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Posted: 16 years ago
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So from today onwards we can see transformation in many relationships of CB. We can see the precursor of what's going to come in few days. (Ekta Kappor's saas bahu for few weeks)

I liked both Dev and Rad today and more so about Rad how she handled the situation. She looked at Dev but not in a pleading eyes. Well, that is what Rad is. When it comes to her wishes she will not force anyone. Dev did not jump immediately and started arguing with his mom. He restrained himself when Mrin was scratching the wounds. That situation is resolved somehow. It left a deep slap on Vaishali.

For once, I can understand her dismay when Dev called Devki 'Ma'. (Dev never called Devki 'ma' when Vishaka was his wife). It is all working against Rad. That is why she had that worried face.

But just one note for Dev.

"Dev, all the relationship surrounding you is undergoing transformation. Your mom is becoming Mother In Law again. Your wife is becoming Daughter In Law. Your friends and brothers are getting new Bhaabhi. So please handle this transition carefully. It is your duty to induct Rad into your family in a smooth manner. Please think and take care of the existing relationship so that it doesn't create any ripples. I am not saying you should accept all the crap but resolve it intelligently. Your Radhika is wise and intelligent. She will get them in her team eventually. But she is also emotional. She may not tell what is happening behind your back. So you need to be extra vigilant of your surrounding so that you can correct the situation as and when it occurs."

Please post your thoughts how Dev needs to handle Rad's situation in PB.


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Posted: 16 years ago
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RC: beautiful post. I will def write my thoughts. I loved the way they communicated with each other just by eyes, even in public......And loved the dignified silence of Dev..........
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Posted: 16 years ago
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Rightchoice ... I posted something similar on Anu's post
I liked the raDev interactions today and also yesterday. Though Dev wanted to go with Rad's wishes on her bidaii, he did not force the issue. He just quietly held her hand and she quietly agreed to let go. Loved that she did that
On the other hand, when it was needed he was quite firm in saying that he would like to stay back with Rads to take care of her. He thinks of her as his responsibility to take care of and expects his family to understand that too
I think Dev was firm when he needed to be .. and Rads responded very well.
As far as the future goes, Dadi is the only one who feels secure that Dev adores her. Rads will be insecure due to her physical scars. The problem with Vaishali is not only insecurity but also all of the other demons she is fighting ... varna sankar, etc. While Rads will make a perfect DIL, I think Dev is smart enough to navigate through all these relationships while making each of them feel special.
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Posted: 16 years ago
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Rightchoice good post!!. Defiantly Mother in law vs daughter in law relationships problems are an age old on going battle where the mother becomes so insecure in loosing her son to an outsider and wherein the ugly jealousy rise up to create unpleasantness in the family.

Dev should take extra care where this is concerned since Radhika is a girl who will not let her sorrows show / known to anyone under any circumstances. Vaishali is a person who is over possessive of her son and gets biased in her way of thinking. When Vishaka was there she was not a threat to Vaishali since she knew that Dev didn't love her or need her in anyway where as now she knows that dev will got any ends to protect Rads since she the love his life. Thus Dev should tread very carefully and balance everything diplomatically and keep an eye on how they treat Rads and show that he's aware of everything and he supports her unconditionally no matter how hard she tries to keep quiet and by which Rads will become a strong person..

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Originally posted by: dd.cool

<FONT size=3 face="Times New Roman">Rightchoice good post!!. Defiantly Mother in law vs daughter in law relationships problems are an age old on going battle where the mother becomes so insecure in loosing her son to an outsider and wherein the ugly jealousy rise up to create unpleasantness in the family. </FONT>


<FONT size=3 face="Times New Roman">Dev should take extra care where this is concerned since Radhika is a girl who will not let her sorrows show / known to anyone under any circumstances. Vaishali is a person who is over possessive of her son and gets biased in her way of thinking. When Vishaka was there she was not a threat to Vaishali since she knew that Dev didn't love her or need her in anyway where as now she knows that dev will got any ends to protect Rads since she the love his life. Thus Dev should tread very carefully and balance everything diplomatically and keep an eye on how they treat Rads and show that he's aware of everything and he supports her unconditionally no matter how hard she tries to keep quiet and by which Rads will become a strong person.. </FONT>


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Yes, here Dev needs to bring out positive aspect of every family member, not just Rad but his mother also, so that everyone can appreciate everyone. He needs to work out for few days to keep the atmosphere lite and constructive for the development of Saas bahu relationship.
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Posted: 16 years ago
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I think Dev should pick his battles wisely...not get involved in every little situation that may arise b/w MIL/DIL but definitely step in with firm/authorative manners when it calls for for it. It is not wise or worth for Dev to get involved for petty little things b/c Radhika should be able to (or learn) to resolve those on her own.
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Posted: 16 years ago
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Originally posted by: dd.cool

Rightchoice good post!!. Defiantly Mother in law vs daughter in law relationships problems are an age old on going battle where the mother becomes so insecure in loosing her son to an outsider and wherein the ugly jealousy rise up to create unpleasantness in the family.

