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Well, Anandi maybe a people pleaser but who made her so? HER dear PARENTS
My biggest gripe with our society is that the ones who spout out the edict that "a girls true family are her in-laws" are usually the biggest tyrants of all.
Girls parents drill into her impressionable mind that you are a girl and you have to endure all, suffer all and make the new home your own home...be "sanskari bahu"!
Fine I have nothing against being sanskari & following rules. But they shd be taught what is good and what is bad. One has to be taught how much to endure and when it is time to say ENUFF and take charge. *(This can happen with proper education only).
I remember Aji's mom telling her...lado jaise vo rakhe vasee hee rehna...you have to placate and please them come what may 😡. When she ran away from DS's torture chamber coz of her atrocities Anandi was promptly brought back and handed over to Bhairon & DS. WHY?? Coz that was her real home 😡
Many girls parents still spout this hypocritical shiite. And the wonderful sasural think its their God-given right to persecute their DILs ( DS pretty much fell in this category...she was mean, rude and obnoxious not only to her dil's but to their parents). Thank God good sense prevailed & DS changed but in real rural India things are still pretty bad. These so called sanskari bahu's explode and break off or self-immolate pleasing the tyrants sasural walle. 😡
I really don't know how many of u have seen /visited real village spent some time working for their betterment ...I have been there... done that... worked with them for a few months and the picture is very grim there.😭 There still exists a society where a woman is treated as a housemaid, a doll to physically play with. A sixteen yr old innocent girl is made to marry forty yr old divorcee, where woman is not allowed to undergo salpingectomy (tubectomy) even after five kids till she gives birth to a BOY, where sex determination & female infanticide ( killing of female fetus) is still prevalent. We really need many more bhaili like organization to protect and save women. WE have to first educate them and empowerment will follow. WE have to teach them self respect,self preservation , confidence & courage to rise..!
Not to miss ...the torture that goes on in the name of ladki ka asli ghar uska sasural hota hai is sad 😭. In real world there are hardly any BS, DS or Shiv's for helpless Anandi's & Ganga's
However much "confident" a girl may be but to break the mold and be successful she does need hand holding, backing and support ( here I'm talking only about villages). YES! I'm talking from experience...I have worked with them & for them...no soapiness and dreaminess here. Whatever you might say Aji sure needed a BS otherwise till today she would have been pleasing and oiling DS's head & feet 😛. Ganga owes all her independence, support, growth to her dacter sa JAGdeesh. If J would not have rescued Ganga she still would have been debating abt the badness and meanness of Ratten and would have been crying around. I'm strictly talking abt rural india here. You & I both know that Jaitser we see in BV is not real village oops newly made district 😉.
But as far as sehri Sanchi's education is concerned ...girl has no interest in studies . Maybe it did not come out in the serial 🥱 but there are many Sanchi's from maddern India who have all the resource and help but are just not interested in books & education. Sanchi just wanted to get married & seeing Docter J her wish became her desire😉. So I would give it up to J her finishing her MBA. 😳
Well, coming back to girls's real home "sasuarl" & devi roopi MIL...Aji is one lucky girl ...first she got sane Sumi then now Ira (hold on read on without jumping out of your seat😳) we may all have issues with Ira but we cannot deny that she has brought her son up very well. He is respectful of women...she has shown him women are worthy of respect and love, that in most areas of life there is equality and no difference in what women and men can do and each can accomplish. She sure has churned out a REAL MAN 👍🏼 but unfortunately same cannot be said about her darling daughter Sanchi.
The message that is coming out of this is loud & clear have just one kid coz you can only raise one well. With divided love & attention parents get divide and mess up big time lol😛😆
As far as Aji pleasing nature goes...She got Shiv coz of that only. He pleasingly fell for her hook line & sinker.😉 Aji is symbol of true woman that's why she is more patient, more tolerant & more strong! 😃
But I'm glad today he is giving her a equal chance to expand her wings.
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