So people who drink are 'bad' ?

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Winzy

@nicegirl_good

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Posted: 12 years ago

#21

Originally posted by: nikki1591

ok if u have to drink when u are not happy, that clearly means that u have an problem. bc alcoholics dont drink when they are happy and if they do that means they are not happy. if every time u have a problem and u feel the need to drink rather than coping liek a normal person and allowing urself to feel the emotions, then u have a problem
their are healthy ways of coping. crying is one of them although too much is not. drinking is not a healthy way of coping and it is an addiction

I drank a lot of alcohol right after my dad's death , and that was 2 years ago
And I don't even touch alcohol right now
I don't even care
So that was my way of coping :S
Ovi's is too
And I don't think I could be termed as alcoholic in anyway that time
Because whenever I would feel like crying I would drink and I would find solace in that
But I became okay after a while :a
Ovi will too
What do we expect her to do ?
She is working , left her husband
She can drown herself into alcohol
What's the big deal ?

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xxxnm

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Posted: 12 years ago

#22

Originally posted by: ilovedhanjanird

I drank a lot of alcohol right after my dad's death , and that was 2 years ago
And I don't even touch alcohol right now
I don't even care
So that was my way of coping :S
Ovi's is too
And I don't think I could be termed as alcoholic in anyway that time
Because whenever I would feel like crying I would drink and I would find solace in that
But I became okay after a while :a
Ovi will too
What do we expect her to do ?
She is working , left her husband
She can drown herself into alcohol
What's the big deal ?

u drank for a certain period and stopped after a certain point. people who drink a lot and go back to it every time their life goes off the track is an addiction. ovi has a repepttive pattern of self destructing when things go off in her life. attempting suicide when arjun left. drinking during pregnancy and now. if she had just drank right now then yeah i would say she is just coping. but it is a constant pattern with her. she clearly has issues

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Winzy

@nicegirl_good

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Posted: 12 years ago

#23

Originally posted by: nikki1591

u drank for a certain period and stopped after a certain point. people who drink a lot and go back to it every time their life goes off the track is an addiction. ovi has a repepttive pattern of self destructing when things go off in her life. attempting suicide when arjun left. drinking during pregnancy and now. if she had just drank right now then yeah i would say she is just coping. but it is a constant pattern with her. she clearly has issues

She is self destructive I admit. But she doesn't do it to blackmail anyone or for anyone to feel sorry for her
She does it for herself
We did see her live without alcohol for a long time right
She wouldn't drink as much if she never knew the truth and was happy with Arjun
Or if Arjun didn't make false promises

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Mini

@Luvsushanki

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Posted: 12 years ago

#24

no drunkers r nt bad bt the way she drinks wcan destroy her life

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xxxnm

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Posted: 12 years ago

#25

Originally posted by: ilovedhanjanird

She is self destructive I admit. But she doesn't do it to blackmail anyone or for anyone to feel sorry for her
She does it for herself
We did see her live without alcohol for a long time right
She wouldn't drink as much if she never knew the truth and was happy with Arjun
Or if Arjun didn't make false promises

exactly she doesnt drink when she is happy. if she starts drinking every time she is unhappy, then she has drinking issues. let me ask u. i think i read somewhere that u are married. do u drink every time u have a fight w/ ur husband? I am guessing not. ovi and arjun fights may not be the normal marital fights but their relationship is not normal either. if ovi is so co-dependent on arjun for her happiness, that she drinks everytime things go wrong in their relationship, then she is displaying clear signs of alcoholism. whether its for her self of blackmail doesnt matter. she has problems controlling her drinking.

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Hillylove

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Posted: 12 years ago

#26

itzvidspatel

You think you are great representative of Indians behaving like that,?

You have no right to speak to Waneeka like this, learn some manners.

I pity you, if this is the way you feel you must make a point.

I really hope the Mods will do something about your behaviour.

Edited by hillydee - 12 years ago

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Winzy

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Posted: 12 years ago

#27

Originally posted by: itzvidspatel
you're f**king sick. you should be ashamed to even be indian. GO OPEN THE SCRIPTURES and learn something. drinking was never part of our culture and it still is not. India is trying so hard to become "westernized" that they forgot that our culture is much more valuable. seriously, I am a girl living in america who is born and raised here and yet I know the right thing to do . so suck that.

I am not saying drinking makes you a bad person , but it certainly does not make you a good or well-mannered person.

Please someone kill me today , please.
Being in America doesn't make you knowledgable or enlightened more than me
But just FYI I am an American living in Canada with South Asian background
Drinking is not a part of culture , sure.
But some people drink for pleasure , some drink for forgetting sorrows , either way it's personal choice.
A person maybe a great soul but may be having issues with Alcohol. And that's okay.
India is trying to be western , I know. But it's not only India its a lot of countries and again the lifestyle we adapt , is personal choice.
The way you are speaking to me proves your ignorance.
Please refrain from verbal abuse , I have not said anything over the top , I presented my view in a civil manner and I would expect a counterpoint in a decent way.
Thank you.

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Devashree

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Posted: 12 years ago

#28

Originally posted by: itzvidspatel
you're f**king sick. you should be ashamed to even be indian. GO OPEN THE SCRIPTURES and learn something. drinking was never part of our culture and it still is not. India is trying so hard to become "westernized" that they forgot that our culture is much more valuable. seriously, I am a girl living in america who is born and raised here and yet I know the right thing to do . so suck that.

I am not saying drinking makes you a bad person , but it certainly does not make you a good or well-mannered person.

Using abusive language is against the IF forum rules. This is a public forum and members are expected to maintain decorum.

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merrydock

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Posted: 12 years ago

#29

no body is the world is bad, the only make bad choices.

and you are missing the point. Ovi is not bad because she drinks, she drinks because she's weak, she blames the world outside and others for her problems, and not herself, that is why she cant see a solution to her problems shes looking in the wrong place. and so she drinks, because she thinks drinking will numb her pain. and make her troubles go away.

she is a mentaly and emotionly weak person. everything she has was given to her on a platter, her beauty, her wealth, fame fortune, and Arjun. she never had to work hard or struggle for anything, she never learnt the joy of sacrafice or giving. she only knows the joy of receiving becaues she has been always give what she wants.

Ovi got Arjun, but Arjun is not a toy that she can keep however she wants. she got Arjun but Arjun could never be hers. his heart never belonged to her and you can never own someone elses heart by force. and that is what Ovi did. and so wining she lost everything, even her selfrespect.

she is selfish and that is what makes her bad. not drinking.