If this issue was restricted to child mariage only

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Posted: 14 years ago
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Yes if j was positive he fel for g.he felt it is wrong so lived with A.cared for A But somewer never remain same J ,A noticd it realised there no point in continuing it.relation ends on gud note ,bhago comes a blames n behavely badly with j like yesterday wil ul like it ?even though we know her pain bt we wudnt tolerate it for long .isnt it?so today for g the issue of child mariage,bhago was cryin she also felt bad how cud see j geting bashed so badly so long.i want ur opinion on this only dnt get topics y G maried J?past topic which we already discusd .

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Posted: 14 years ago
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I dont get ur point...if ur refering to Bhago behaving badly...
Any mother who's daughter has been abandoned like a used tissue paper will behave like this...regardless of being a village or city bred person...wether the marrige is child/love/arranged dosent matter.It was a socially accepted marriage.We might think of it as illigal but in villages childmarriage are still considered as serious marriages...they associate all sactity and respect gives to any other marriage.
Just 2 generations back most of our grandparents got married at 14-15 does it mean all those marriages were illigal??
Here the point is jagya has abandoned Anandi after becoming an adult claiming childmarriage as an excuse.
So Bhago is doing what any other mother wld have done in this situation...Anandi's parents r much better than Gauri's parents...atleast they r fighting for injustice done to her not like Gauri's shamless parents who sold their daughter in childhood then left her in rain live as a 2nd wife.
And after tht happily attended her wedding to an already married man.
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@niharika-my point is nt g parents nor A s parents.bhago reaction was justified.bt wud we like her behaivior with j if he was nt a fault.in child mariage its parents who r more resposible to answer her questions.so we wud like ?no we wont now today we know J cheated A so we feel he deserves it .Isnt it?
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Originally posted by: tanvismile

@niharika-my point is nt g parents nor A s parents.bhago reaction was justified.bt wud we like her behaivior with j if he was nt a fault.in child mariage its parents who r more resposible to answer her questions.so we wud like ?no we wont now today we know J cheated A so we feel he deserves it .Isnt it?

She asked for answers from everyone...of course she couldnt physically hurt them...Jagya was like a son to her...so she has every right to slap him.
J is at fault coz he cheated...I am sure if he was already divorced from anandi n then got married her mom wld not have behaved this way...coz then Jagya Anandi relationship was already over but in this case he has landed with a 2nd wife discarding Anandi as a tissue paper..she is justified to hurt him.
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Niharika-u nt able to understand me .i never blamed bhago ever.i know J is nt innocent my question is if he was innocent wud we like bhago hurting him.wud it be justified?no so how cud g tolerate for long?we al claim g reaction insensitive bt for her j is innocent so she cud tolerate bt wen bhago entered was crying she also Felt bad.
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Posted: 14 years ago
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i don't think In Jagya's case it was child marriage, it is pure case of infidelity which is trying to be justified in the name of child marriage

I would have felt child marriage the main culprit if Jafya has told the truth 5 years ago..Or as many argued that he was scared of the consequences then at least he could have ensured that Anandi is educated enough so that she can stand in her own feet when the truth crashes down. he never supported anandi's growth even when he clearly knew that he did not intend to be with her for life...I can't say everything is fair in love , I agree in real world people do crazy things like murder in name of love, but does the society endorse it !!!!! no right???

Jagya is not innocent. He has behaved in a hypocritical way knowingly, in complete awareness. all the lies was becoz he knew he was not right and wanted the easiest way out for himself.

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Posted: 14 years ago
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If G is thinking tht J is innocent, after seeing everything, thn its her problem and not viewers. How can we defend her action. Except legality she knows everything, she knows relation between J and A thn how can she expect any other reaction from Anandi parents. Why she can't understand tht this reaction is quite natural and if J is not reacting thn why she is jumping between. Is she security guard of J or she think tht he hs no ability to defend himself.
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Posted: 14 years ago
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@ankit-g is nt expecting any kind of sweet behaiviour bt dnt u think bhago was goin extra crazy.she a felt bad for her bt that was too much n secondly for her it is nt about cheating partner ,now wat she has seen ,she know A loved him while he dint.n the whole family presuring him ,making him feel he did to wrong anandi so that he gets back to A.thats wat she cud see.isnt it?did anyone say u digustman y did u cheated anandi n al of us for 5 yrs?so this cud be clear isnt it.from her POV n position she was right yesterday bt i dont mean bhago was wrong .she was also right on her position.
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Posted: 14 years ago
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tanvi i totally get ur pov and i have also said these things in my posts time to time
imagine this jagya had not lied to anyone, he had not kept a in dark, no one would have liked threashing of jagya ,
i have always said punish j but punish him for the right reasons
but yes i dont expect bhago to understand , she is in too much pain
i feel kind of sad , everyone just keeps on blaming j for choosing g and leaving a be it villagers phooli, haveli ppl, i dont think anyone except anandi has questioned him abt his dhokha for 4 yrs , and for that point he should be questioned
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Posted: 14 years ago
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Originally posted by: tanvismile

@ankit-g is nt expecting any kind of sweet behaiviour bt dnt u think bhago was goin extra crazy.she a felt bad for her bt that was too much n secondly for her it is nt about cheating partner ,now wat she has seen ,she know A loved him while he dint.n the whole family presuring him ,making him feel he did to wrong anandi so that he gets back to A.thats wat she cud see.isnt it?did anyone say u digustman y did u cheated anandi n al of us for 5 yrs?so this cud be clear isnt it.from her POV n position she was right yesterday bt i dont mean bhago was wrong .she was also right on her position.

if she think tht everything is OK thn why she is feeling jealousy.why she is remembering J and A together. Is it not enough phooli encounter, Gehna outburst and even j behavior, meeting with A secretly, to realize tht everything was not as Jogia is portraying? If she want to believe only J words and ignore the facts before her, thn its her problem. I assume tht any sane person wd hv realized tht Jogia is habitual cheater. So I can't justify her yesterday action. Eben she sd realise why Jogia is not protesting, why he hs nothing to reply. But if she close her eyes, it dosnt mean I sd also close the eyes. For me she is a person who never learn from their mistakes. But this is my POV, urs may differ.

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