People, why does Yuvraj adore Dadi?

Hey everyone!

Till now, I have been really confused with Yuvraj's blind love for Dadi, so maybe you guys can help me out with understanding it.

Why exactly does Yuvraj adore Dadi?

Number of people Dadi mistreats-
1. Suhani
2. Pratima
3. Sharad
4. Ramesh
5. Pretty much the whole world

He sees Dadi being ultra-rude to Suhani, Sharad and Pratima and thinks nothing of it. Scratch that, she practically humiliates them.

Sharad: Calls him his best friend, yet doesn't stand up for him when he is called a mooch and stays quiet despite knowing how hurt Sharad feels.

Pratima: The supposed person Yuvraj loves the most. This is the most difficult one to understand as Yuvraj may forgive Dadi for humiliating Sharad and Suhani as she is the matriarch of the family, but why doesn't he object to Pratima being castigated like this? We have been repeatedly told that she is the person he loves the most and would do anything for her, but when she is being insulted, he chooses to remain quiet. 😕

Suhani: This one is very unfair because he says he doesn't want to be with Suhani and at the same time he allows her to be thrown under the bus by Dadi. She doesn't even try to be civil to Suhani. Calling her "Ae ladki" and has no concern for her feelings.

So, what is the reason for his silence? Does he not care how Dadi treats his loved ones? Is it only about how he is treated? Turning a blind eye to someone's wrongdoings shows lack of initiative.

Also, in your opinion- is it right for Dadi to run amok just because she's the oldest? Why does Indian culture say that the eldest is correct, no matter how objectionable or unacceptable their conduct is?

Bring it on, guys. 😃

Awesome post Apurva I think he has been programmed into being like this sometimes when a person is soo used of seeing another person behave in a certain manner they just get used to it, they accept it and dnt think there is anything wrong with the persons behavior. But the problem with him is that when he is watching and listening to whatever is going on he isn't even disgusted with what is being said for instance the whole shirt incident he heard his dadi say the most awful things but he wasn't even affected by it but when souyma told Suhani that they were the same u saw the disgust. This shows an outsider/ insider mentality he can see what an outsider is doing but not so much what his family is doing. But the thing is he is very much aware of her meanness, his sils meanness but coz of Pratima and Sharad both have become accustomed to living like this and show no eagerness to want to say enough is enough it now seems like he now expects the same thing of Suhani. He probably expects to be the 1 to offer them comfort and make them feel better and that's it coz that's all he has been doing his whole life. I dnt know maybe he has a doormat personality not for himself but rather for those who he loves if that is possible.

And again amazing post coz 1 has got to wonder what it is about dadi that would allow him to allow her to disrespect his mom, his brother coz sharad is no less than a brother to him, he has had to make him a friend coz of her but he is probably closer to him than his own brothers. And now his wife although Suhani doesn't really count at the moment not coz he doesn't love her but rather coz he knows her the least longest although that still isn't reason enough for him not to protect her.

And then whenever Suhani does something wrong he keeps saying he just wants peace. It's like he is mentally not prepared he cnt manage to do anything he just wants to go through the emotions of living and his insistence of peace, unity, his family and dadi being the best thing since sliced bread was introduced is all he is willing to take on. But also there was a scene when they 1^st got married and Suhani stood up for his mom and the way he looked at her he was happy that she did so and the few scenes where he stood up against dadi when she told Suhani something it showed he wasn't afraid of her. But now we have scenes of him not confronting dadi and fighting back when she is saying stuff to Suhani but rather when he has proof like the whole accident issue telling them nicely off or in todays episode him using the shirt proudly. I dnt know I am confused maybe he has changed his methods lol I think maybe coz of the whole Pratima issue that he is playing it safe but I didn't watch the week when that whole drama was going on.

And then his brothers although we dnt see much interaction of them with dadi but they are very much aware of what she is like Saurabh looks like he is probably waiting to have a reason to rebel, he is disgusted with his families behavior towards Suhani. Is them seeing her for what she is, is it coz they are not the golden child and why is yuvraj the golden child him and Saurabh for me are equal and Saurabh is the eldest, he is fairer than him so what makes him any less then yuvraj who is seen as the more capable 1 they all dnt go to work. And more so both brothers are very much aware of their wife's personalities and natures and if we are to belief that Yuvraj ideology is that fairness/beauty equates with kindness, homeliness, goodness than why dnt they have the same belief? And more so shouldn't they be more close to Pratima considering that they probably have more of her nature and shouldn't they be closer to sharad coz at the moment it seems like only Yuvraj takes sharad to be his relative.

