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Posted: 9 years ago
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i don't think its double stds.
i m swasan fan even tho i cud relate 2 sanskar more & like him more but i can't ignore his mistakes also.
wen swara was not in luv wid sanskar & was behaving rudely wid sanskar tho i din't like he r rudeness but understood her(tho i was not active on the forum at that time)
then during divorce & ragz maalkin drama tho i din't like sanskar's rude behaviour 2wards swara but understood his situtn'

in this case also i can understand swara's insecurity & frustratn,tension& jealousy.yes i din't like her snapping at sanskar wen he only called 4 her concern but i cud understood that situtn.

abt pre-cap i won't say anything b4 epi airs.but if its true then i say shes insecure & frustrated.and i'd posted my POV on the thread "swara's luv immature" abt that.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: ..CrazyInLove..

I completely understand Swara's insecurity in this case. And I don't think she is doubting Sanskaar's love for her when she says "obsessed" (although that is a wrong word to use in this circumstance, but inserted into the script very cleverly by the cvs to show misunderstanding). For Swara, Sanskaar need not be in love with Kavita to remember her. She may think he still has some residual guilt, after all he did feel responsible for Kavita's future when she came back. And he never had time to deal with Kavita's return or her exit from his life. Things have just been happening one after the other so quickly in their lives.


And even if Swara thinks that Sanskaar may still have residual feelings (other than guilt) for Kavita he needs to deal with, I still think she may have a point there. Had Swara not been there, Sanskaar would have still been pining for Kavita. There was no reason for him to forget Kavita other than Swara (and ofcourse the obvious). Swara on the other hand wouldn't have gone back to Laksh even if Sanskaar hadn't stayed in her life. So in her mind, these two exes are very different. Thinking this is not her doubting his love for her, but understanding that sometimes a person needs time to move on from their past. Time for reflection which Sanskaar never had with Kavita glueing herself onto him after her return. This is primarily what I felt when I saw their interaction outside the car. What she needs to understand here is that it is for her safety that he is holding Kavita responsible. He is not fantasizing about her. She needs to understand that he is scared for her, and this has nothing to do with any kind of residual feelings or guilt. Her not understanding this is irking me a little.

Both of them are being very stubborn with their stance right now as to who is the culprit. I don't blame either since neither has been able to give the other proofs. Sanskaar is saying he gives her the benefit of the doubt, but he goes back to saying what possible reason would masi do it? Just like how Swara is adamantly disagreeing that it can be Kavita.

As for Swara's outbreaks at Sanskaar, I do get irritated at her but very momentarily. When she knows she has done something wrong, she is always ready to apologize, which I like about her. She is so frustrated right now. Her marriage has been broken before, and she has opened her heart out to someone after so long. Then she had to try to convince Sanskaar that she truly loved him, Ragini was trying to throw her out, DP took dhokese signs and then stupid Kavita inserted herself between her and her soulmate. She finally gets some happiness after so long, and this masi behind her to break her marriage and trying to hurt her mom. Her lashing out, being frustrated is a given. Ofcourse, I don't feel bad when anyone other than Sanskaar is at the receiving end. I feel so bad for my girl, bechari, has to go through so much😭and ofcourse her sad means my hero is sad too.😭 If only taklu gifts them a separate house after their marriage, that's the least he can do for causing the divorce in the first place.

Anyways, at the end of the day I love them both, and I just want to see them happily married. These trivial issues created by chudails will not do anything but make SwaSan stronger. As for the backlash, lots of people have been supporting Swara as well. And I saw many disappointed with Sanskaar when the Kav--Kar engagement was going on or when Swara was pleading for forgiveness.








I share the same stance on this as you do Sans!!! U described it in a much better way!!! I don't have a problem with her insecurity at all and I completely get it. In fact I didn't even had a problem of her lashing out at Sanskaar during the phone conversation. It was clearly the spur of the moment reaction from her side. She was scared for her mum and then constantly hearing abt Kavita just irked her. And she did apologize after!!! I knew she would!! She does mistakes but she knows how to apologize as well!!

The only problem I have with her as again u said that she is not ready to see it beyond Maasi. And again, it's very very natural because Maasi has been making it so clear by her actions that she cannot think of Kavita as a possibility!! I just wish she could give Sanskaar the benefit of doubt!!

Sanskaar here on the other hand is ready to listen and give benefit of doubt to Swara. But he himself is not ready to see it beyond Kavita!!

