Finding a Groom.. Finding Husband...?

Originally posted by: bunny_fun

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Hi,

After seeing today's video.... I was continuously having few questions in head....

How many of us are given choice by our parents to choose the life partner we want..... ?
Does Physical appereance have any consideration while choosing a groom... or is it only for the bride..?
Do girls have a say in whether they like the Boys physical appearance..?
Do girls have a say in when they want to get married...?
Do parents give a good reason for every worry or instinct that you have.... saying you everything will be good...?

I would sincerely want to know.... How each one of you .. How you feel....

There are girls here who are ready to get married... there are girls here who are already married and have gone through this... and there are parents who have daughters to get married.... and Parents who have got their kids married....

I would really want to know everyones opnion.... How you felt from your point of view....when you were going through this situation.... or How you feel when questioned about the situation of marriage....?

Do post your comments....


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👏 you have brought out a very good topic..

How many of us are given choice by our parents to choose the life partner we want..... ?

Well, if u ask me, I didn't have the confidence in me to choose someone for me...nor did i have the courage to face the consequences of it incase something goes wrong.....I believed that my parents are more experienced, they've seen different ppl. & life more than me ..they will never decide anything bad for me..i'd put my full faith in them......

when they were looking rishtas for me, i was very confused..i couldn't make out whether this is the right person for me or not...many times my parents saw someone, they didn't like him, they rejected him and i didn't even have to consider....AFTER i got married, i realized how right my parents were...the fact of life is that you will NEVER get 100% of everything...u HAVE to make certain compromises & they can be in any form..my only concern when my husband's rishta came for me was that his sister was not normal..i knew that she may/may not get married the whole life..my MIL also worries for her and this might be a lifelong tension for me....there was pressure on me from my parents to say yes..and eventually i said yes bec. i met my husband again n i fall in love with him...so i didn't think much about tht issue....NOW after marriage, yes , my fears turned out to be true...it IS a major issue in my family & my MIL often complaints to me tht i ignore my SIL...but i look at the positives in life..my husband , my baby love me, i feel that i don't need anything else in life...

Does Physical appereance have any consideration while choosing a groom... or is it only for the bride..?

yes physical appearance does have a consideration but my dear, trust me, it doesn't matter THAT much..ultimately if u get the love , affection, care & attention from ur husband , u yourself will feel that it doesn't matter...my husband is slightly overweight...and i'm totally opposite..but tomorrow if i am not as beautiful as i am today, it's not gonna matter to him...

Do girls have a say in whether they like the Boys physical appearance..?

lolzz it depends on ur thinking and ur parents thinking...obviously girls can say that but i believe it's not tht big an issue if u like someone..

Do girls have a say in when they want to get married...?

obviously...but again it depends on ur parents..few parents do give a lot of time to their children incase they're not ready for marriage, few don't...


Do parents give a good reason for every worry or instinct that you have.... saying you everything will be good...?

nobody is God..neither our parents nor us..we can faulter and they can also faulter...it's good to think positive..nobody has the guarantee that even if ur 100% satisfied with the prospective groom & his family , there will be no problem in future...life is never a bed of roses..u will have to work out certain things..have faith in urself..yes they do say that everything will be good 😃 but who has seen the future yaar..even if u choose someone for yourself, therez no guarantee that everything will be good..from one's side they try to find everything perfect..what u get is ur destiny...and what u don't wasn't meant for u..try to put a fullstop somewhere on ur expectations also...

If ur talking with respect to yrkkh, then girls have no say when they wanna marry or who...it's hitler rule over there...but therez one thing..u never know WHEN ur ready for marriage..when is the RIGHT time...Gayitri's thinking is kabhi toh shadi karni hai toh kara kar chutti karo !

Originally posted by: _charu_

👏 you have brought out a very good topic..

How many of us are given choice by our parents to choose the life partner we want..... ?

Well, if u ask me, I didn't have the confidence in me to choose someone for me...nor did i have the courage to face the consequences of it incase something goes wrong.....I believed that my parents are more experienced, they've seen different ppl. & life more than me ..they will never decide anything bad for me..i'd put my full faith in them......

when they were looking rishtas for me, i was very confused..i couldn't make out whether this is the right person for me or not...many times my parents saw someone, they didn't like him, they rejected him and i didn't even have to consider....AFTER i got married, i realized how right my parents were...the fact of life is that you will NEVER get 100% of everything...u HAVE to make certain compromises & they can be in any form..my only concern when my husband's rishta came for me was that his sister was not normal..i knew that she may/may not get married the whole life..my MIL also worries for her and this might be a lifelong tension for me....there was pressure on me from my parents to say yes..and eventually i said yes bec. i met my husband again n i fall in love with him...so i didn't think much about tht issue....NOW after marriage, yes , my fears turned out to be true...it IS a major issue in my family & my MIL often complaints to me tht i ignore my SIL...but i look at the positives in life..my husband , my baby love me, i feel that i don't need anything else in life...

Does Physical appereance have any consideration while choosing a groom... or is it only for the bride..?

yes physical appearance does have a consideration but my dear, trust me, it doesn't matter THAT much..ultimately if u get the love , affection, care & attention from ur husband , u yourself will feel that it doesn't matter...my husband is slightly overweight...and i'm totally opposite..but tomorrow if i am not as beautiful as i am today, it's not gonna matter to him...

Do girls have a say in whether they like the Boys physical appearance..?

lolzz it depends on ur thinking and ur parents thinking...obviously girls can say that but i believe it's not tht big an issue if u like someone..

Do girls have a say in when they want to get married...?

obviously...but again it depends on ur parents..few parents do give a lot of time to their children incase they're not ready for marriage, few don't...


