Anjali Purohit's characterization

It's been some time since I've made a thread and I wanted to start a discussion regarding Anjali Purohit's characterization. I would like to make it clear that I am not criticizing the actress who plays the character but generating some discussion on the character it self.

First off Raj's parents have been a mystery element since the start of the show. Initially we were told that everyone in Raj's family has had a love marriage (first point of difference between the families) Raj's parents, Madhuri-Jashan and Raj - all love marriage candidates.

Then we learned that his parents stay in Australia for business - it wasn't clear if Raj's mom also worked or not at the beginning of the show.

I'm not sure what prompted CVs to create a powerful, successful and slightly arrogant business minded woman to be Raj's mom - perhaps to highlight the vast difference between the 2 families and how they approach life and to be additional support for Arpita's career ambitions - but that can be a different discussion. I'm not concerned about the character sketch of Anjali Purohit.

I'm not sure if this is a disconnect between the vision CVs had and how the actress was described to play the character or the actresses limitations in playing the character. Regardless of the reason I find the personality as shown thus far of Anjali to be disjointed - Raj and Madhuri are such sweet natured, kind, compassionate, down to earth people - as their mother I would have expected Anjali Purohit to be less abrasive - I can understand stern, assertive, but I would hope she had a little more compassion. If anyone here watched Pavitra Rishta - I would have expected Anjali Purohit (who is a successful business woman) to be similar to Sunanda Tai or Attu from PR - that level of assertiveness and sternness - a harder exterior but a fair heart underneath.

I didn't like the show down between Avni and Anjali at the hotel - granted Avni was totally out of line (thats a different discussion) but the way Anjali was shown to react and the way she told Avni to shut up in her room when Avni was trying to apologize - the whole scene the entire interaction just seemed out of context.

Does anyone else feel that Raj's mom came with a different set of expectations and what we are seeing seems slightly out of place?