Hi!
I don't know why there must be a problem with two people of the same surname getting married. Kareena Kapoor and Shahid Kapur were going out(changing spellings will not alter the surname) and then Karisma Kapoor got married to Sanjay Kapoor.
There are UP Sharmas, Kashmiri Sharmas and Punjabi Sharmas. That does not mean they are brothers and sisters. It is just a family name. Family names in India do not denote a unique parental lineage. Infact, this is the first I have heard people of name family names should not get married.
If you are talking of the same gotra, then there could be a problem, not because they are related in any way, but because the mindset of people in such.
Earlier, people of the same gotra were not allowed to get married because their communities were small and the chances of them being related were high. But now a days, our community is large and I don't think such a problem will occur.
If the parents are worried about the children born out of such an alliance, one can always get a medical test done and appropriate measures can be taken so that the children born do not suffer genetically.
If it's because they are conservative, then there is a remedy for that too! The kanyadaan, instead of being performed by the girl's parents, must be performed by one of the girl's aunts whose gotra is different from that of the girl's gotra.
Hope your friends get married and do not have to suffer because of groundless views.
Edited by Petrouska - 13 years ago
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