Originally posted by: gargi.shah
nope i dont think vershu is doing wrong..if they dont want child they dont want..it has been merely a yr of their wedding...n if she is not ready i dont blame her...having kid a very big responsibility...its not a joke...for sake of 1s in laws or prents wants 'grandchild' 1 cant have child..1 shud have kids when both partners are mentally prepared to have..its 1 of the most joyful days 2 enjoy as well as most stressful days to go through..taking care of kid is a bigggg responsibility..n once u have child life changes priority changes... i like varsha's attitude..more like today's woman who takes her own decision..not dormant n much more practical
Originally posted by: gargi.shah
nope i dont think vershu is doing wrong..if they dont want child they dont want..it has been merely a yr of their wedding...n if she is not ready i dont blame her...having kid a very big responsibility...its not a joke...for sake of 1s in laws or prents wants 'grandchild' 1 cant have child..1 shud have kids when both partners are mentally prepared to have..its 1 of the most joyful days 2 enjoy as well as most stressful days to go through..taking care of kid is a bigggg responsibility..n once u have child life changes priority changes... i like varsha's attitude..more like today's woman who takes her own decision..not dormant n much more practical
Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000
My dear , no one is saying it shudnt be Varshus decision . We all r irritated with her constant answer . I AM NOT READY YET . . She has given this answer from day one of her marraige to every thing . . Consummation ...................I AM NOT READY YET . [ ARRE then why did u marry ? There is such a thing as long engagement . Once u marry u commit . } . Telling secret about Ashwin ..............I AM NOT READY YET . The time is NOT RIGHT YET .[ Well we all saw how late she was FINALLY when she decided to tell .} . FORGIVING BHAVNA ............I AM NOT READY YET . I just cant forgive . This , That . The saas got up and went sensibly to stay seperate . After one year this gal came around and started behaving as if there had been no fight at all and as if her saas had run away due to her crackpot whims . Now , BABIES ..........I AM NOT READY YET . . The irritation building up surely but steadily against Varsha is not for HER right to decide about babies .............its for this constant answer she gives . What is she doing with her life anyways ? Just sits with remote control watches TV and dines in hotels or argues unnecessarily with Satish . . Finne dont have the babies , watch TV , ur decision .Totally understand that .But marraige does not mean giving one answer to every damned problem ...IM NOT READY YET . . Besides we dont see her even discussing or asking Satish about WHAT HE WANTS for a change .A child is a MUTUAL decision . She just gives HER DECISION and expects him to comply . . Yes Satish supported her even in this .But Satish is fundamentally decent .This doesnt mean he doesnt have wishes of his own .
That day we saw her fighting with Satish for being NEUTRAL in an argument and she was telling him U CHANGE UR NATURE .Well how will she feel if she is asked to change HER NATURE ? Why the hell shud anyone change the nature he or she is born with anyways ?When she doesnt like being bullied why does she bully Satish ?Its one thing not to let people push u around and one thing to be overbearing at times . She literally answers for Satish at times .She has no problems in her life , she is MANUFACTURING THEM WITH HER IMAGINATION . The happiness she has , she cant DIGEST iT .MY POV PURELY ..
Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000
Yeah I understand Charishma .π . Sometimes I feel sorry for Satish though .U see there is such a fine line between declaring ur decision , and accepting the compliance of a decent partner with it as 'A MUTUAL AGREEMENT" and first asking the partner ...............regarding the baby ........whats ur opinion , when wud U like to start a family ? I want to hear UR thoughts . Maybe the partner will say straightaway . Maybe he says , No lets enjoy life more , Two years alater .U can then tell him ur thoughts and if they differ too much ..........u can arrive at some mid point that will satisfy both . In Varshas case its SHE DECIDES and he follows . Satish is incredibly decent . I rather like him more than Varsha.
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