Varshu and Baby - Page 2

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

My dear , no one is saying it shudnt be Varshus decision . We all r irritated with her constant answer . I AM NOT READY YET . . She has given this answer from day one of her marraige to every thing . . Consummation ...................I AM NOT READY YET . [ ARRE then why did u marry ? There is such a thing as long engagement . Once u marry u commit . } . Telling secret about Ashwin ..............I AM NOT READY YET . The time is NOT RIGHT YET .[ Well we all saw how late she was FINALLY when she decided to tell .} . FORGIVING BHAVNA ............I AM NOT READY YET . I just cant forgive . This , That . The saas got up and went sensibly to stay seperate . After one year this gal came around and started behaving as if there had been no fight at all and as if her saas had run away due to her crackpot whims . Now , BABIES ..........I AM NOT READY YET . . The irritation building up surely but steadily against Varsha is not for HER right to decide about babies .............its for this constant answer she gives . What is she doing with her life anyways ? Just sits with remote control watches TV and dines in hotels or argues unnecessarily with Satish . . Finne dont have the babies , watch TV , ur decision .Totally understand that .But marraige does not mean giving one answer to every damned problem ...IM NOT READY YET . . Besides we dont see her even discussing or asking Satish about WHAT HE WANTS for a change .A child is a MUTUAL decision . She just gives HER DECISION and expects him to comply . . Yes Satish supported her even in this .But Satish is fundamentally decent .This doesnt mean he doesnt have wishes of his own .

That day we saw her fighting with Satish for being NEUTRAL in an argument and she was telling him U CHANGE UR NATURE .Well how will she feel if she is asked to change HER NATURE ? Why the hell shud anyone change the nature he or she is born with anyways ?

When she doesnt like being bullied why does she bully Satish ?

Its one thing not to let people push u around and one thing to be overbearing at times . She literally answers for Satish at times .

She has no problems in her life , she is MANUFACTURING THEM WITH HER IMAGINATION . The happiness she has , she cant DIGEST iT .

MY POV PURELY .

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Originally posted by: lunza

Hmm .. deviating a bit from the topic .. I must say unemployment doesnt really suit Varsha ... She has to get a job asap ...
Being a housewife doesnt mean watching t.v and going to parties/functions everyday ... there are so many things she can do to spend her time constructively ....
I dont get varsha these days .. she doesnt want to this ... doesnt want to do that ... and hell .. she gets angry at satish because he shuts up and doesnt fight back ?? !!!
It isnt about not wanting to have babies right now ... its just that I dont think she even knows what she wants ...
Sometimes her attitude is like .. its either my way or the highway ....

Originally posted by: Tulsey

Kool, I totally agree with you.

One of the biggest decisions we make in life is whether we want to become parents. For some people, it is an easy decision. They grow up knowing they want to have a family. For others, it is not such an easy decision. One thing for sure, it is a decision that will forever change your life, and should not be taken lightly. But the way Varsha has been saying "I am not ready" for anything and everything is irritating. She speaks right away without thinking. The statistics say that a higher rate for women who feel that they are ready for kids after 30 years have problems getting pregnant. Their biological clock clicked away. There are many women who actually get into menapause in their mid 30's. So when the women are ready, their bodies are not. Older folks know about this and that is why they want the DILs to have kids sooner.

She is used to getting her way and she has continued this behaviour into her married life. She acts like this because she has such a good and understanding husband like Satish. If it was someone like Dharmesh, today she would be sleeping at her maikae.