I allowed someone to have sex with me at the age of 9: Kalki K - Page 3

Is there Sex Education in Schools in India? 
Edited by MrsSalmanKhan - 9 years ago

Originally posted by: dabhlover

OMG! it needs a brave heart to come open about it... damn! child sex abuse🤢😡

How is it abuse if she allowed it?

And kept mum?

I was taught not to touch others or allow others to touch me unnecessarily and inappropriately. And I was taught to share everything with my parents.

There are basic ground rules every child has to be taught whether or not, you tell him/her about sex per se.

And adults have duty too. How can parents be this irresponsible that they taught her nothing, built not enough trust so she could confide in them and weren't even around to keep an eye on her?

It is a parent's and guardian's failure if they don't teach child anything, don't build trust, don't know what child is up to and don't lay ground rules.

Oh and shame on those creeps who don't even spare a child in their uncontrollable lust. 🤢

Originally posted by: Mighty-Zeus

At 25 , this question sounds ridiculous especially since the answer is crystal clear but it wasnt such a smooth ride from the age of 5 to 20 .. even children feel guilt , shame & fear of doing something utterly wrong and thats purely out of instinct ... if kids aren't taught about these things , such early sexual encounters lead to a lot of confusing feelings while growing up until they reach an age where they attain the maturity to actually dissect & analyze the situation on their own .. 

To answer your question , that consent cannot be validated since a child is not mature enough to consent to such things ..its a rape irrespective of whether the child 'allows' it or not ..

Its so brave of Kalki to speak of such things .. 

The biggest myth I suppose is that only men abuse children like that , which isnt true.. 

Any-who , point being kids need to be given age appropriate education .. more than that , i think an open environment at home should help .. 

It is abuse because she was 9! A 9 year old does not understand or comprehend it. And that 9 year old is filled with shame because they don't understand that if they are below age even if they initiated it or gave their consent to it, it is still a statutory rape. 

Originally posted by: atominis

How is it abuse if she allowed it?

And kept mum?

I was taught not to touch others or allow others to touch me unnecessarily and inappropriately. And I was taught to share everything with my parents.

There are basic ground rules every child has to be taught whether or not, you tell him/her about sex per se.

And adults have duty too. How can parents be this irresponsible that they taught her nothing, built not enough trust so she could confide in them and weren't even around to keep an eye on her?

It is a parent's and guardian's failure if they don't teach child anything, don't build trust, don't know what child is up to and don't lay ground rules.

Oh and shame on those creeps who don't even spare a child in their uncontrollable lust. 🤢

This is child abuse, period. 9 year olds cannot give consent. 16 is the age of consent in most countries. Anyone who is challenging this needs to seriously re-evaluate their thought process. I knew some people in this forum looked down on feminism etc, but this is a new low. It's telling that it's the same people questioning both. Edited by hedwig_fawkes - 9 years ago

Originally posted by: hedwig_fawkes

This is child abuse, period. 9 year olds cannot give consent. 16 is the age of consent in most countries. Anyone who is challenging this needs to seriously re-evaluate their thought process. I knew some people in this forum looked down on feminism etc, but this is a new low. It's telling that it's the same people questioning both.

And I know no one seemed to think much of it, but Ranveer claiming to lose his virginity at 11 is also so disturbing to me. 11 ffs. How old was his partner? 

What a pervert that person was who would have sex with a 9yr old - Paedophile😡 

Originally posted by: atominis

How is it abuse if she allowed it?

And kept mum?

I was taught not to touch others or allow others to touch me unnecessarily and inappropriately. And I was taught to share everything with my parents.

There are basic ground rules every child has to be taught whether or not, you tell him/her about sex per se.

And adults have duty too. How can parents be this irresponsible that they taught her nothing, built not enough trust so she could confide in them and weren't even around to keep an eye on her?

It is a parent's and guardian's failure if they don't teach child anything, don't build trust, don't know what child is up to and don't lay ground rules.

Oh and shame on those creeps who don't even spare a child in their uncontrollable lust. 🤢

Originally posted by: IAmLuvBolly

Both Ranveer and Ranbir have claimed to have lost their virginities at 11 or 12.  It is extremely disturbing to me.  I think unfortunately because they are boys, and lost their virginities to women (they never said otherwise so I guess it's a safe bet) then no one looks at it as anything more than two boys becoming men. 

How old the partner was is a whole other what if/could be/maybe debate and can of worms.  

RK said he was 15. He probably shouldn't have disclosed it, but 15 is not unusual if you are living in a liberal environment. Edited by Scorpio_Velvet - 9 years ago