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The conversation between swara and shomi made me really happy the other day because i realized that swara didn't only love this so-called 'good' and 'mature' version of laksh, she loves lucky just as much and its always been him- when he made mistakes that enraged her or he shared his happiness that comforted her, in every form of Laksh, she's always loved him even if she couldn't admit it to herself. this was awesome for me cos i had a HUGE problem with lucky becoming laksh in order for swara to love him. as if lucky wasn't good enough. Some wise man (SRK movie. duh! the wisest love guru) has said- koi pyaar kare, toh tumse kare, tum jaise ho waise kare. koi tumhe badal ke pyaar kare toh woh pyaar nahi sauda kare, aur saiba pyaar mein sauda nahi hota. ive always believed that and it extends to every kind of love and in establishing every kind of relationship. whether it be between parent child or husband wife or any other relationship. its the integrity and honesty of the relationship that relies upon each individual being themselves. i don't think clothes define who you are. but the people who insist on having to wear certain clothes to look and seem acceptable, do define your personality by your clothes. to them its a part of your identity. so when they ask you to change your clothes, they're asking you to change your identity because thats the only condition under which they'll love you- basically they don't love you but could learn to love a version of you. To those people, the only thing you should change is your manners and show them the middle finger.
Swara as a character is perhaps the most insecure one in this whole show. people think she's confident but it is just a facade. she's a little girl with daddy issues and constant insecurity that the happiness in her life will go away- be it her father, her family or now laksh and his family. but if to be with laksh and to gain the Maheshwari approval Swara has to change the clothes that define her to them, then the maheshwaris and ragini the fake swara can HAVE him (and this is coming from a die hard Laksh and Swarya fan, not a swara fan). It is precisely this mentality that somehow girls who wear clothes like ragini have more respectability and integrity to preserve than girls wearing modern clothes, this idea that modern clothes will get you the guy but to get any further in the relationship you'll have to be a traditional bahu types; this is what makes girls like me who wear western clothes feel like we are naked on the streets and give the men on the streets the cultural freedom to make us feel that way. make us feel like we are unacceptable and our clothes are somehow a reflection of loose morals. idk what will happen in the serial, I'm just going off the promo, but if swara changes herself to fit into the maheshwari house, then that will be literally a slap in the face of every girl out there whose clothes are a form of her self-expression or comfort, not her moral framework; who struggle in precisely these kind of situations with this mindset of the society on a daily basis. i find this 'plot twist' actively offensive in the same way i find religious discrimination offensive- an attack on my self expression and moral groundwork.
if these cvs have an ounce of maturity and depth of understanding, they'll recognize that rape isn't an act that happens merely when a girl is forced into sex, rape starts when a boy sees his mother praising swara for becoming a 'good girl and bahu' by changing her clothes, it progresses when he understands that these clothes are the parameter of the good girl and any alternative is the bad girl, it goes further when he looks at women not fitting the good girl image as an object and hears the women he respects- the women in his society justify his crude intentions as a flaw in the girl's dressing sense, the physical act is but a culmination of years of conditioning. Suffices to say Im extremely unhappy with DP's conditional acceptance and this swarya engagement track.
I was sad when we found out about ragini turning into swara, because killing your identity and taking on the shallow identity of someone else is pathetic. i wouldnt be this disappointed in this character if atleast she understood the essence of who swara is, but alas swara is just her clothes to her sister as well. because no matter how much ragini tries, she's fundamentally everything swara isn't- she's weak minded, she's a nurturer not a stern guide, she's an introvert and no amount of copying swara will change that, she puts herself first, everyone else she loves comes later. none of these are bad qualities just not qualities she can change and she doesn't understand that. she can never be swara no matter how much she tries cos not everyone is cut out for everything. a street kid lives on the street through rain and shine, if my kid stays in the rain for a day he gets sick. but atleast in all of this theres some twisted sense of empowerment- she's doing this crazy to get what she wants not to try fit into a place that should be hers naturally like swara is doing. pathetic.
i am confident on Laksh's love and i hope they don't disappoint on that end. thus i will refrain from talking about his reaction to Ragini's change in clothes. if theres any integrity in this show Laksh will be unaffected by that. unless of course they decide to be disgusting and show laksh drunkenly mistakes her to be swara, at this point ragini isn't above that in the slightest. but i believe that he loves swara's soul and as long as that doesn't change, he'll love her but i do hope he'll encourage swara to retain her self-expression even if its unpopular in his family, but like all good things you can't expect from this serial this is probably somewhere on that list. i don't watch this show anymore but after the new promo, i HAD to write this. not because I'm sad that a good show has become crap, I've made my peace with that. but because the experts at RS think this is the kind of track needed for TRP. I hope our audience proves them wrong.
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