But this confused soul doesn't only need to deal with a head and a heart matter but rather his ideologies what does he actually believe in if u think about it his close crowd is what his dadi would term a bunch of losers that includes his mother, snoopy, sharad and obviously Suhani and even his car. Plus the way he lives it seems to be quite simply I dnt see flashy jewelery, expensive cars, his eating style its very basic he doesn't often go to parties he stays with snoopy all the time playing fetch. And is he innately good or innately mean I do feel like he is also the sort of character like souyma who if totally influenced(not that somu is influenced) can go a bit mad.

But really I dnt get why all 3 sons are like this especially when it comes to work they not bad boys they quite humble and I dnt understand especially Saurabh's reasons for not standing up and leading the way and telling the old hag off when she does something.

Personally at times it's as if the man has no backbone.. there is only so many times one can tolerate his confused,, annoyed,, frustrated.. along with irritated expressions when he never voices his opinion especially when his loved one's are being falsely accused over serious issues..

I truly want to know why Pratima cant stand up for herself I accept the grandmother is the head of this family hence they believe bowing to her pathetic expectations is respectful but none of them are capable of seeing the bigger picture.. her vicious tongue does nothing but hurt their loved one's and there is nothing wrong with telling one they are out of line irrespective of their age.. if you want to be respectful take her to the side and explain your point of view but here we get absolutely nothing she plots and plans and they watch from the sidelines...it's getting annoying as well as repetitive..

As for Yuvraj I tend to keep my expectations low where he is concerned the man cant' even deign to speak up for the women he puts above all else and we expect him to take a stand for Suhani.. the worst thing is that he has no problem standing by while the evil trio mock the man he treats like a brother at least have the nerve to say something for a friend who has done more for his mother then he has where dadi is concerned..!!!

@ sandiab I agree

Unfortunately his actions have been tainted by past interactions his loved one's have always taken the verbal abuse hence he doesn't see a reason to put up a fight against it.. deep down he is aware of his surrounding it's simply a matter of accepting the circumstances..he needs to start thinking for himself..!!

Awesome answer, Sandi!👏👏⭐️ I think your explanation is correct. Yuvraj is a pacifist who avoids conflict, so he shuts up partly out of irritation and partly out of mental fatigue. As you said, he's been programmed to behave this way since childhood and has an outsider/insider mindset regarding Dadi. He probably thinks that Dadi has the right to do/say anything she wants because she's the eldest and the family matriarch. So, if she says anything nasty to Sharad and Suhani, they should excuse it because of her age. He believes that this is Dadi's personality and there is no way to change it now. I agree with you that he has been doing this whole life, so there is no incentive for him to change. He has been conditioned now to just ignore Dadi's comments and avoid conflict.

About him saying he wants peace, it's a way of running away from problems. You're right that he is not mentally prepared to deal with the kind of family he has and just wants to lead a quiet and conflict-free life. However, he shouldn't avoid standing up for what is right just because of this trait. He seems to just want the rosy side of being part of a family but is not willing to deal with the thorns too. He's just too vested into having the easy life. Granted, he wants a happy family life, but he should understand that not addressing these problems is just sweeping it under the carpet; it doesn't mean these issues have been resolved.

Yuvraj should understand that you can't keep ignoring a wound for too long, otherwise it becomes infected. He should deal with Dadi's acerbic attitude because it is hurting his loved ones. This is too ignorant a attitude to have.
Also, yeah, he actually had more of a backbone in the early days of their marriage- remember him getting into a cold war with Dadi over Suhani. Now, he seems to have lost that fighting spirit.

Absolutely, there is no quantifiable reason for Yuvraj being the favourite, so it has to be qualitative. Yuvraj is shown to be the one who pays the most attention to their family life, out of the three. He is always fussing over Pratima and Dadi, and that's what makes him the favourite. TBH, this whole favourite child thing makes me uncomfortable. Shouldn't all children be loved equally? Usually the eldest is the favourite, but not so the case here. In fact, middle children often complain of being ignored. I think it's a detail the CVs have just put out there and we have to accept it, since we haven't seen their childhood years.

He is definitely a confused soul who needs to get his priorities right. I mentioned in another post, that his story with Suhani is not just about their love but also his own personal growth from being superficial and shallow to a level headed guy. So, I hope we see his blind adoration of Dadi extinguished and see him actually resolving conflicts and protecting the ones he loves.

