The Misused And Overrated Concept Of First Love! - Page 2

Beautiful post and i completely agree witg u.

^ Beautiful post by u, @TM! 👏

This is brilliantly written!! Agree with every word you have written!!

Originally posted by: sam.

Completely agree with you ! Even I have never understood this obsession with first love ? Whenever or wherever you find your soulmate what does it matter if he was the first fifth or whatever number ! Your soulmate is your soulmate ! And frankly speaking in case of swara and lakshya I never saw any type of love , infatuation maybe that also more so on lakshya's side of things than swara's .But then again I might be biased cause I started watching this serial just recently and I watched all the SwaSan scenes first before going back and watching the previous episodes. So for me the interactions that SwaSan have seems to have more depth than swara and lakshya ever had !

Agreed. And you don't sound biased at all. I have caught a few glimpses of this show every now and then since it aired and frankly, when I discovered they are trying to pair up Lakshya and Swara, I stopped watching altogether. Just like you and many others, they didn't interest me as a couple. It was only after Ragini pushed Swara in the river that I started watching again and then SwaSan happened and I never looked back.

Originally posted by: --Anna--

Hi :)

Love your post! I was out and about just wondering around the forum when I stumbled on it. Brilliantly written 👏 👏

I completely agree with your stance, First Love is definitely a misused and overrated concept and DOES NOT EXIST. Love is not time defined - it does not matter WHEN you fall in love - what matters is HOW deeply you fall in love. I believe First Love is a concept not even for books anymore - it is only for teenage girls who idolise love on the basis of hotness and looks of an actor.

What Swara felt for Laksh may have been her initial initiation to what feelings of love mean. I do not think Swara fell in deeply with love but she fell in the idea of being in love with someone. I have always been honest about Swara Laksh and how juvenile their story comes across to me. It constantly seems to me that Swara fell in love with Laksh because Ragini made her believe it. IT never came across as genuine. I felt when Swara might have agreed to marry Laksh - she must have been in love with the idea of being in love which is Infatuation. And whatever she felt for him - she fell out of it, thanks to Laksh's distrust and insecurities. I cannot blame Swara if she does not love Laksh anymore - because in hearts of hearts she may never had.

When it comes to True Love - the story is always different. You know, I believe, a lot many people will support you when you are happy - but those who stand by you - when you are sad - they are the ones you need to keep close. Sanskaar was there with Swara when no one was - and he still stands with her without having no expectations of this relationship. He only thinks what is best for her and what is right for her. He protects her - shields her and loves her like no other. That is TRUE LOVE. And Swara might not realise it yet - but she has begun to respect Sanskaar and love him. She may not realise it - but she will understand the meaning of TRUE LOVE very soon. 😳

Nothing stands in way of TRUE LOVE - no expectations, no misunderstanding, no dis-trust, no insecurities and that is what Swara is going to realise. Love cannot happen through force - and love should NEVER need Force - that is degrading love to its lowest.

Swara has to choose the one she can trust herself with - and that is Sanskaar. Just because she 'first' loved Laksh - that is NOT reason enough to choose Laksh. She has matured as a person and so have her feelings. If she chooses Sanskaar of her own will - she is RIGHT in doing so. It is better than choosing someone off blackmail and staying unhappy the rest of your life. 🥱

Thank you so much 😊

Brilliantly said. I couldn't have said it better 👏

The notion of first love is definitely hyped about more in the teenage crowd. It is only when you mature on an emotional level that you start to understand the difference between trying to love your crush and actually falling in love.

Even I as an audience never was able to connect with Lakshya and Swara as a couple. There was simply no chemistry, no spark, no genuineness in their story. All of which we can easily find between Swara and Sanskar.

Completely agree. Love and trust are correlated when it comes to relationships. One cannot survive without the other. In Swara and Lakshya's case, there is a serious lack of both. Swara doesn't love Lakshya and Lakshya doesn't trust Swara. That's enough to understand they don't belong together.

Originally posted by: CogitoErgoSum

I couldn't agree with you more. Love is a precious, beautiful emotion between two people. And we all know, how different every single person is from the other. I don't get this one size fits all, blanket approach to stating, with sweeping certainty "One can never get over one's first love". Any such arrogantly broad "motherhood" statement, is anyway prone to error.

First love is just that--first love. It doesn't automatically mean that it will be the enduring passion--of the forever kind--of that person's life. For the fortunate ones, sure, first loves go on to become life partners. But I would hazard a guess that there is a significant minority (maybe even a slim majority?), who do not land up with their "first loves".

It certainly doesn't mean, if that bond doesn't work out, that either of these people involved cannot or will not go on to find happy, fulfilling lives with someone else. Someone better, perhaps. Someone more suited to their temperament. Someone who was more willing to be there for them, through thick and thin.

I just want to say here, that if everyone indeed had to land up with their first loves only, and could never, ever move on to find a fulfilling, glorious relationship if the first one fell through, there surely would be LOT of unhappy people in the world.

You have penned it all out so beautifully 👏 . I don't feel the need to add more to it. Everything you've said is perfect to the T in regards of what love is.

I completely agree with you. It's like sticking around in an unhappy marriage, only because once upon a time you loved that person. Where in the rule book does it say that you can't stop loving someone you once did? People change, circumstances change. Us humans are always on the lookout for happiness and we don't stop until we find the right person to share it with.

Bang on with the last paragraph ⭐️

Originally posted by: medhasankar

Should it not be the love which will last

instead

of the love which came first?

This is one game where I guess the lasting one will get the first prize from me.

Loving a good person is important who will love you back.

loving a worthless guy/girl just because he/she happens to have excited you as he/she was the first one to come along sounds rubbish any day.

@Bold: Very apt. And I agree.

It's more important to be with someone who loves you rather than the one you love.

Originally posted by: Vaibhi.

Beautiful post...
completely agree with you...
Swara started feeling something for Sanskar she is just scared to allow herself to love somebody again...as her first time experience was not pleasant..
and actually she is not confused between Lakshya and Sanskar as of now Lakshya is not coming in any of her equations... She is just confused whether to continue relationship with Sanskar or not... she is thinking about whether or not to leave Sanskar this time as his heart is telling some other story now ...different from whatever she thought things should be...

and she reacted when Sanskar proposed to be his wife not because she hates to become so ...but because Sanskar breaking his promise is something beyond her tolerance level... it does not matter what promise he is breaking ...she is just not okay with the fact that he breaking promise... she trusts Sanskar more than herself that's why always asking for his opinion and Sanskar is one she can completely rely on and she is afraid of losing that trust again...she just reacted in fear of her trust being broken again by someone she depends on..its just she does not want Sanskar to change ...she already fell for her best friend... that's what I feel

Thank you.

She is definitely developing feelings for Sanskar. She may already have. It's just the bitter experiences of her past that are keeping her from taking the plunge.

Agreed. It's more about her decision to continue or end her relationship with Sanskar. Lakshya doesn't even seem to be a part of the equation.

Originally posted by: OtakuGirl-Debo

Totally agree with you. Even I never understand this thing called First Love.. May be the first person came in your life is your lover... You loved that person very much but it is not necessary that that person is also your true love or soulmate... May be you get to marry the person who is your so called First Love... But than you meet a m guy n start to fall in love with that guy.. Then what you will call that first love? I believe love can happen any time... It doesn't matter if it's first or third...

If love was supposed to happen only once in life, couples who went on to get married later wouldn't even think about a divorce. It's just a bogus concept that lures people towards it with the help of some severely misguided fiction writing and movies/shows.