Do parents give a good reason for every worry or instinct that you have.... saying you everything will be good...?

nobody is God..neither our parents nor us..we can faulter and they can also faulter...it's good to think positive..nobody has the guarantee that even if ur 100% satisfied with the prospective groom & his family , there will be no problem in future...life is never a bed of roses..u will have to work out certain things..have faith in urself..yes they do say that everything will be good 😃 but who has seen the future yaar..even if u choose someone for yourself, therez no guarantee that everything will be good..from one's side they try to find everything perfect..what u get is ur destiny...and what u don't wasn't meant for u..try to put a fullstop somewhere on ur expectations also...

If ur talking with respect to yrkkh, then girls have no say when they wanna marry or who...it's hitler rule over there...but therez one thing..u never know WHEN ur ready for marriage..when is the RIGHT time...Gayitri's thinking is kabhi toh shadi karni hai toh kara kar chutti karo !

i've been fightng wid all these qts... damnd its so scary... & confusng... since m goin thru all ths right now... i hav no answrs to the above qts... hav been tryng to find out... charu u so right about parents decission... thy definetly knw more thn us... i totally agree wid u...

Originally posted by: _charu_

How many of us are given choice by our parents to choose the life partner we want..... ?

Well, if u ask me, I didn't have the confidence in me to choose someone for me...nor did i have the courage to face the consequences of it incase something goes wrong.....I believed that my parents are more experienced, they've seen different ppl. & life more than me ..they will never decide anything bad for me..i'd put my full faith in them......


Does Physical appereance have any consideration while choosing a groom... or is it only for the bride..?

yes physical appearance does have a consideration but my dear, trust me, it doesn't matter THAT much..ultimately if u get the love , affection, care & attention from ur husband , u yourself will feel that it doesn't matter...my husband is slightly overweight...and i'm totally opposite..but tomorrow if i am not as beautiful as i am today, it's not gonna matter to him...

Do girls have a say in whether they like the Boys physical appearance..?

lolzz it depends on ur thinking and ur parents thinking...obviously girls can say that but i believe it's not tht big an issue if u like someone..

Do girls have a say in when they want to get married...?

obviously...but again it depends on ur parents..few parents do give a lot of time to their children incase they're not ready for marriage, few don't...


Do parents give a good reason for every worry or instinct that you have.... saying you everything will be good...?

nobody is God..neither our parents nor us..we can faulter and they can also faulter...it's good to think positive..nobody has the guarantee that even if ur 100% satisfied with the prospective groom & his family , there will be no problem in future...life is never a bed of roses..u will have to work out certain things..have faith in urself..yes they do say that everything will be good 😃 but who has seen the future yaar..even if u choose someone for yourself, therez no guarantee that everything will be good..from one's side they try to find everything perfect..what u get is ur destiny...and what u don't wasn't meant for u..try to put a fullstop somewhere on ur expectations also...👏👏👏👏👏

Originally posted by: _charu_

👏 you have brought out a very good topic..

How many of us are given choice by our parents to choose the life partner we want..... ?

Well, if u ask me, I didn't have the confidence in me to choose someone for me...nor did i have the courage to face the consequences of it incase something goes wrong.....I believed that my parents are more experienced, they've seen different ppl. & life more than me ..they will never decide anything bad for me..i'd put my full faith in them......

when they were looking rishtas for me, i was very confused..i couldn't make out whether this is the right person for me or not...many times my parents saw someone, they didn't like him, they rejected him and i didn't even have to consider....AFTER i got married, i realized how right my parents were...the fact of life is that you will NEVER get 100% of everything...u HAVE to make certain compromises & they can be in any form..my only concern when my husband's rishta came for me was that his sister was not normal..i knew that she may/may not get married the whole life..my MIL also worries for her and this might be a lifelong tension for me....there was pressure on me from my parents to say yes..and eventually i said yes bec. i met my husband again n i fall in love with him...so i didn't think much about tht issue....NOW after marriage, yes , my fears turned out to be true...it IS a major issue in my family & my MIL often complaints to me tht i ignore my SIL...but i look at the positives in life..my husband , my baby love me, i feel that i don't need anything else in life...

Does Physical appereance have any consideration while choosing a groom... or is it only for the bride..?

yes physical appearance does have a consideration but my dear, trust me, it doesn't matter THAT much..ultimately if u get the love , affection, care & attention from ur husband , u yourself will feel that it doesn't matter...my husband is slightly overweight...and i'm totally opposite..but tomorrow if i am not as beautiful as i am today, it's not gonna matter to him...

Do girls have a say in whether they like the Boys physical appearance..?

lolzz it depends on ur thinking and ur parents thinking...obviously girls can say that but i believe it's not tht big an issue if u like someone..

Do girls have a say in when they want to get married...?

obviously...but again it depends on ur parents..few parents do give a lot of time to their children incase they're not ready for marriage, few don't...


Do parents give a good reason for every worry or instinct that you have.... saying you everything will be good...?

nobody is God..neither our parents nor us..we can faulter and they can also faulter...it's good to think positive..nobody has the guarantee that even if ur 100% satisfied with the prospective groom & his family , there will be no problem in future...life is never a bed of roses..u will have to work out certain things..have faith in urself..yes they do say that everything will be good 😃 but who has seen the future yaar..even if u choose someone for yourself, therez no guarantee that everything will be good..from one's side they try to find everything perfect..what u get is ur destiny...and what u don't wasn't meant for u..try to put a fullstop somewhere on ur expectations also...

If ur talking with respect to yrkkh, then girls have no say when they wanna marry or who...it's hitler rule over there...but therez one thing..u never know WHEN ur ready for marriage..when is the RIGHT time...Gayitri's thinking is kabhi toh shadi karni hai toh kara kar chutti karo !

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