What if you were in Shorvari's shoes?

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Missesha

@Missesha

Dazzler

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Posted: 8 years ago

Watching TV serials is mostly for entertainment, but somewhere while watching the drama, it is inevitable for me to draw parallels between reel life and real life.

What Parth and Shorvari are going through is not uncommon. Even in the most well-educated and rich households, DILs do not get genuine acceptance in the family for various reasons (In this case caste & status is the reason).

And these DILs slog way too much to make a place for herself in the family, hoping that one day everything will be alright. To top it one day, she realises that she cannot become a mother and the problem solely lies in her and not in her husband.

What should such women do?

What would you do if either of you found yourselves or your loved one in a similar situation? Or what are you expecting the directors to show with regards to Shorvari's situation?

I would have preferred that Parth and Shorvari tell the truth to the family and be ready to be kicked out (as the worst scenario). After that, if they wanted they could still chose a surrogate mother and try the process. But I am so much against these time pressed decisions, shown in the show.

In a real life situation, however hard it may be, I would prefer to tell the truth to the family and hope that they would help me find a solution, but if not, I would not succumb to pressures and wouldn't see myself as an "instrument" to keep everyone happy.

It is one thing to go at lengths for something that I really want, and another thing to give up everything that I have just to get mere acceptance from a family that otherwise doesn't have any value for me.

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Sudha

@Sudharies

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Posted: 8 years ago

Good post, Esha! I really wish to see a realistic approach from Parth and Shorvari in this issue if insemintion fails. I'd also definitely prefer telling the truth to their family and moving out of the house. What would be worst possible scenario if they move out of the house? They will always have each other, come what may.

But in case, they're going to make Parth and Teni sleep to get a baby, would the relationship between Parth and Shorvari be the same? Where does Shorvari stands after all this? Losing a dear husband like Parth for the in-laws who are asking a price to accept you in this unreasonable way sounds lunatic. Going any extent for her family is fine as long as she doesn't lose her own happiness in the process, since when it comes to certain personal things in life it's not wrong to be selfish.

Edited by SudHaVeN- - 8 years ago

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libsrocks

@libsrocks

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Posted: 8 years ago

Great post!

I would say that Shorvori and Parth's efforts to get back in their family was okay to some extent. It's was alright as long s they were opting for surrogacy. This whole physical intimacy business is simply not worth getting back any family. Shorvori is getting herself in a really dangerous position. Her in-laws will reject her outright when they get to know the truth and she will end up losing her husband too. On top of all this, she won't really have much right over the child because biologically it belongs just to hebrhusband and Teni. Teni can easily claim her rights over the child and her in-laws would rather see Parth-Shorvori sepeprated than lose their heir. From what we know of Parth, he is not yet aware of deep consequences of such path. He does love his wife dearly but who is to say that his love for child would not make him more supportive of Teni. At least in surrogacy the child would have biologically belonged to both him and his wife. Here the child only belongs to him and his attention is bound to incline towards Teni more than Shorvori.

Shovori is in huge danger of losing the most trustworthy relationship of her life for relations that do no even accept her without thousands of conditions.

She should rather opt for telling the truth, risk being thrown out of the house and forced to live independently. At least in this scenario she would be with Parth.

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snowflakes2119

@snowflakes2119

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Posted: 8 years ago

Since I am supposed to give an honest answer to your hypothetical question, so, as a matter of principles, Tm as you have stated, would have revealed the truth to the family. Inculcated with middle class values, I would have patiently tried both in action and words to convince them for adoption. Also would have given them some time with no deadline, firstly, to come to terms with the shocker and secondly to accept the same and then pronounce their judgement. No girl ever desires to separate her husband from his own family, it's falsely preached that we girls want to have a nuclear family and in our bid to achieve the above objective we create situations or ruckus, conducive for moving out.

The thought to proceed for an individual family from joint family is thrusted on us, when our self respect is at stake. Once, twice, thrice we do ignore the ignominy, but would not like it to become a routine. Suffering injustice on regular basis is not only shameful for us but also for our parents, who restrained their desires throughout their lives, in order to provide us better upbringing and best education.

If I were in Shourvari's situation , I would have plainly walked out of the family. Would not have forced my hubby to do so on any ground, but in no case would have consented for what is shown in the show.

I think if PaRi s chould have shown the audacity and disclosed the truth to their family, they could not have seen themselves on the threshold of putting their on relationship on a difficult test. Again an imagination but if it had happened in reel's reality, we could be in better position to relate and empathised with PaRi's situation.

Edited by snowflakes2119 - 8 years ago

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Rashmi

@goofyCat

Sparkler

Posted: 8 years ago

Great post and almost everything has been said in the replies.

