Babita scar is way too deep..

Babita ke zhakhm bohut deep hai yaar... It's not that she won't trust HS she does but her insecurities are taking over her trust bcoz she is afraid of another betrayal... Yeh karke wo surf khud degrade kar rahi hai apne nazaron me... She feels that she is not worth it... And by this she is feeling more insecure...

And HS have to be strong to experience all this....

But I know they will pass with flying colors in this phase is well like always...

BTW I liked Minni and Mikey scene it was so soothing..

Yeah even I feel that babes is overthinking because of her past experience

Babita's fear runs into her very being which is natural after such a struggle in life. She was only 18 when she got married. Keeping quiet after marriage, never fulfilling her desires, becoming a mother when she herself was a child. All these things left a lasting impression on her.

It is not easy to forget 17 years in a matter of a few months. This is a serial and thus the pace, but in real life these issues are not solved so soon. Nobody gets a divorce in a matter of a month. These cases go on for a long time.

And it is good that Babita is jealous, once she addresses this issue it will assure her that Hanumaan will not ditch her like Ashok. And even better it is her friend that she is jealous of. Even if Babita is jealous, she trusts Poonam, so if Poonam makes Babita understand, she will.

she is not degrading herself, she is learning to speak. had she had this courage to speak upto ashok, maybe she would not have been in such a situation, or atleast would have left him much sooner.

Originally posted by: shruti_luvs_msk

Babita's fear runs into her very being which is natural after such a struggle in life. She was only 18 when she got married. Keeping quiet after marriage, never fulfilling her desires, becoming a mother when she herself was a child. All these things left a lasting impression on her.

It is not easy to forget 17 years in a matter of a few months. This is a serial and thus the pace, but in real life these issues are not solved so soon. Nobody gets a divorce in a matter of a month. These cases go on for a long time.

And it is good that Babita is jealous, once she addresses this issue it will assure her that Hanumaan will not ditch her like Ashok. And even better it is her friend that she is jealous of. Even if Babita is jealous, she trusts Poonam, so if Poonam makes Babita understand, she will.

she is not degrading herself, she is learning to speak. had she had this courage to speak upto ashok, maybe she would not have been in such a situation, or atleast would have left him much sooner.

I shouldn't have used degrade what I feel. Is she still. Feels. That she is not. Worth a healthy relationship that's why her insecurities are not home yet...

U r right getting divorced in India is not easy... As it takes years for proceeding and more than winning ur inner battle is more difficult than this...

I hope babes understand this soon....

Yes she is voicing out as she knows that this man will listen to her rant... As HS told earlier to. Lala that she is taking her past frustration on him....

Originally posted by: Cinnamon_Kisses

Yeah even I feel that babes is overthinking because of her past experience

of course she is and that scar was expected to come out and hope tomorrow it will healed once and for all

I completely understand her insecurities and am not blaming her feeling this way. Rather, it's because of her insecurities that I wish the wedding didn't happen so soon. As mentioned, her divorce took place literally months ago. There's no way that she's going to heal those scars soon. Let her overcome her insecurities, have her emotions be balanced out and be confident in HS' love for her. They didn't need to jump straight into marriage. They could've dated and when they felt the time was right, then gotten married.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

I completely understand her insecurities and am not blaming her feeling this way. Rather, it's because of her insecurities that I wish the wedding didn't happen so soon. As mentioned, her divorce took place literally months ago. There's no way that she's going to heal those scars soon. Let her overcome her insecurities, have her emotions be balanced out and be confident in HS' love for her. They didn't need to jump straight into marriage. They could've dated and when they felt the time was right, then gotten married.

Don't you think dating would not have healed her scars, as there would still be a lot of insecurities? At least after marriage, she'll be secure, she'll have haq on her Hanuman. I understand where you coming from, but I also feel the marriage is probably the right way to address Babita's insecurities... She'll be secured, she'll work on those insecurities with Hanuman's help... and not pack her bags and leave... she wouldn't have stuck around for long without a bandhan. If you know what I mean...

Originally posted by: annx

Don't you think dating would not have healed her scars, as there would still be a lot of insecurities? At least after marriage, she'll be secure, she'll have haq on her Hanuman. I understand where you coming from, but I also feel the marriage is probably the right way to address Babita's insecurities... She'll be secured, she'll work on those insecurities with Hanuman's help... and not pack her bags and leave... she wouldn't have stuck around for long without a bandhan. If you know what I mean...

I'm not sure tbh and this whole thing is very complicated. Babita was already in a marriage but it failed. So where's the guarantee that this won't happen again? (We know it won't because it's HS, but the question will always be there in Babes' mind.) I suggested dating purely for the purpose of Babes having the assurance that HS loves her. Let's not forget that the other factor in this marriage is Minnie. I don't want them to reach a stage where without Minnie being around, they have no reason to be with one another. They need something that unifies them purely on their own merit. Also, with dating, if Babes ever felt that HS is not the right person for her then she had the freedom to leave. But with marriage, it'll be much more difficult for her to just up and go.

I don't know if I'm making much sense here. I've never dated nor been married so I have no idea how these relationships operate or the type of assurances that a person gets. But regardless of the relationship status, I strongly believe that someone should be in it 100%, especially marriage. If they enter their marital life with all this baggage, then I see nothing but complications ahead. It's a new phase/chapter in one's life and it should be entered on good terms.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

I'm not sure tbh and this whole thing is very complicated. Babita was already in a marriage but it failed. So where's the guarantee that this won't happen again? (We know it won't because it's HS, but the question will always be there in Babes' mind.) I suggested dating purely for the purpose of Babes having the assurance that HS loves her. Let's not forget that the other factor in this marriage is Minnie. I don't want them to reach a stage where without Minnie being around, they have no reason to be with one another. They need something that unifies them purely on their own merit. Also, with dating, if Babes ever felt that HS is not the right person for her then she had the freedom to leave. But with marriage, it'll be much more difficult for her to just up and go.

I don't know if I'm making much sense here. I've never dated nor been married so I have no idea how these relationships operate or the type of assurances that a person gets. But regardless of the relationship status, I strongly believe that someone should be in it 100%, especially marriage. If they enter their marital life with all this baggage, then I see nothing but complications ahead. It's a new phase/chapter in one's life and it should be entered on good terms.

Babes, life doesn't work like that... I know people who dated for 9 years, got married and then divorced! There are people I know who married young, had two girls and then divorced... I know a woman who stayed married for 14 years, divorced and remarried and is now happy!

Dating or no dating is no guarantee of how marriage turns out to be... It is only after marriage that you find out about the other person... when you get to share every second with a person, your bedroom, your bathroom, your wardrobe... that is when the compatibility comes into the play... Knowing and dating someone for all your life and you would still not know the minute details... till you live with them... that is why there is a common saying 'marriage is a gamble'. It truly is...

Either marriage or a live-in... but then I have my own reservations with live-in so I won't comment. Also, being a Muslim, I'll be biased!

P.S. I have seen successful love marriages and arranged marriages too... so not all marriages turn out to be bad. Don't give up on the institution 🤗

Yes I agree dating gives no guarantee of marriage. Marriage could be totally different experience all together. Marriage requires adjustments from both ends and understanding and yes acceptance of each other. It's your daily day to day life. Babita needed marriage as base for her to open up with HS. She needed that haq to come out openly and embrace love.. for a person who is shy like her marriage gives her confidence to love and express that love...