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I have posted my stand on couple of threads but I felt this thing required an individual post .
For me, based on yesterday's episode, Both SwaSan's reaction were justifiable to me. I don't think Swara was being mahaan by stepping back. And definitely Sanskaar was not being stupid by staying silent yesterday.
Firstly, coming to Swara. I read on few post that Swara is being Mahaan by completely stepping back and leaving the decision on Sanskaar. I don't think thats wrong. I think thats one of the wisest decision she has ever taken in her life.
I think Swara is doing the same thing that Sanskaar did too!!
When Laksh was going all haywire for Swara and blackmailing Swara to comeback in his life, Sanskaar did suggest her to consider the thought of going back to him. Yes, he didn't force her, just gave her a suggestion even after her denying that thought millions of times not only to him but to everyone who had confronted Swara for that matters. The reason being, first and foremost, Swara didn't have anyone in her life then. She didn't have or lets put it that way, she hadn't realized her feelings for Sanskaar then. And second of all, according to Sanskaar, that was Swara's first love too. So he asked her to consider the possibility too if she wanted too!!
I think Swara is doing the same thing. She is giving him the chance to decide between his first love and her. The reason being firstly, Sanskaar never had a bad memory with Kavita. He was not wronged by her in any way (atleast not then) like she was wronged by Laksh. And secondly, yes, she was his first love. And it was way too intense then Swa---Lak.. To the level that he was ready to destroy his own family for that. And yes, lastly, we as viewers know that Sanskaar has accepted Swara but she is still not aware of that. I understand he has publicly and proudly acknowledged her as his wife, especially in front of Kavita and that does says a lot. But even in the past, there has been a lot of incidences, where Sanskaar has acknowledged her as his wife but then in the closed room, has asked her to stay away from him. For example, his recent confrontation with Ragini after that property transfer celebration party.
Its not the Swara is not trusting his love for her. She is just giving him an option to back out and go back to his first love, only if he wants to. She is not forcing it on her. When Sanskaar had suggested her to go back to Laksh, its not that he didnt trust her stand or her feelings for Laksh, he was just giving her an option. And I agree that this is the right time for her to step back. I am not sure if everyone will agree with that. Kavita is already being all touchy touchy and emotionally blackmailing Sanskaar. And if Swara keeps fighting (obviously not like Kavita), the guy is gonna be so frustrated with the two girls running behind him. He does need some sanity and space to think this through, make a right decision and take a right step at the right time and of course thats what Swara is doing. She told him what she feels many times and even when he heard her conversation with DP, she said it clearly, whatever he decides, she will accept it. And even if that is continuing their relation. It was very clear. Giving him that space he needs to figure out what he should exactly do and how. And they are sure about one thing, stepping back doesn't mean they won't see eachother until Sanskaar comes up with a decision. If Sanskaar will need her for something or for that matters, Swara would need him, they would be there for each other as each other's support no matter what the situation is. And thats given.
Now coming to Sanskaar, I think his reaction was also completely justified yesterday. I don't think Sanskaar was wrong today by being silent either. Don't get me wrong, but I would be the happiest person when he will come out of his mute mode, run to Swara and unite with her. But I think his reaction was justified for me. First and foremost, he loved Kavita to death. And second of all, he never had any bad memory with Kavita like Swara had with Laksh. There were two main important reasons that Swara kept outrightly rejecting Laksh: First and foremost, he didn't trust her. And second and most important, he jumped into a matrimony with her sister. Hence, from then there was no looking back for her. No matter whether Swara would have loved any one else or not, she would not have gone back to him. But incase of Sanskaar, thats not the case. If Swara wasnt in his life, had he not loved her, he would have immediately gone back to Kavita (provided that he didn't love Swara). He was in utter shock!! He didn't know what to do. The girl, his first love that he had assumed to be dead was in front of him and asking him to come back in her life. He definitely doesn't love her today but he does have a very soft corner for her and he cares. And the way she was being all touchy touchy and emotionally blackmailing him how she cannot survive without him, is gonna stop him momentarily to tell her the truth. Obviously, he wouldn't want to hurt her. She hasn't done anything wrong to him. She hasn't wronged him like Laksh had wronged Swara. Yes, I know, in this process, he is hurting himself as well and Swara too. But it has to happen. Yes, he does need to find a perfect time, sit down calmly and make her listen to himself.
If he keeps stretching this, thats when I am not gonna like it. I wasnt happy with the engagement development as well to be honest. Especially the OLVs, which suggested he is not telling her the truth because he fears she might not be able to handle it. His fears for me are still justifiable. I understand them. He wants to protect her and thats why he is taking that step. In order to protect Swara and Shomi, he got into the forceful wedding with Swara despite of not wanting to be in since he didn't believe in forceful marriages. His prime goal then was still to protect Swara and get her justice. But Kavita still needs to know the truth. The earlier she knows that the better it is for her. Else, it is gonna spoil three lives. But I am not gonna say more about this. I am waiting for the episode before I can conclude my stance on that. Yes, Kavita should know the truth as early as possible because you are giving that girl false hopes. Even if you care for the girl, you will have to tell her the truth because you are risking her health condition even badly by not telling her until the nth hour and then leaving her in the mandap.
I think the most important thing is both SwaSan are clear in their heads of what they want and they both know that too and are still ready to support each other in every possible, despite of the chances that they might not end up together (which won't happen, so don't panic, LOL). Yes, I am hoping he backs out in the engagement itself and is not stretched until the wedding else I am gonna be majorly pissed. But my reaction would still depend on what they have shown. If both SwaSan decide to that and stretch it until the wedding, no one can be blamed except of both of them.
And the most important and intense scene for me was when both were trying to avoid looking into each other's eyes. They both were scared that they will breakdown the moment they will read the pain in each others eyes. And thats what they were trying to avoid. Both are trying to handle the situation as calmly as possible.
So everyone calm down, chillax and lets us all together brace ourselves for yet another bumpy ride which will finally get us to reunion of SwaSan.
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