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So these guys have come to Koh sa Mui 😃
The trip all of us high school grads take from this part of the world - to celebrate freedom from exams and some of us come back with broken bones or an upset tummy after - let's say trying many things. And there's one Nightigale in every group that shepherds us back to safety and makes us presentable to our parents when the come to pick us up from the airport!! Humm those were the days .. you took me back in time Nisha .

Wish Asma was on this thread she would have tons to say about KsM and the wicked places there

Ashwwwin seems a gentleman with one fatal flaw. Trisha sweet uncomplicated and unusually and innocently money minded gal. Ashwin is easy to fall for. Love all the shades of regret and simple pleasures you have sorted him with Nisha. Nicely done!!

But one query guys do you think our II ( or we ) would be ok if RnB makes mental notes of M or his other girls when he's with II like Trisha does with J when she's with Ashwwwin .. just asking ?!Edited by SWAN123 - 6 years ago

Sea good to hear how KSM is such a popular get away in your part of the world.

Originally posted by: SWAN123

So these guys have come to Koh sa Mui 😃
The trip all of us high school grads take from this part of the world - to celebrate freedom from exams and some of us come back with broken bones or an upset tummy after - let's say trying many things. And there's one Nightigale in every group that shepherds us back to safety and makes us presentable to our parents when the come to pick us up from the airport!! Humm those were the days .. you took me back in time Nisha .

Wish Asma was on this thread she would have tons to say about KsM and the wicked places there

Ashwwwin seems a gentleman with one fatal flaw. Trisha sweet uncomplicated and unusually and innocently money minded gal. Ashwin is easy to fall for. Love all the shades of regret and simple pleasures you have sorted him with Nisha. Nicely done!!

But one query guys do you think our II ( or we ) would be ok if RnB makes mental notes of M or his other girls when he's with II like Trisha does with J when she's with Ashwwwin .. just asking ?!

Swan, on your query ... one part of it i.e the situation on comparing notes is hypothetical as against T comparing Jayadev with Ashwin that's as given in the story. There are a couple of things to it. I would guess that any relationship you are in for any length of time is bound to have its pyshchlogical mantras on one's mind. And I'm also guessing that when one moves on from one to another in not that big interval of a time , it affects them even more.

But I'm not sure how that works in casual consensual just for the booty scenarios where a person liberal in his or her approach who has had multiple partners over the years thinks. May be they are able to just concentrate in the pleasure they get in the moment, leaving it as just that, an act of physical intimacy and are able to move on without any baggage most times except under rare circumstances where even for the liberal ones, one's muscle memory more than anything else should prompt a reminder of the past experience they have had now and then

To be honest, I get this query... as a reader it does make you think, oh my god... she's comparing. I mean when I went for my physical last month or so , my doc very casually suggested to me ,' hey may be we could schedule your Pap smear for the next year, not now , unless you have had multiple partners and would like to schedule one now . Given where we come from and where we are at our stage of lives , even answering such questions embarrasses me. But A Caucasian friend of mine who is single and when she gets in to the mood , she makes herself available to mingle... I mean she thinks otherwise . To her credit, She is insanely witty . She very cheekily comments about the partners she has had in terms of equipment in his boxers'. So I guess a few tend to compare being true to themselves . If I have to be casually crass, Trisha's erogenous zones likes Ashvin's equipment better here.Ha Ha   Shucks!! this sounds so crass to my ears ... Gee I can't believe I'm even writing this..huh!!! just saying... 😉 .

Anyways a good discussion point that spices up things...Edited by Errantnomad - 6 years ago

A Moratorium is essential over here too. Just let some things from the past and present " be "...



Edited by VeeIyer - 6 years ago

Veshamakaran in II's language 😉

When issues are resolved and intimacy explored ofcourse people are a problem! That's so relatable. Nice one Nisha. Meeru kuda malli tonderaga randi.. ( that's Telugu for Nisha come back soon) 😉

Empathy and Grace are depleting values in the times we live. It's so easy to be lost for a period of time where one's own grief and unrest makes them loose perspective and not see things from the other person's angle.

If Mandira lost her spouse , Prakash lost his spouse. I somehow understood that Ashvin's dad's loss was because of an accident in air , given his love for flying one of his flying sujourns that turned unfortunate whereas Trisha's moms loss was because of the direct fallout of that diner incident . The air mishap for all conjectures could have been a technical snag as well.

Shouldn't Vijaya's death find an equal empathy or mention as that of Ashvin's dad or even Sanchet's absence ?

Mandira thinks , acceptance of Trisha would mean forgiving her husband's death. If only She could look at that loss of a spouse/ mother from shanbag's perspective , may be some day she will have a better head space towards Trisha .

When one has gone through a traumatic experience it leaves one initially very numb. One then grapples with the grief and denial and falters with guilt. There is gradual acceptance of reality and one regains ones balance though there can be innumerable triggers that throw you off balance temporarily. Edited by moonwearer - 6 years ago

Originally posted by: Errantnomad

Empathy and Grace are depleting values in the times we live. It's so easy to be lost for a period of time where one's own grief and unrest makes them loose perspective and not see things from the other person's angle.

If Mandira lost her spouse , Prakash lost his spouse. I somehow understood that Ashvin's dad's loss was because of an accident in air , given his love for flying one of his flying sujourns that turned unfortunate whereas Trisha's moms loss was because of the direct fallout of that diner incident . The air mishap for all conjectures could have been a technical snag as well.

Shouldn't Vijaya's death find an equal empathy or mention as that of Ashvin's dad or even Sanchet's absence ?

Mandira thinks , acceptance of Trisha would mean forgiving her husband's death. If only She could look at that loss of a spouse/ mother from shanbag's perspective , may be some day she will have a better head space towards Trisha .

That's my point also.. may be ashwins dad was flying in agony or anger or in disturbed state of mind which could have resulted in the accident but then also as I can see all started coz of a drunken and toned gang of boys who misbehave with a lady... and who so ever be in the aanu's Place have called the police.. I mean anybody would have done the same
And as Nisha said incident was not so big but it had extreme actions and reactions from both ends
It's fate and they have to except it
Like that only Mandira has to except the fact that Ashwin is happy and in love with with Trisha

No matter what the bottom line is this only
By thinking more and not expecting the situation and Trisha she is making things difficult for herself and for Ashwin also