
The point is NO ONE should interfere with a married couple weather they live in a joint family or a nuclear one. Their marriage is THEIR business and ONLY theirs. No one else’s. Not even parents’. Do you ever see anyone interfering with Kinjal and Toshu at Shah’s house?? No. Even when they fight Anupama tells them to go to their room and sort it out and not fight in front of anyone. Here, the great Rakhi Dave feels it’s her birth- right to walk in Shah’s household anytime she wants like she owns them and dare to interfere with EVERY D*** THING, WHY?? Just because they are not filthy rich, disrespectful and mannerless like her.🧐
If a woman like her come to my house like that, I would be getting a restraining order against her. And NO ONE can dare to do a thing about it.😎
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