Dev should take extra care where this is concerned since Radhika is a girl who will not let her sorrows show / known to anyone under any circumstances. Vaishali is a person who is over possessive of her son and gets biased in her way of thinking. When Vishaka was there she was not a threat to Vaishali since she knew that Dev didn't love her or need her in anyway where as now she knows that dev will got any ends to protect Rads since she the love his life. Thus Dev should tread very carefully and balance everything diplomatically and keep an eye on how they treat Rads and show that he's aware of everything and he supports her unconditionally no matter how hard she tries to keep quiet and by which Rads will become a strong person..

ddcool I would like to differ from u ....
When Visakha came to PB everybody had the knowledge that she was DEV's DG but at that moment Vaishali welcomed her with open arms... She was happy even when Rad's hand came into.. She welcomed that also with open arms and was looking forward for this marriage...
She only started getting worried after the Varnashankar seeds were raised and after that the seeds of envy was sown by the evil ppl around her one after the other... I don't think Vaishali has any issues or grudge against Radhika, deep in her heart she knows and acknowledges that Rad's is the perfect girl for her son... Once this Varnashankar issue is erased from her mind all the other worries would leave her instantly and embrace Rad's with open arms but till then no amount of work would help Rad's attain her MIL's love...
In this situation only DEV can help her out (Daadi has already tried but failed) b'coz he is the only person who can take out this fear from his MOM's mind and make her open her eyes and see.. No one else can help her out.. So he should go deep down the trouble and pull the roots of it itself but till then have to be careful b4 getting involved in any row between the DIL and MIL b'coz at that moment it will only fuel Vaishali's hatred against Rad's and she will be in for greater trouble then she already has..
He definitely would have to tell Rad's to tell him things otherwise the realtionship will go from BAD to WORST
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Posted: 16 years ago
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Originally posted by: abhilasha_dream

ddcool I would like to differ from u ....

When Visakha came to PB everybody had the knowledge that she was DEV's DG but at that moment Vaishali welcomed her with open arms... She was happy even when Rad's hand came into.. She welcomed that also with open arms and was looking forward for this marriage...
She only started getting worried after the Varnashankar seeds were raised and after that the seeds of envy was sown by the evil ppl around her one after the other... I don't think Vaishali has any issues or grudge against Radhika, deep in her heart she knows and acknowledges that Rad's is the perfect girl for her son... Once this Varnashankar issue is erased from her mind all the other worries would leave her instantly and embrace Rad's with open arms but till then no amount of work would help Rad's attain her MIL's love...
In this situation only DEV can help her out (Daadi has already tried but failed) b'coz he is the only person who can take out this fear from his MOM's mind and make her open her eyes and see.. No one else can help her out.. So he should go deep down the trouble and pull the roots of it itself but till then have to be careful b4 getting involved in any row between the DIL and MIL b'coz at that moment it will only fuel Vaishali's hatred against Rad's and she will be in for greater trouble then she already has..
He definitely would have to tell Rad's to tell him things otherwise the realtionship will go from BAD to WORST

Well abhilasha_dream what your saying is true. Yes can you remember when Vishaka had to do the cooking and when she ordered the food from outside and she kind of supported her and did not let her down. Yes it all started with this cast issue - now her mind has been poisoned first by Amma by planting this ugly poison ivy and Minaralani the gang is continuously harping on it wherein she has completely lost her rational thinking power. Thus what ever the good qualities or good deeds done by Rads is overlooked and everything turns out be in disfavour towards Rads. Like you said till this is not solved Rads life will go through so much of upheavals and Dev should be a support not only to Rads but to his mom in making her understand and erasing this mythical belief /fear from her mind.

Very true at the inception she was so keen on getting Rads as a DIL which was destroyed by these evil people around her plus she lost her main life line – her husband who would have supported / advised / corrected her in such situations thus now who ever sides Rads is looked as adversaries and tends to take the advice of the wrong people plus confides too in the wrong people. By all these deeds it has lead her to becoming more and more insecure in believing that she is going lose her son to this girl and she thinks Rads is going to snatch her son completely from her. Dev should handle these relationships with much understanding since it's a very fragile line which could be snapped so easily. This happens in most of the families isn't it.

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