Originally posted by: Mystique.Kishi
Akshay wanted to marry Vijaya. Yes, he was at fault. Everybody here is like " Nobody forced Akshay to marry Vijaya.". Well here is the kicker. WHO ASKED VIJAYA TO MARRY AKSHAY? She willingly married a man who was marrying her out of pity. Did Vijaya think AKshay was in love with her ? Nope. She knew Akshay was marrying her out of a misplaced sense of responsbility. She should have objected to marrying him. But she did not. Because unlike some people on this forum like to believe, Vijaya is not as strong as they think she is. She took advantage of the opportunity that a man was willing to support her. A really strong woman would have asked Akshay his intentions before marrying her. She should have asked Akshay whether he actually liked her or was marrying her out of pity. Did she do that? No.
Also who forced Akshay to marry Vijaya? THE SOCIETY. The people who would talk. Akshay loved his friend and wanted to shield his friend's love and his friend's child from society's harsh criticisms. So he offered to marry Vijaya. All the while he sacrificed his happiness and his own wishes for the sake of his friend. It was Vijaya who should have told Akshay that she will face society on her own. But she accepted Akshay's offer of support all the while ignoring the fact that she is marrying a man who does not love her. That she is condemning a man to a dull loveless life and taking advatage of that man's conscience.
Two people made love and created a child. But the responsibility of that child has been dumped on a person who has had nothing to do with it. Yeh sahi hai. Bachcha koi aur paida karo aur uski zimmedari kisi aur pe thop do.
Okay cheating on your spouse is ethically wrong. But is Vijaya even a spouse?Akshay has not even touched her. Vijaya has had no connection with Akshay emotionally, mentally or physically? He hides her secrets from her, is not mentally connected to her, sleeps on a different bed. But she is his wife. How? Kis maayne me patni he? Nandini has had more contact with Akshay in her brief time than Vijaya has had for eight years .
Seven revolutions does not make someone your spouse. A husband wife relationship goes much much deeper than that.
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I agree here that Vijaya should not have accepted the marriage proposal even if she did not know about Nandini as one who marries someone knowing that she is just pitied upon is not wise or strong...as you want to be LOVED not Pitied upon in a marriage...may be for the moment you would find temporary respite from your problems, but at long run, you are inviting trouble...Vijaya should have at least once asked why is he marrying her and if he he has someone else in life. So Vijaya is at fault as well, besides who is happy now from the three with this odd marriage...if Akshya had forgotten Nandini then it is different thing.
When someone does some favor, we should be grateful and not ask who asked them to do favor and ask for more and more...we should be grateful for whatever they have done to us and and not hold grudge or complaint if they do not wish to do that favor forever.So who asked Akshya to do favor is itself an ignorant question...Yes Society forced him...his strong kind nature did.
Also as Vijaya-Akshaya's marriage is non existent so cheating or no cheating hardly matters...as you said Bijayaya is not a spouse in the full term meaning...Bijaya was a wild woman too as if we see of society it does not approve of premarital or extra marital affairs ...one of which Vijaya had and one of which some post marital meetings Akshya-Nandini having. Akshya Nandini are not sleeping together or having fun...they met ...Nandini refused but seeing Akshya faint and knowing his love and name's sake marriage she agreed to rekindle their relationship and now after discussion they agreed to let Vijaya know as Nandini also not interested to be a mistress...she wants her rights of bride-hood...Akshaya will shortly tell Bijaya too, then Bijaya should not mind.
What's the complain about...Akshya is going to tell Bijaya...they will not forever meet chori chori...but I guess when Nandini expressed her desire to marry Akshya , then also she was being criticized, as this Bijaaya-Akshay name's sake marriage brings no one any happiness , it is best to end it...else no one would gain nothing from this marriage. Nandini is right here abut wanting to marry Akshaya..Vijaya's khusiyan is made from destroying her own khusiyan...
Marriage may be between two families, but Akshya's parents will not approve of it once they know that Neeti is not their grand daughter, not Akshya's child but Nilesh's. And Akshaya is so unhappy in this marriage and they live like strangers in same room....if Akshya Nandini are hiding their meeting then Vijaya and her mom are also hiding the Neeti secret for their convenience.It was said families come together but here they disintegrated, Akshya lost his family...he has lost not only love but family by this marriage...and now his parents are being cheated upon ... So even by family standards, this marriage is wrong.
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P.S - Thankfully Vijaya has only one child out of wedlock, else if she had ten, then all of those kid and their responsibility along with their mom would be dumped on Akshay while keeping his family away and in dark about the origin of those children.
Edited by Maharaani - 8 years ago
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