Originally posted by: Astoria
Guys,I was just surfing online and came across this article on a blog.I thought to share it here.😊
Sita Abandonment: No matter which way one looks, Ram was NEVER a bad husband
In today's world, it is unimaginable for anyone to value anything that is not one's own - relative or asset - more than that which is consider "own". So, when a King gave someone a wish to ask anything of him and if that person asked for the King's flesh, or to banish his first born, he wouldn't think twice. Yes, it wasn't fair on his son, who had absolutely nothing to do with the whole incident of his Father's granting of the wish, but he too, as per the societal norms simply leave everything behind to live in a jungle for 14 years.
When Prince Ram left his Kingdom to go live in the forest, the King didn't send his choicest goodies for his pleasure. His life - and that of Sita and Lakshman - who had joined him out of their own volition despite Ram's protests - was miserable and tough - from others' viewpoint, but he lived it with utmost Grace and love.
When Ram married Sita, the first thing he did was to vow that unlike others in that age and time, he will remain steadfastly a One-woman-Man. Never will be set his eyes on anyone and never will be marry anyone. He didn't demand anything of Sita, he just took it upon himself to set the context of his marriage and his conduct in there.
Sita, out of her love and felt duty - and despite protests from Ram to stay back accompanied him everywhere in the forest and gave her all to that relationship. Ram, on the other hand, loved her more than he loved anyone. Respected her more than he respected anyone. He would run and beget things at a moment's notice at the whim of Sita. No matter what he did, his first and foremost concern was always Sita and not him or Lakshman. Although he never wanted, yet his agreeing to take Sita along with him to the forest was more to agree to her wishes as opposed to force his own decision on her. Once the situation took the shape where Sita accompanied him, he was duty-bound and also love-bound to care for her over and above himself and his own brother. Which he did.
If one has to view the relationship of Ram and Sita, it has to be viewed in the substantive context of how they lived, loved, cared and respected for each other from the time of their marriage to the time they came back to Ayodhya.
Ram's character today is being maligned because of his abandoning of Sita after they returned back from the forest and she was pregnant.
It is important to understand Ram's action in context of who he was and what relationship he had with Sita all along. It is outrageous to evaluate his whole life and person on the basis of one action, which may have been understood out of context by someone who has never even read the story fully!