What they both need to realize is that of things are happening at two different places at same time, then obviously two people are involved!! They both just want to be stubbornly focused on their on suspect

They should either just focus on their suspect, collect proofs and show it to each other and conclude they both are culprits!! Or both should just listen out and plan to catch the right culprit!!
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: SwaSanFanGirl




I share the same stance on this as you do Sans!!! U described it in a much better way!!! I don't have a problem with her insecurity at all and I completely get it. In fact I didn't even had a problem of her lashing out at Sanskaar during the phone conversation. It was clearly the spur of the moment reaction from her side. She was scared for her mum and then constantly hearing abt Kavita just irked her. And she did apologize after!!! I knew she would!! She does mistakes but she knows how to apologize as well!!

The only problem I have with her as again u said that she is not ready to see it beyond Maasi. And again, it's very very natural because Maasi has been making it so clear by her actions that she cannot think of Kavita as a possibility!! I just wish she could give Sanskaar the benefit of doubt!!

Sanskaar here on the other hand is ready to listen and give benefit of doubt to Swara. But he himself is not ready to see it beyond Kavita!!

What they both need to realize is that of things are happening at two different places at same time, then obviously two people are involved!! They both just want to be stubbornly focused on their on suspect

They should either just focus on their suspect, collect proofs and show it to each other and conclude they both are culprits!! Or both should just listen out and plan to catch the right culprit!!


This!! If either of them can actually listen when the other is saying something can they put this together. Right now they are both being stubborn and dumbed down by CVs to prolong a MU. This non-cooperative couple is not SwaSan. They communicate and confront each other, like when Swara locked herself in a room with Sanskaar so he would listen to her after the farmhouse incident. Or when Sanskaar shared his uncertainty of the truth behind Ragini's intentions during memory loss fiasco knowing fully well Swara can just misunderstand him given her blind faith in Ragini. If it wasn't before, after last episode it is very clear there are two people involved if only our in-house Sherlock and Bond would cooperate.

I saw in some segments Swara is trying to use some chemical to track footprints of the culprit. I just hope it is Kavita's. So then she can finally realize that there is someone other than Masi. Her doubt on masi won't decrease but she'll start thinking that there are 2 people involved. And once she shares this piece of info with Sanskaar, then they can collectively band bajao of this menacing twosome KaShi. I just hope these footprints opens her eyes to the possibility of 2 people conspiring against them. *fingers crossed*
Edited by ..CrazyInLove.. - 9 years ago
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Cvs are moulding their character in such a way that one can't recognise if they are the same people once who discuss everything between them. Swara is not responding in a wrong way or out of her character. She is worried for her mother and she knows that there is only one person who can take her bad or good.she is irritated that Sanskar is only taking Kavita's name but does not suspect masi. Swara is right to have doubt on masi. She had seen her actions. But Kavita has sacrificed her love for swara so how can she thinks ill of kavita. If we can give benefit of doubt to Sanskar during divorce drama so why not to swara now.Masi is also a suspect so swara is not wrong. Please have some patience and don't get irritated. We have a long way to go and suffer more. This is not only swasan's agnipariksha, but ours too.😊
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Posted: 9 years ago
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sree I love u for this dear I know u r Sanskar fan but I also know u will criticise her and didnt bash her re
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: ..CrazyInLove..


This!! If either of them can actually listen when the other is saying something can they put this together. Right now they are both being stubborn and dumbed down by CVs to prolong a MU. This non-cooperative couple is not SwaSan. They communicate and confront each other, like when Swara locked herself in a room with Sanskaar so he would listen to her after the farmhouse incident. Or when Sanskaar shared his uncertainty of the truth behind Ragini's intentions during memory loss fiasco knowing fully well Swara can just misunderstand him given her blind faith in Ragini. If it wasn't before, after last episode it is very clear there are two people involved if only our in-house Sherlock and Bond would cooperate.

I saw in some segments Swara is trying to use some chemical to track footprints of the culprit. I just hope it is Kavita's. So then she can finally realize that there is someone other than Masi. Her doubt on masi won't decrease but she'll start thinking that there are 2 people involved. And once she shares this piece of info with Sanskaar, then they can collectively band bajao of this menacing twosome KaShi. I just hope these footprints opens her eyes to the possibility of 2 people conspiring against them. *fingers crossed*


Thats the thing!! CVs are unnecessarily trying to force this MU down our throat. You are right!! This not SwaSan. They talk, discuss and do everything together!! I was actually laughing at the current track and told Yukti that if CVs want some ideas just for MUs, man, ask me. I will give them a much better idea than what crap they are showing right now!!!

Sans, even if it was very clear in the last episode that two peoples are involved, they are not gonna show it. They are still gonna show them as focussing on their own damn suspects. I think until Swara's chemical wala plan doesn't fail, both are not gonna know that something is up and that two people are involved which is another load of crap!!


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