Is it ok to talk to ex after marriage

Most people tend to hate their exes and blame them for everything that is wrong with the world 😆. That being said, I do find it mature and poised to be able to part ways amicably and be civil. Not best friends forever but cordial and friendly. Sometimes it is important to maintain good friendly terms. If you have a lot of common friends, you don't want to make it awkward for your other friends and force them to choose. If there are kids involved you want the kids to have a pleasant experience and not experience stress. In fact when kids are involved you do still have to make some decisions and choices like a couple.

That being said how much speaking to an ex is allowed depends on couple to couple. Some people don't like it at all and expect all ties severed. Some people are OK with some contact. And others are a lot more trustworthy.

Personally, for me trust is a very key ingredient in a relationship. If we cannot trust each other then I don't see the point of the relationship at all. For me the true worth of a relationship is when it lasts despite the temptations and circumstances. I feel it is completely fine to be friends with exes, crushes, that hot coworker, that flirty person at the bar as long as you are loyal and know your lines. You should be in a relationship because you choose to be in one, not because you don't have any other choice. If the trust is violated, then it's just time to evaluate if the relationship is worth it or not. Of course along the way there will be jealousies, insecurities and arguments. But I don't think it should ever boil down to - don't speak to so and so ever again.

But to each their own. If a couple agrees that they shouldn't speak to exes, then that's their choice and that's what makes a relationship tick for them. The key ingredient is honesty. If you say you won't be in touch with an ex, be true to it. Don't make promises you cannot keep.

Originally posted by: destinygirl

but is it necessary to talk to your ex...there are so many other people in your life that you can talk to...and i would be just utterly pissed off if i find out my huby was talking to his ex... to move on you have to leave your past behind...thats my view...

Is it necessary to talk to anyone in life? There are so many people we interact with that every individual is just an insignificant brick in the wall. Collectively they form our social sphere. It may not be necessary to talk to anyone, but it may not be necessary to cut them out either.

It boils down to what each couple is comfortable with. For some people moving on means closing the past. For me embracing the future is sufficient.

PS: I did mention several circumstances where it is mature to be cordial and civil.

Originally posted by: destinygirl

Is it ok to be friends with your ex after you are married ... Well you have started a new life with someone else who completly trusts you then why do you need to talk to your ex and how would your spouse react if they found out.. How would you react if you found out your spouse is talking to your ex