Originally posted by: mermaid_QT
it is all about who you committ to for a life-time. paperwork doesn;t matter for some people and that is not because they are promiscuous. That is the only point I am trying to make.
qt
look we can find exceptions almost anywhere. if what you are saying is "some people", then fine, we'll always have "some people" on any side of the divide. but it's usually a pretty weak inference when u have to rely on "some people", rather than "most people", unless they are particularly smart.
second, other than support the stats you yourself raised which qwerty had questioned, my main point was simply that ppl who get into live-ins dont somewhere have the same level of commitment as the married folks. if they did, then why not the paper-work? after all, there's no marriage tax penalty even in some of the liberal scandinavian countries that i know of. dont know abt the french though- they're generally always off in their own world.
third, nothing i said was supposed to be an indictment of anyone's values. i did mention how values keep changing and i based my opinion on other aspects.
fourth, as for promiscuity, in fact i believe live-ins are more monogamous than the singles, the reverse of what has been implied.
that aside, i did find the live-in arrangement "most of the time" as suboptimal to either marriage or to the single life. sort of a go-between that is a sorry compromise. if one wants to have fun the single way or is afraid of commitment, stay single. if one does have that commitment, then it's probably smarter to strengthen it some more and give the relationship more of a chance by getting married. if one doesnt, then a reasonable conclusion can very well be that there is some lack of commitment or conviction etc. No?😊 And that can hardly be considered as trashing someone's values pls
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