I would also agree that it was fine till the extent of opting for surrogacy. But going for physical relationship to get a child is definitely not something that Parth-Shorvori should take a decision about so hastily, because it will have much deeper consequences than surrogacy.

At this moment, I am not really sure if the precap is happening in reality or is imagination of someone, but the real test for Parth and Shorvori begins after the insemination fails! They should not fall prey to Indu's emotional black-mailing any more and get courage to tell truth to family. That way the time pressure will go away and they can convince the family for surrogacy and get it done properly if they are so keen on getting a heir of their own blood.

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snowflakes2119

@snowflakes2119

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Posted: 8 years ago

TM one scene in the precap is causing disturbance in my mind. As per precap Teni is cheerfully dressing herself up, enquiring Shourvari, whether she has styled herself in accordance to Parth's taste. Just can't believe she is the same Teni, who was vouching on her integrity, had decided to bail herself out of the deal with PaRi the other day. On the ground of doubts raised by Shourvari regarding Teni's integrity. Here in the precap she is seen happily getting ready for the fateful night. I couldn't trace any sort of tension on her face. Her willingness was apparently visible for the one night stand, just to deliver a baby for PaRi. Indeed it's difficult to comprehend, that Teni's mission America is blinding her to the extent that she ready to sell her modesty. Yet, would like to give a benefit of doubt, on the thought that precaps are primarily for generating curiosity and doesn't present the true picture. Again one question, what if Teni fails to conceive on that particular day or night. Then what will happen? Parth would again give a try and eventually... it would turn into a routine in which consents are implied with... God!! heavens would fall on Shourvari..

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Missesha

@Missesha

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Posted: 8 years ago

Wow... amazing thoughs from everyone.

And the picture is getting scarier for Shorvori than expected.

First, she will have no legal rights on the child should Teni ever claim it, unless they make an agreement

Second, she will have to share her husband with another woman unlike in surrogacy

Thirdly, this child won't be Shorvori's biological child.

So except for being Parth's legal wife, everything that ever belonged to Shorvari is at stake.

Plus I can't imagine the family's wrath when the truth unfolds. Will Dadaji ever accept Teni's child, considering that he rejects Shorvori solely on the basis of her caste? Will he ever accept a woman of a lower stature to be the mother of his great grand child?

This leaves me wondering, what will Parth Shorvori actually gain from this whole process?

Coming to Teni, I don't know if she will be so ready to sleep with Parth just for money.

This is going to be a real roller coaster with Shorvori on the losing end.

Edited by Missesha - 8 years ago

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gloriousgal

@gloriousgal

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Posted: 8 years ago

Great post Esha!

Shorvari is in a miserable condition, the only thing that has kept her going is Parth's love. She is living with the guilt of separating a son/grandson/brother from his family. She is the reason why Parth has had to live like a stranger in his own house. To top it all, she can't become a mother. She can't give her husband a child. She can't give the prosperous Bhanushali family their heir(who also happens to be the eldest of the generation) This is not easy for any woman. They haven't accepted her whole-hearted and then this bomb exploded.

Coming to what she should do. First of all, tell the family everything and then face the consequences with all bravery. If her love for Parth is strong enough, she shall sail away!

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Rashmi

@goofyCat

Sparkler

Posted: 8 years ago

I am not liking the way Shorvori is being portrayed in last 2-3 episodes. She is being shown as too weak and helpless. Is it because the scenes where she had to plead Teni were too dramatic? 😕

In first place, Shorvori could have directly confronted Teni about the trust issues she had, instead of going for such lousy idea of testing her loyalty through a fake proposal. Then, there was nothing wrong in having trust issues with a stranger, but the whole thing was made to look like Shorvori did something drastically wrong with Teni. In first two incidents it was purely misunderstanding while third time Shorvori's way was wrong. Why couldn't Shorvori explain it that way to Teni? Instead, all she was doing was pleading to Teni that she has done many mistakes and she is ready to go to any level to please her. Either the whole thing was too rushed without proper dialogues or it was way too OTT.

The best thing about this show so far is lead characters interactions with each other, which were quite realistic and natural.. But somewhere it isn't going in right direction for Shorvori and Teni.. Hope it improves in future!!

Edited by _goofyCat_ - 8 years ago

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gloriousgal

@gloriousgal

Voyager

Posted: 8 years ago

#10

I don't know why but I feel they want to show Shorvari as someone who's very innocent and naive. She's not really street smart. Whenever in a tight spot she tends to look for Parth's support and in this case he was supporting Teni and had full faith on her. I feel this was the first time when she had a different point of view than Parth therefore the hasty decision of taking a loyalty test.

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