yuvani = no self respect for suhani?

My instinctive thoughts about a couple who are unhappy in their marriage life and if they have tried every thing but it is not working is that they should quit and move on. And this also goes for the 1 partner who has done every thing that he/she can do for the relationship and it has not work. But than the traditional part that has been subconciously programmed in my head comes in and this rejects this thought because marriages are supposed to be forever right? So how can we abandon it just coz of conflict and ego. But then i go back to my initial reaction because u can only lie to yourself and ignore something for a little while if some thing is over than let it go. If a mirror breaks or cracks it can never be the same again u can look at it, probably keep it, but u will always see the imperfection that it has but also see a distorted version of yourself on it. I watch Suhani and i think that from her side even though the love is still there her relationship with Yuvraj is over i dnt think she considers him her husband, she wil probably do the fast tomorrow but will it be for her love, her husband or friend. But more than that is my conflict with this marriage is that Yuvraj has tried to protect her as much as he could 1st from the truth but things spiralled out of control and he couldn't control what happened. As much as suhani had to deal with he had a lot to deal with as well. If we say suhani brought love and emotion to the marriage he brought protection and kept it together just as much as she did. Thats why we see him feeling slighted by prats and sharad coz they make it seem like suhani did everything in the marriage just because she was in love with him but he has been just as invested and involved in it as she had been he didn't love her bt he protected their union. All he needed to realize was that the marriage wasn't a duty for him any more that he was way past that and he had become an active participant in it. And he needed to realize once she found out the truth that u can't keep a friend forever with u because friends need their own life they can't be with u 24/7 only a true partner can be with u forever. Bt than what we all have watched Suhani go through in that house comes back to me. We get yuvani back together in a few weeks, marriage drama is over he proves himself as the 1 who truly cares for her, which he does and she takes him back. Then where does suhani's self respect go if she goes back to him they back in the birla house her trying to win dadi back and her self respect will just be buried and we will watch dadi and her gang till december and show is over. U watch what this girl has been through and 1 has got to be like can we finally get her to get into self preservation mood shut all of them out and just concentrate on yourself get your confidence back, get a life, think about what u want in peace. Does she really need a man to be happy? The real spanner that could truly show that she values herself, her self respect is if she rejects him after this 5 days challenge. Really i think show her signing the divorce for real this time. Let her get a job, get rohani as best friends, yuvraj trying to still get her back and have a proper triangle btw these 3. Unfortunate the writers of this show i have no hope from them but if they just have her reject him i would be their fan forever just once let her say no or she isn't to sure what she wants instead of making it as plain as day that if he throws her a crumb she will run. But i have a feeling this is just a race to the birla house and dadi. If anything they should keep the drama at lata and pankaj we get a more balanced show and see every1.

loved each and every post of urs, sandia...especially the mirror part...its just true...