@supriya all problems of people like Surpi and Ravan stems from the need to control. To own, to possess. It comes from the complete lack of knowledge of Prakriti. Try holding sand too tight. It will slip through fingers. Try holding water with force. It will also slip. Fire you cant fold your hands with fire, wind you cant even see, sky you cant reach. When you cant hold the 5 elements in your folded hand, what will you hold. When we chase something this is what we should ask. If it ours it will come to us. No matter what. If it doesn't it was never meant to be.
@savitha Good analogy. For me Ram lifting that grass( It is grass right not twig. I heard Trin) shows the value he gives for Jayanth. Same thing Sita will do with Ravan. He will show his value in front of her as that of grass.
Now coming to yesterday episode. I told it as hidden knowledge. Why hidden knowledge. Sita hides the info of Jayanth from Ram. It is hiding intentionally for a reason.
Truth is hidden from Sugreeva in Kishkinda. First let us take Sugreev and Tara. Sugreev comes and tells Bali is dead. he tells he heard the sound, saw the blood and then he closed the mouth of the cave to Tara. Yesterday I was talking about visual proof. When does visual proof becomes important. In cases like that of Bali. Bali has a boon that he will get half his opponent's strength in direct battle. He himself is a great warrior. How can a nimble Mayavi kill such a warrior. Neither Sugreev, nor Tara thinks in this direction. Blood is taken as the visual proof.
Why didn't Tara ask Sugreev did he see his brother dying. Did he see Mayavi killing his brother. She could have believed in his existence. She could have avoided wearing the widow's dress and told that since it is not seen Bali is dead she believes him to be alive. She could have told Sugreev to be a care taker king. She could have given hope to everyone. When Bali comes if Tara was dressed like a queen, the MU would have been avoided. She would have told that she asked Sugreev to be the care taker king as she felt someone had cheated Sugreev and she believed that her husband was alive. A respected Tara in queen's dress would have made Bali trust his brother's claim that he was mistaken. Someone cheated them both. Tara could have been the visual proof of Sugreev's innocence.
Here Tara too commits the mistake. Though she behaves rightly like a queen not taking the throne or not keeping her young son angad in the throne, a simple trust on her side would have gone long way in the harmony of Kishkinda. And look at her by wearing the garb of a widow she is inviting that destiny to herself.
Ravan appears more intelligent than the kishkinda queen and Sugreev as he suspects Bali's death. He asks Meghanad to be sure his information is reliable. That message will once again come to Ravan. Death of Bali. And it is not Meghnad's person who did it, but 2 sanyasis with a pact with Sugreev. Lanka is going to fear from that moment. Fear will seep and with Hanuman's entry in Lanka that fear will become panic, and with Ram and vanar sena crossing the ocean mayhem will be there in Lanka.
If Tara's mistake is unintentional, Sita commits intentional mistake. She withholds the information of a man troubling her from her husband. Look at how Jayanth intrapreted it. This is what happens in real life also. Sita didn't tell the fact about her marriage because she didn't feel it necessary and she didn't tell Ram because she didn't want any war. But believe me in real life also if you withhold such information it will create problems only. Possessive idiots like Jayanth always mis interpret it. Today Sita was hit in her feet and in real life men like Jayanth pour acids on faces for rejection, shoot at point, rape and what not. Yesterday Ram send him away. Today even that is not possible. Was just reading the verdict on Keenan and Reuben murder case. The boys who were killed because they tried to protect the girls in their group being molested. And it is not different for the friend of Nirbhaya who was the eye witness to the brutality that happened to his friend while he was bound and beaten.
Alertness, proper communication and analytical ability is the need of the hour for today's woman. It is needed not only to protect herself, but also the right man and also the world in general. Never hide information. Never fear. Speak clearly. She could have clearly told Jayanth that she is a married woman. And she could have told Ram about Jayanth. Sometimes we don't tell because we fear more restrictions will be placed on us. Or we will be blamed. Parents don't realize that in their eagerness to protect their child sometimes the child will not share the right information and by the time people know it, it will be far too late in the game.
There is a Malayalam movie Note Book released somewhere in 2006 or 2007 which dealt with teenage pregnancy and how the fear of society ended up changing 4 lives forever.
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