DOTW - Nuclear or Joint Family

There was a time when a girl gets married, she would be welcomed by all her in-laws, would consider the "bahu cum beti" of the house, treated with love, and was given the responsibility to take the household in her hands. She would then become a part of the family, obey her in-laws considering them as her own parents, and her kids would be raised watching her and all the other relatives around them, learning family values.

On the other hand, now many people see these views as old fashioned, want their separate home away from their in laws and don't stand anyone interfering in their lives, and its results are often that kids don't know the real meaning of relationships and don't have much family values. Parents now fear that one day their sons will be gone leaving them alone in their old age, and thus generation gap increases as kids start becoming less and less attached to their families.

This individualistic life was never the part of our culture at first but you'll see this happening in every house. But who is to blame? Our media or so called "modernism" view? Do you think that life of today is better than earlier? Is it good to live alone or to live with family?

Hope you all like the topic n ll participate 😊

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meray khiyaal say saath rehnay k liay kafi kuch bardasht ker parta hai khaas toor per jab koi saath na they to............... 😳

well dats true derz gap between children and their family
i think if da in laws r bad and hav made da bahuz "jeena haram" den she shud definately leave
otherwiz if they're ok wid her den derz no reason to leave

this is true we also lives in a joint family we knows abt a good happy family but we also have to face alot of problems

i believe that every advantage has its disadvantage same goes for living in joint family or separately...

yea like sarah appi said there r proz and conz of both


if ur in a joint family u have 2 share everything, u have 2 live with ur in-laws and the rest of ur family and etc and it can b harder but u have more ppl 2 love u and caree 4 u and stuff and the kidz have more fun cuz their cuzinz r arnd the same age and all

living alone is gud cuz u dun hafta worry abt ur in laws and u got less responsibility and all tht sort of thingz but u can get lonely all day

Originally posted by: Mashal

meray khiyaal say saath rehnay k liay kafi kuch bardasht ker parta hai khaas toor per jab koi saath na they to............... 😳

oh really aap ne mairay muh ki baat cheen li i also luv joint family system alot coz in tht we can share sorrows & joys wd each otha but on the otha side there is no privacy left ( this is da prob we r facin nowadays)

before I got married I was always thinking of a big joint family as i always love to live with a big family, then I got married & just a few months after I left Pakistan as my husband was living in Saudi Arabia & then from there to US & from there to Canada & my dream of living in a joint family never came true, but for me joint family system is best, when I had kids I was all by myself nobody was there to tell me how to take care of a newborn, when I was sick nobody was there to take care of me & even with high fever I had to do everything. so I think there r more advantages then disadvantages to live in a joint family. rahi baat bohat kuch bardasht karna parta hay to bardasht to apnay maa baap k ghar bhi karna parta hay, bus dekhnay wali nazar chahye k saas susr ko kitna maa baap samjha jaye aur nand dewar ko kitna behan bhai samjha jaye.

Originally posted by: Farhanas

before I got married I was always thinking of a big joint family as i always love to live with a big family, then I got married & just a few months after I left Pakistan as my husband was living in Saudi Arabia & then from there to US & from there to Canada & my dream of living in a joint family never came true, but for me joint family system is best, when I had kids I was all by myself nobody was there to tell me how to take care of a newborn, when I was sick nobody was there to take care of me & even with high fever I had to do everything. so I think there r more advantages then disadvantages to live in a joint family. rahi baat bohat kuch bardasht karna parta hay to bardasht to apnay maa baap k ghar bhi karna parta hay, bus dekhnay wali nazar chahye k saas susr ko kitna maa baap samjha jaye aur nand dewar ko kitna behan bhai samjha jaye.

u r absolutely rite..dekhney wali nazar chahiye n today's generation dont have that nazar n tolerance..zara sa sas ney kuch keh dia to bahu to bura lag jata hai kitni baar humari moms hamen danti hain laikin hum un ki baat ka bura nahin manatey to sas ki baat ka kion?? i guess its parent's respnsibility to give good values to their kids specially daughters 'coz aurat hi ghar banati hai aur bigarti hai..

Originally posted by: kewlsarah

u r absolutely rite..dekhney wali nazar chahiye n today's generation dont have that nazar n tolerance..zara sa sas ney kuch keh dia to bahu to bura lag jata hai kitni baar humari moms hamen danti hain laikin hum un ki baat ka bura nahin manatey to sas ki baat ka kion?? i guess its parent's respnsibility to give good values to their kids specially daughters 'coz aurat hi ghar banati hai aur bigarti hai..

asal main to saaray fisad kee root hee aurat hay, I m a woman but I m saying this because its truth, agar eik aurat nand kay roop main hay to apnee bhabi k baray main boltee rehtee hay(I m saying in general not all do that) k hamaray bhai ko alag kar diya, hamaray maa baap ka khiyal nahee rakhtee, ghar ka khiyal nahee rakhtee, lakin yehee nand jub kisi kee bhabi bun kar jaati hay to wohee kuch apnee susral main kiyon karti hay jis ko us nay kabhi apnay ghar main bura jaana tha, maa jub tak beti ko dekhti hay to uski choti chtoi baat nazar undaz kar deti hay k bachi hay seekh jaye gee, jub usi beti kee umar kee bahu aati hay to kiyon ye bhool jaati hay k wo bhi kisi kee beti hay aur utni hee kam umar hay jitni uski apni beti, phir kiyon usko lagta hay k itni baray ho kar bhi aqal nahi hay, wohi bahu jo apni maa kee daant aaram say sun leti thee jub wo kisi kee beti thee to saas kee baat sunnay main usko kiyon takleef hoti hay....to bus ye aurat kee sub say bari khami hay k wo hee doosri aurat kee zindagi miserable banati hay....