We now need to see his warrior side- the one which fights for Suhani and Co against Dadi and her minions.

Apurva, nice post.
Tbh I've been asking the same question to myself for a really long time now and I couldn't bring myself a satisfactory answer. I think he just doesn't want to make Dadi unhappy by going against her. At times I desperately wanted him to stand up for Suhani and Sharad but he just turned a deaf ear to those heart piercing words of Dadi. And as far as Pratima is concerned, I have noticed that Dadi usually avoids creating a scene in front of Yuvraj. Many times she asks Pratima to come to her room and there she goes with her unguarded villainous self. So Yuvraj really didn't notice much of that. I think it's mostly because of his upbringing and out of respect he stays out of it which is definitely wrong.

Originally posted by: ...Binny...

Personally at times it's as if the man has no backbone.. there is only so many times one can tolerate his confused,, annoyed,, frustrated.. along with irritated expressions when he never voices his opinion especially when his loved one's are being falsely accused over serious issues..

I truly want to know why Pratima cant stand up for herself I accept the grandmother is the head of this family hence they believe bowing to her pathetic expectations is respectful but none of them are capable of seeing the bigger picture.. her vicious tongue does nothing but hurt their loved one's and there is nothing wrong with telling one they are out of line irrespective of their age.. if you want to be respectful take her to the side and explain your point of view but here we get absolutely nothing she plots and plans and they watch from the sidelines...it's getting annoying as well as repetitive..

As for Yuvraj I tend to keep my expectations low where he is concerned the man cant' even deign to speak up for the women he puts above all else and we expect him to take a stand for Suhani.. the worst thing is that he has no problem standing by while the evil trio mock the man he treats like a brother at least have the nerve to say something for a friend who has done more for his mother then he has where dadi is concerned..!!!

@ sandiab I agree

Unfortunately his actions have been tainted by past interactions his loved one's have always taken the verbal abuse hence he doesn't see a reason to put up a fight against it.. deep down he is aware of his surrounding it's simply a matter of accepting the circumstances..he needs to start thinking for himself..!!

Sorry for the late reply, Binny. Hit my daily post limit as soon as I replied to Sandi. 🥱

Agree with you. Yuvraj's expression- 😕. Me when he has that expression- 😡. Yuvraj needs to become more proactive in public- I want to see serious anger the next time Suhani is insulted this way.

Why Pratima doesn't stand up for herself is beyond my understanding. After all, she has the support of her three sons, so it's not like no one has her back. I think that there is some dark secret involving Yuvraj's dad which is why Dadi mistreats Pratima that the CVs will reveal later- probably the secret to Pratima's beaten down personality.

The way they deal with Dadi is a very typical Indian TV approach that irritates me a lot. So what if she is the eldest? Technically, she should be held more accountable for her actions then since she has tons of experience to enable her to tell right from wrong. Just because of accident of birth, should she be allowed to hurt people immensely? As you said, if someone is wrong, they should be called out on it- no matter their age, status etc. This sickens me.

Yuvraj needs to be exposed to the full extent of Dadi's vile scheming. Also, he needs to start trusting Suhani more. I agree that we'll probably have to keep our expectations low from him, at least in the near future.

Originally posted by: DelusionalMe

Apurva, nice post.
Tbh I've been asking the same question to myself for a really long time now and I couldn't bring myself a satisfactory answer. I think he just doesn't want to make Dadi unhappy by going against her. At times I desperately wanted him to stand up for Suhani and Sharad but he just turned a deaf ear to those heart piercing words of Dadi. And as far as Pratima is concerned, I have noticed that Dadi usually avoids creating a scene in front of Yuvraj. Many times she asks Pratima to come to her room and there she goes with her unguarded villainous self. So Yuvraj really didn't notice much of that. I think it's mostly because of his upbringing and out of respect he stays out of it which is definitely wrong.

Hey Neha! 😃

Yeah, a lot of people seem to have this kind of blind love for their family members where they disregard their wrongdoings. It's selective processing. Yuvraj has a very Indian approach to Dadi's behaviour- he believes that she can behave the way she wants because she's the eldest. However, he needs to understand that other people have feelings too, not just Dadi.

Yeah, I agree that Dadi isn't as abrasive with Pratima as she is with Suhani in public, but I can remember instances where she rudely dismissed something Pratima said in front of everyone. Yuvraj has been living with them his entire life, so it's hard for me to believe that he isn't aware of her opinion of Pratima. Hopefully, there will be some crisis which helps him change.